Since this is the first post about Game of Thrones, and because Iâm going to be throwing some people and places at you, let me first give a small overview of the world of GoT.Â
Also, obviously, spoilers.
There are two main continents. One continent, called Westeros, is made up of the 7 Realms (kingdoms that were conquered and brought together under the current regime). The other has never been united and canât be named altogether. The important thing to know about these two different regions, is that they are very separate and opposing systems.  Westeros, is more âcivilizedâ and âadvanced,â while across the great sea, there are slavers and barbarians, and many more mystic things that are beyond comprehension.
We are mainly going to be talking about people in Westeros. There are two key characters that are the focus of sexual orientation issues in the show.  Loras Tyrell, who is a knight from a wealthy and important family in one of the ârealms.â  And Oberyn Martell, a prince of another ârealm.â  I will also touch on one other character Yara, a woman, from yet another realm.
As this is a medieval type of world, it is important to remember that these characters, although the show is written in modern times, the characters think in medieval ways. Â This is important because it allows us to compare how we think now, to how the world used to think, and particularly how thought changed and developed to become what it is today. Â With all of this in mind, we may be able to say that the writers are trying to incorporate the two ways of thinking, or even if that wasnât their intention, we as viewers can interpret it this way.
Letâs start with Loras. Â Loras, is gay and since the beginning of the series he was in an relationship with the then kingâs brother Renly Baratheon. Â Loras, became and used his status as a Knight, a very masculine position, to defy the rumors of his sexual relationships. Â In medieval times, sexuality was not a defined concept, it was not a label placed on a person as a whole, but simply on an act, or a set of acts that they did (or were rumored to do). Â This is why a character in this time could say that Loras Tyrell had with sex men but they still would not define him by that. They would still expect him to marry a woman.
So long as there is an heir to be got, most people donât truly care what a man does in his bedroom. Â They may gossip and whisper but nothing more harmful. In the most recent episodes, a certain religious group gained power and convicted Loras, but this is an extremist religious-based reaction, and did not reflect the general public opinion. Up until recently, Loras was the most prominent and long-surviving character of LGBTQ quality.
Oberyn Martell. A beloved character, gone too soon, much too swoon, I mean soon, I definitely meant soon. Â Oberyn Martell was much more successful than Loras in living in the world of politics in Westeros with similar sexual desires and actions based on three things, his home region of Dorne, his renown fighting skill, and his higher (prince) status. Â In todayâs terms he would be considered a bisexual character. Â He has a significant other, a women, and they are devoted to each other, with children, but not married. Â
Through him we learn that Dorne, his kingdom, is a much more open and one might even say liberal place.  This is reflected, not only in his sexual practices, (his relationship with a woman who is a âbastard,â and with other men and women) but also through his opinions on âbastards.â  Bastards, a child born illegitamitely, outside of marriage, are looked down upon in much of Westeros.  All throughout the seven realms, bastards are identified by their surnames (family or last names) simply by the fact that they donât have one.  Because of their illegitimate status, they are denied their family names, and instead given one from the region (i.e. John Snow, Ellaria Sand, etc.). He makes it clear that bastards are just as respected in Dorne.
Although Loras Tyrell was a well respected knight, he was called the Knight of the Flowers, because of his family sigil  (crest/symbol), which is a golden flower.  While this title celebrates his masucline knighthood, it also feminizes it with the image of flowers.  Oberyn, however, seems to be more famed, partly because of his status and partly because of his fighting skills, with particular weapons and strategies.  He is known as the Red Viper, because he is very light and quick on his feet.  While knighthood is masculine, it is less so in the case of a high class knight who jousts simply for entertainment and fame, especially when compared to man who has acquired a name for himself by his skill in actual battles.
Lastly, thereâs the simple fact that he is a prince, which stands him above a more average, wealthy knight.  This status gives him leverage, power, and influence.  Since the relationship between Dorne and the Kingdom is also not entirely stable, they are less likely to gossip about him and anger him.  However, that is not to say that he is ashamed of his actions. In\ of his more known scenes, when told everyone has a preference (between men and women) he states that âThen everyone is missing half the world's pleasure. The Gods made that (motions to Ellaria[F] and Marei[F]), and it delights me. The Gods made this (spanks Olyvar's[M] bottom), and it delights me. When it comes to war I fight for Dorne, when it comes to love... I don't choose sidesâ
Last, and sort of least, is Yara (seen walking in the gif above), a women from the Iron Islands (another realm of Westeros) and who has become her fatherâs(the kingâs) favorite and heir, and a respected captain (of ships and crews). Â Yara, not only breaks gender norms by becoming the heir (more on that in a following post), but also gave us one of few glimpses of female homosexuality. Â Once again, it is not fair to categorize these characters in strict terms, just because she may have engaged in sex with a woman, does not make her a lesbian. Because these are the terms we work with today, it can be difficult to place yourself in a separate mentality.
The reason I bring up Yara at all is that the show is very obvious in its depiction of male sexual relationships but not as much with women.
(Although there is a large amount of female prostitutes in the show, and in fact, this exactly the type of woman that Yara is seen with, theyâre partners are not their choice, and so I consider them less, although they are important, so I will cover them in another post.)
There is a scene much before this where another character, Lorasâs sister who is set to marry the King, makes an allusion to potential same-sex desires in herself. Â âSome women like tall men, some like short men. Some like hairy men, some like bald men. Gentle men, rough men, ugly men, pretty men... Pretty girls! Most women don't know what they like until they've tried. And, sadly, so many of us get to try so little before we're old and grey...â She is saying here that itâs a shame that women are not able or allowed to explore their sexuality in this time. Â She speaks particularly, though, about women in high stations, whose virginity is valued much more than lower class women, and women of different societies.
Yara is for sure, a woman of a different society. Â One can interpret her in two different ways. In her fatherâs lack of sons, has she taken up the role of a man to make her father proud. Â Or has her freedom of station, and family, as well as status in a highly masculine society (of the Iron Islands), made her free to have this experience of exploration and the freedom to choose who and what she wants.
These characters all lead us to different interpretations. Â How important is freedom, and status in the expression of sexual desire? Â In todayâs world, how would these characters fair? Better or worse?
There is so much more to be said on Game of Thrones, and while I know this was a lot, I hope youâre still with me, and I hope you check out my following posts on gender, and race in the world of GoT.