Without fail, every time a woman is talking about how she does not want to have children and never wants to be pregnant and how medical professionals, romantic interests and family members keep trying to bulldoze her decision and keep expecting her to change her mind because motherhood is something that is expected of all women and it is abhorrent to think a woman could not desire it, a random mother spawns in the comments to be like “Well, actually, you never know! I didn’t want children and then I got pregnant and I realized I love being a mama and I have five little babies now! Could happen to you! 🥰”
Sister, keep that to yourself or make your own goddamn post, you are ignoring that woman’s central concern and belittling her, you don’t even think you’re doing it. Formerly childfree women who ended up having children and loving it are like detransitioners in the sense that there is nothing inherently wrong with changing your mind about having children or realizing you were mistaken about your gender identity but immediately weaponizing your indecision to tell people that the barriers to healthcare and the violations of their bodily autonomy and the way society ignores that person’s wishes is actually okay because you were wrong. Some people do know themselves.
Spawning in to be the opposite of the woman described in the post and to say that it is so. Fucking. Exhausting the endless tirade of “You never know!” “You might change your mind!” “Well your boyfriend/husband might want one!” “What if you fall for a guy that wants children?” (Bonus point if you’re not straight)
Which hurts all the more when you think about how young girls who are so excited to have children one day and fantasize about becoming a mom do not get an ounce of this treatment, no one tells them “You might change your mind” or “It’s too soon to know for certain” cause that’s The Correct Path To Take apparently
I’ve had a relative tell me straight up they were afraid that if I constructed my whole personality around being childfree one day I might wake up, realize I suddenly wanted children but feel too pigeonholed in my childfree persona to do anything about it. Hey bud, you know what worse than that? Actually having children and than realizing you made a mistake and regretting your decision. There’s no undo button on motherhood
