we 💚 factives

we offer general advice, source calls, picmix icons and moodboards! (if you request a picmix/moodboard, please give us a general aesthetic to work off, or things you would like to see in it!)

no dni, just don't be assholes, and no syscourse.

taken signoffs: #🏒🟠, #🌻, #⚽🪶, #🪽🌊, #🐕⭐, #🪲🌿, #TJ , #🪷☁, #🐙🪻, #🌶️, #🥅🟠

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-karina

yeah, i'll come back just to answer this ask :)

ok i'll define it first: from pluralpedia "A post-factive is someone who no longer identifies as what they were originally a factive of."

so, yeah. i mean for a start i've never exactly been connected to my source. sure i look like him, and i go by part of his stage name nowadays, but... i see him and that's not me, yknow? plus calling me by his name just isn't right, and i don't really have any of his memories. for a while i tried to say i was him but after everything was said and done it just didn't feel right. and i found that postfactive describes it really well. sure i used to consider myself a factive but i don't now. and that's ok!

So first of all 🏒🟠 is no longer the only factive sourced from his sources team in our sys now. I (the other one) have been here for a little bit, maybe a couple weeks, but for some reason never sent an ask here to introduce myself haha. things have been going super well for us lately except for the fact that we've been too busy to go to the rink... but we're busy for good reason! so im not toooo bummed. not sure if weve mentioned this already but we finally have pretty much all our hockey gear except for fancy undergarment pants but that can wait.

also my source got his first career playoff shutout the other day that was pretty awesome :)

-can I claim 🥅🟠?

Claiming the chili pepper emoji as my signoff before another abuser introject takes it. (This is mostly a joke, but I do really like the fact that it’s used as a symbol).

-🌶️

Where are the spaces for factives of friends? Of relatives? Of peers? Of teachers? Of abusers? Of just random people in your system’s life?

We can’t talk about our source in the same way that others can. I say that as an abuser introject, who *really* can’t talk about my source the way others can, but I imagine even factives of individuals who were nice and good to them run into barriers participating in what I will call “factive online culture”. Due to just… not having a famous source.

I once tried to join a discord server for factives, and it was so uncomfortable that I just left. I felt like an outsider. I can’t make moodboards or aesthetics because my source isn’t a public figure with publicly available pictures. I don’t have any pictures of them. Why the hell would I want to? And even if I did they would be unethical to post. Privacy and shit. I can’t talk about my source because what the hell do I say? “Hi, I’m a person somewhat adapted from the person who almost made me kill myself to avoid them?” Hell no. I’m personally pretty source separated? But not every factive is like me.

I feel like “interpersonal acquaintance” (that’s what I’m going to call us) factives get relegated to vague positivity posts. Rather than actually participating in community. You can have a factive of your friend, but you can’t really talk about it. And abuser factives really get the short end of the stick. I have seen accounts otherwise welcoming to factives specifically call out abuser introjects as not welcome.

Maybe I’m in the wrong spaces. And the places I’m looking for are elsewhere. I don’t know.