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Feminism is not about who opens the jar. It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family. It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works. But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it.

1) Learn to put on your bracelets and zip up your dresses by yourself. There will be times when you will be alone. 2) Get on a long plane ride. Look out the window. Understand the immensity of our world. Understand your insignificance. Understand your absolute importance. 3) Press the send button. If you don’t say it now, you never will. 4) Do not sneer at happiness or roll your eyes at sadness. Be aware that apathy is not healthy. 5) You are more than the amount of people who want to have sex with you. 6) That pit in your stomach when he doesn’t text you back, it shouldn’t be there. No one should be able to control you like that. 7) Shopping is cathartic. Buy the shoes and deal with one-ply toilet paper for a while. 8) It will get better, but it will never be perfect. Learn to live through the small moments of happiness. When they disappear, remember they will resurface. 9) I promise that cookie will not change anything (except that it will make you smile). 10) Please, please, take care of yourself. You are everything to somebody. You are everything to your self. That alone is enough.