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- Maybe, Maybe Not

Effective, quick, works for a variety of scenarios. Will x bad thing happen??? Maybe, maybe not. Am I x??? Maybe, maybe not.

- Nope/Nuh uh/I don’t think so

Rejects the premise itself. Shuts down thoughts, but may need to be used repeatedly. Taking a silly tone can help.

- I’ll deal with things as they come, if they come

Allows for ambiguity. Not every bad thought it completely fictional, so it’s okay to admit that something difficult may happen. Worrying only makes you suffer twice, so let yourself worry when it’s warranted.

- Being good at worrying doesn’t make me good at predicting the future

We are great at thinking. We are not so great at thinking accurately about what will happen. Yes many things can happen, but imagination isn’t reality. Let reality happen without trying to figure it all out ahead of time.

- I know myself and so I trust I won’t do that

This works better as you build more self confidence. It’s important to remember that when distressed by thoughts of ways you might be bad that these are not real. If you know in this moment you don’t wish to do those things, try to wipe away a hypothetical in which you suddenly change into a worse person and do them. Trust your knowledge of yourself over your imagination.

- That’s a silly thing to worry over

Minimizes overblown fears. Doesn’t work for everything, but can absolutely help shut down the times where we find ourselves overthinking something rather ridiculous.

"i bet everyone thinks i'm really annoying, i should leave all the communities i'm in!" okay. but give it a day.

"oh god what if i said something that could get me canceled and forgot? i should delete all my social media!" okay. but give it a day.

"what if my best friend secretly hates me? i should ask her a bunch of times to make sure!" okay. but give it a day.

"i need to google my symptoms again or check the OCD tag on tumblr to make sure i really have OCD and am not faking it!" well hi! no judgement, i do that all the time, but maybe next time give it a day

even if she doesn't "try to pass" she still deserves the same basic respect you give everybody else.

even if she's done something bad that doesn't excuse you misgendering her on purpose.

i'm so sick of people treating trans people's pronouns as some kind of reward you get if you've been a good tranny.

this goes for those who use neopronouns too i dont care how "weird" you think it is especially if you're trans yourself.

“I’m probably not saying that correctly”/“sorry for my pronunciation” = 👍 understandable! foreign languages often have sounds that aren’t used in English and learning to correctly pronounce unfamiliar phonemes is genuinely difficult even with help

“lol I’m not even gonna TRY to pronounce that 😂” = 👎 THIS is the problem, if treats languages other than English like they are inherently ‘weird’ or ‘overly complicated’ just because you aren’t familiar with them