Melanated Alchemy 🌌✨for your Lower 🔮 Higher Self

Secrets of lovers who don't break up

1. They know how to say sorry and mean it

2. And they don't hold on to grudges.

3. They don't make assumptions about their partner's feelings - they ask.

4. They make time for physical affection.

5. They stand together and refuse to let outsiders call the shots.

6. They don't play games with each other's heads and hearts.

7. They keep dating and treat date night as a sacred ritual.

8. They make daily sacrifices for each other.

9. They refuse to play the blame game.

10. They start as equal partners, and they stay equal.

11. They cuddle.

12. They regularly make important decisions together.

13. They always kiss good night - don't go to bed mad.

14. They give thoughtful surprises.

15. They always have each other's back.

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Thee Naked Truth: A good man becomes a BETTER man when the right woman supports him.

You are beyond precious and you deserve only the best.

Never lower your standards, attract those who are aligned with your values and ideals.

You’re never asking for too much, Only what you deserve 😌, remember that!

The “Angry Dark Skin Friend”

There’s a common pattern in many forms of black media where there are 2 black female characters who are friends or sisters, one being lighter in skintone, while the other is darker. Even though darkskin and lightskin women form friendships all the time, the way they’re commonly depicted in Black Media is what stands out and perpetuates certain stereotypes:

1. in the film/show/etc, the main character/focus of the 2 is typical the lighter skin woman

2. this makes the darker skin woman the “sidekick”

3. the lighter skin woman is portrayed as prettier, nicer, “classier”, more reserved, and/or overall more likeable and desirable

4. the darker skin woman is portrayed as shady, mean, loud, desperate, abrasive, aggressive, and/or overall less attractive (many would say “ghetto”)

These photos show just a few examples that came to mind…

Coming to America (1988) - The darker skin sister was more desperate for a man, chasing after Prince Akeem, Simi, and even her sister’s ex-fiancé. In the frame of society’s norms, this would be seen as “fast”, “tacky” or lacking in morals, which would therefore, make her less fitting to be a wife.

House Party (1990) - The darker skin friend (AJ Johnson) was the louder, more outgoing friend who was ready to date both Kid & Play, whereas Tisha Campbell’s character was more timid, and ended up being Kid’s “better suited” love interest.

Martin (1992-1997) - Once again, Tisha Campbell is playing the main female character, Gina Waters, and love interest to the main character, Martin Payne. While Gina is depicted as a kinder, classier, professional, “wifey” type, her best friend/assistant Pamela James, played by Tichina Arnold, is depicted as a loud, angry, man-less, berating black woman with “buckshots” and “beedeebees” in her “horse” hair, who was constantly butting heads with Martin.

Proud Family (2001-2005) - Penny, the lighter skin girl, was the main character with Dijonay, the darker skin girl, as the friend/sidekick. Dijonay had a less “traditional” name, as did her many siblings, was portrayed as louder, having more attitude, and was constantly chasing after Sticky, a boy who not only didn’t want her, but preferred the lighter skin friend, Penny.