All Things Jack of Spades

How can you care more about the inches that hang between our legs than that of the heart that beats in our chest?

How can you suck a black dick then go to a klan rally with nut still on your breath?

How can you kneel between our legs, but find a problem with us kneeling in protest over racial injustice?

How can you swallow BLK SPRM daily, but not swallow your own pride and stand WITH the black community to fight against racial and social injustices facing the very community you love to secretly “serve?”

“DON’T OPEN YOUR MOUTH FOR BLACK DICK... BUT KEEP IT CLOSED FOR BLACK ISSUES!”

Because men in general suck my dick better than women and white men seem to love black dick more than all the other flavors of dick, so it just makes sense, since I have a black dick.

White boy came over last night just to sleep with my dick in his mouth… all night long. Best night’s sleep of my life and he enjoyed it thoroughly too. I nutted at least 3 times (2 while I was sleep) and he got a little bit of morning piss (at his request).

White guys request to sleep with your black guy’s dick in your mouth and nurse on like a baby with a bottle.

I know there’s a lot of really heavy and intense things on Tumblr that reflect a fantasy world of BDSM. There’s a lot of people out there that will tell you that you have to obey without question. That you have to endure somebody treating you like shit because you’re a submissive. That you have to be an object.

I want to remind you that isn’t true. Most of the captions written on Tumblr would never be said in real life. I guarantee you that these people don’t have the balls to walk up to somebody and say that to them out of the blue. They thrive off of anonymity. It allows them to forget their Humanity.

Trust me, I understand there’s a time and a place for humiliation and degradation. But no human being deserves to be treated like that 24/7. We are social creatures. Our emotional and mental health needs affirmation at times.

Basically I’m trying to remind you that submission is a gift. To those of you that are new, you don’t have to put up with being treated poorly simply because somebody tells you that’s the way it is. It isn’t that way.

Sirs and subs reading this, this is my love letter to chastity. 

The first three weeks are always the hardest. 

If you are a white person who uses the n-word in your posts, I will unfollow you immediately. I don’t care if you’re a Jack of Spades, if your partner/Sir/Master/Dom/best friend/cousin is black, whatever. That word does not belong in your white mouth.

I’m starting to get really quite horny now. But I seem to have an uncontrollable urge to scroll through Tumblr porn. I can’t seem to stop making myself strain in my cage, even though I know I’ll get no release from it. It’s like I’m teasing myself and I can’t stop. I don’t think I’ve ever been this horny before - I’ve usually had a wank and released the tension by now.

As far as I can remember the longest I’ve gone without release was 13 days. I’d not been in the mood for a wank for about a week and I’d started to get horny. A friend was coming to stay with me the next week. I had a choice to wank now before she arrived or to wait another week and see how big my two-week load would be. I chose to wait and I got increasingly horny as the days went on. On her last night staying with me, mere hours before I waved her goodbye and edged myself into cum-soaked ecstasy, I had a wet dream. I didn’t really get to enjoy the release of built-up tension, although it was a huge load. I wonder how long it will be before I have a wet dream this time?

@gozirla commented on one of my journal entries how the cage has the amazing power to change you. He was talking about mental changes, but I’ve noticed physical changes too. Primarily the fact that my fag balls are ENORMOUS. I’ve never seen them so big and I’m loving it. The bulge in my trousers is bigger now I’m locked than it was when I was free 😂

I have had some mixed results with locking up a boy’s cock in a cage. For some, their cocks had been too large to comfortably fit into the cage. Some boys tried it and found metal and plastic cages just too uncomfortable. For one boy, he figured out that he could actually slip out of it at any time.

Having a lot of those troublesome experiences has lead me to the conclusion that there are people who just find the idea hot but it loses its luster in the execution. Conversely, the chastity players who have really found meaning in it, for whom it’s become a daily part of their life whether or not a Sir is their keyholder, find ways to make it work. And that is the key. Find how to make chastity work for you and understand and accept that your chastity play may not look exactly like what’s on tumblr, but is valid nonetheless if it gives you what you want to get out of the experience.

I write this article for readers who are interested in chastity but are having some difficulty with the standard lock and key. When the standard approach gets difficult, it’s time to get creative to find a way to make chastity play work for you!

- Shorter goals: The first adaptation to chastity play to make your goals more doable is simply to make the locked periods shorter. The denial makes the eventual orgasm sweeter anyways. You will see many players online bragging about the length of time they can stay locked. If that’s what gets them off more power to them, but if you just want to experience some denial for awhile and enjoy having sexual feelings enhanced due to the horny build up of not orgasming… then does it really matter if you’re locked till the weekend or till 2050? Hell, you may even eventually find a sweet spot where you stay locked up (for example) for 3 months at a time and that’s what works best for you. Your dominant might tease “Oh man, 2 more weeks till you’re out boy. It’s been a long 2.5 months so far. Remember when we watched porn each night for a week before bed? Good times.” If shorter goals are enjoyable and you get the experience out of it you want, DO WHAT WORKS.

- Key willpower: When the length of the goal isn’t an issue, often willpower is the big obstacle. Being so horny makes it hard to make the decision to stay locked. Where willpower is an issue dominants are often not involved in a chastity player’s life. The purpose of sealing away the key is to provide an obstacle which while not insurmountable gives you sufficient pause to reassert your willpower. There are two pretty reliable options:

Envelope: Put the key in an envelope, seal it, give it to a friend, and tell them to give it back to you in a week. If they ask about it you can make something up if you like. One of the favorite stories a submissive told his buddy was that he’d put a credit card in there he wanted to not be tempted to use until date X. His friend was more than happy to hold onto the key to the box with his credit card in it without ever realizing what the key actually unlocked.

Timed safe: This sounds like a much more expensive option than it is. One of the safes that have been making the rounds lately is a safe for kitchen use to help control temptations. I’ll include a link at the end of this section. You can just toss the key inside and set a time limit. The safes are about $55 so they’re not impossible to save for, but they’re also expensive enough for you to probably think twice before shattering it to get the key.

http://www.amazon.com/Kitchen-Safe-Locking-Container-Height/dp/B00E92JXHG

- Comfort: The holy trainer (link at the end) and metal cages are the two most comfortable cage types. If you are interested in a holy trainer, please consider that first off there will be some international shipping involved which is unsurprisingly expensive. Additionally, I the official website DOES NOT accept opened products for return. Be certain you get the right size before you order it. In light of that, I strongly suggest you take a trip to a sex store in your city or a local kinkster event and get fitted for a cage the first time you get one. You may have more options there in terms of what you can buy a sales person who can give advice, and the opportunity to talk about how active you’ll be in it, or some of the issues with comfort you’ve had. Lastly, if you aren’t already aware, chastity cages are generally most comfortable when you have little to no hair while wearing them as it reduces the likelihood of getting pinched or having hair pulled.

http://www.holytrainer.com/en/male-chastity-device.asp

- Sir’s orders: When Sirs are involved with chastity play, you can have a Sir leave you unlocked but absolutely forbid access to your own genitals without his supervision. I have been surprised how well this works for some people. They simply needed to be told no and that was all it took.

OBEY YOUR ALPHA FULLY This means going beyond the letter of what he says & getting to the spirit of it. Any slave can follow orders. You should expect more from yourself. At times, that may even include…

FEEL FREE TO QUESTION One big difference between a beta & a slave is that a beta is expected to think for himself. That means you’ll have questions sometimes. Ask away. If he doesn’t feel like explaining it, he’ll say so. If your question bugs you, he may punish you for asking. If he tells you to just shut up & do it, you will. But always keep yourself open to him, including staying intellectually bright & available. One important caveat to this is how you behave in public. In front of others there should be no questioning of what he says. This is because…

RESPECT IS PRIMARY He shouldn’t have to come up with elaborate rules to display your submission to him. It should be clear at all times, though it may be casual & unobtrusive, that you respect & surrender to his superior masculinity. However, without a set of rules to govern every situation…

EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED You’ve spent the last couple weeks hanging out with him like a buddy? That doesn’t mean that tonight he isn’t gonna suddenly get off on embarrassing & humiliating you, or rough you up a little & tell you to just take it, or do whatever the hell else he wants. Variety is the spice of life. Be ready to be his buddy, bitch, lover, partner, servant, or wingman as the situation and his mood dictate. And no matter what position you’re in at the moment…

BE PROUD OF WHAT HE’S MADE OF YOU He’s put work into developing you the way he likes you. It’s taken some thought & planning on his part to figure out how you can best meet his needs. Be proud of him for the work he’s put in, and remember to…

BE THANKFUL You get to be part of something bigger than yourself & he deserves thanks for letting you in on it. You can express your thanks through affection, gifts, maintenance, praise, & service. Be creative. Surprise him. Make him smile. But while you enjoy your bond with him…

JEALOUSY DOESN’T LOOK GOOD ON ANYONE There will never be reason for him to be jealous because your sexuality will be decided by him. But there should never be a reason for you to be jealous either. The whole point is him enjoying his masculinity, which means as long as he’s having fun, it doesn’t matter if it’s with you or someone else. So long as he’s developing some part of you for his enjoyment, it doesn’t have to be the sexual part of you.

GET READY TO GROW You’ll probably learn new things about yourself as you serve your Alpha. He may help you develop skills you’d have never explored on your own. There are, of course, the basics he shouldn’t have to worry about…

TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH A sick beta is a burden. Eat right, exercise, get enough sleep (except on those occasions when he doesn’t let you- then make up for it later.) You wanna keep it in good shape because…

HE GETS IT ALL Every inch of you is his and should be available to him anytime. He deserves the best. That may or may not mean that everyone else (or anyone else) knows about it because…

MEN DESERVE THEIR PRIVACY Once initial expectations have been set, don’t go whining for more than he has for you. If he’s married to someone else, you’re never gonna get treated like his spouse. If it’s understood that he dates other people, he may fall in love with them. It’s up to him whether or not the other people in his life know about you or not, & whether they know about your service to him or not. Alphas have a lot of people who want to be around them. It’s up to him to balance who can best meet his needs & desires, which comes down to…

LOVE, HONOR AND OBEY BUT STAY OUT OF HIS HAIR Of course he should have the ability to find out where you are & what you are doing when he wants to, but he has more important things to do than to supervise you 24 hours a day, 7 day a week. Be a man. Think for yourself. Make him proud. Make his day. Love, honor & obey. All glory to the Alpha. 

Onto my third day of being locked in my Holy Trainer v3 and this feels so natural and so normal. I can’t believe I hesitated to get into this (though I’m sure after a few more days I might be starting to get a bit frustrated!). Last night was easier again. I was woken at 4:30 with the same burning sensation under my balls and my nub desperately trying to escape the cage. Thanks to some advice from @sofllocked I’m getting up for a piss, which helps a lot. Last night I splashed myself in cold water again, which I also find effective. I was really pleased last night that my nub tried to get hard but gave up after a few minutes!

Today was my first day locked at work. I was quite nervous in case anyone noticed any odd lumps and bumps in my trousers, even though I know the Holy Trainer gives a high level of discretion. I needn’t have feared, as nobody saw anything. Going to the loo was nerve-wracking. I decided to use the disabled toilet so that I’d total privacy (as these are staff-only toilets and we have no disabled colleagues, we use this more as a cleaning cupboard than a toilet, so I knew I wouldn’t be preventing anyone from using the facilities!). I was pleased of the opportunity to adjust myself as well.

Today has been different to the last couple of days - being at work, I’ve been distracted and had things to do other than scrolling through Tumblr porn. I’ve had nowhere near as many attempted erections as the previous days and my nub has thoroughly behaved himself. Now that I’m home, I’m sat naked and enjoying some chill time (*cough* scrolling through Tumblr porn…). I’m really enjoying this experience so far and proud of how I’m doing - I don’t want to unlock at all, and the thought of having to remove the cage for cleaning tomorrow actually makes me a bit sad. But I’m so grateful to everyone for their follows, reblogs and likes. Keep ‘em coming!

The way I appreciate bottoms because they are the natural recipients of my Top dick and cum, by the same rational rule I don’t despise subs, as they are the mirror in which I reflect my superiority.

Above all else, a Dominant cherishes their submissive in the knowledge that the gift the submissive gives is the greatest gift of all.

A Dominant is demanding and takes full advantage of the power they hold, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from such power over another.

A Dominant is in control of themselves first and foremost, so that they may control others.

As a stern and demanding Dominant, they can cause their submissive to cry real tears; As a consummate lover, they will kiss such tears away without stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind and be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two individuals.

A Dominant is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality.

A Dominant will never ask a submissive to put them before the submissive’s career or family just to satisfy their own pleasure.

To win a submissive’s mind, body, spirit, soul and love, a Dominant knows they must first win the submissive’s trust.

A Dominant will show their submissive humour, kindness and warmth.

A Dominant must always show their submissive that their guidance and tutoring in knowledgeable and deserving of the submissive’s attention, that the Dominant is a person they can learn from in in whom they can trust their direction.

A Dominant is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, they will fight for their submissive’s honour.

A Dominant proves to their submissive that they are someone who can be leaned upon and depended upon.

When it comes time to teach their submissive a lesson is obedience, a Dominant is a strong and unyielding teacher.

A Dominant will accept no flaw; nothing less than perfection from their student.

Never does a Dominant use discipline without good reason. When they punish their submissive it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

A Dominant is always open to communication and discussion; always ready to hear their submissive’s wants and needs.

A Dominant is patient, taking time to learn their submissive’s limits and knowing that as the submissive’s trust in them grows, so to will they grow.

A Dominant never has to demand ritual behaviour from their submissive. Their submissive responds to them out of the want of pleasing them. Compliance comes from the desire to please, not the fear of punishment.

A Dominant understand the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to them.

A Dominant is secure enough to laugh at themselves and the absurdities of life; open-minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow.

A Dominant’s tools are mind, body, spirit, soul and love.

I WILL SWALLOW unless otherwise instructed. A Man’s cum deserves it as does the Man himself. Swallowing reinforces the bond and the position between Man and cocksucker.

I WILL DEEPTHROAT to the best of my ability regardless of whether I gag. A well-rounded cocksucker must master the use of its lips, tongue AND throat to maximize a Man’s pleasure.

I WILL NOT USE MY HAND unless instructed. My mouth is my sexual organ.

I WILL NOT TOUCH MYSELF when sucking a Man’s cock. His pleasure is my own. To suggest otherwise is deeply disrespectful.

I WILL NOT EXPECT RECIPROCATION — ever. See above.

I WILL MAKE MYSELF AVAILABLE and serve on His terms to the very best of my ability. A Man should never have to jerk Himself off when a cocksucker could do the job, instead.

I WILL BEG HIM TO CALL ME NAMES, such as ‘faggot,’ ‘cocksucker,’ and ‘neckcunt.’ A cocksucker must accept its place on the sexual totem pole. Such names are a Man’s way to claim His superiority over a cocksucker.

I WILL CONTINUE TO SERVE for as long as a Man deems appropriate, whether minutes or hours, without complaint.

I had already been locked up for a few weeks - three to be exact - when it happened. I fucked something up. I forgot a directive Master Bill had given me, one that should not have been hard to remember. I was supposed to insert my plug when I got home and sleep with it in that night, and I just….didn’t. It really wasn’t until the next morning when we were chatting that I realized I had forgotten, and I confessed it immediately.

He wasn’t angry, but I knew that didn’t mean the infraction was going to go unaddressed. “Pick a number, boy” he said calmly.

My mind started racing. I had no idea what He was going to use the number for, so it was hard to gauge what ballpark my answer should be in. If it was too low, maybe He would decide to revise it upwards to teach me a lesson about trying to avoid my just punishment. Too high and…well, I thought way back to our first session when He asked my pick a number for how many strikes of His quirt I would take, and I said seventeen, and regretted that after about three. Going on intuition and hope, I finally said seven.

“Ok boy. You’ll be in chastity for seven more weeks then.”

I reeled from his words. Seven more weeks? That would take me to ten weeks total, three more than my previous longest lockup. It seemed like forever, impossible. But the way He said it without hesitation, the confident ownership of me that He was obviously growing more comfortable with…it had me swimming in subspace. “Yes Sir.” What more was there to say?

Cut to a few nights ago. At this point I was nine weeks into this lockup. It has been hard, but I’ve endured. My release date was rapidly approaching, and I’d begun dreaming of how explosive that first orgasm was going to feel. ButI talked to Master Bill that night and there was a new development. We had been trying to find the right time for Him to come visit me, and a date had finally been picked, just a bit over three weeks away. With this new information He laid out a couple of choices for me.

He’s a man of His word, and He would still allow me to cum on the day my punishment was over, and then lock back up until His visit. Or I could forgo that release, and wait until His visit and experience that explosive orgasm WITH Him. He wanted me to choose whatever I wanted the most, and promised that it was not a test, that He would be fine with either answer.

I thought it over. I was/am desperately horny. I wanted to empty my balls so much I could barely stand it. I had the option of that happening in just a few days. Why wouldn’t I jump on that?

But then I though of what it would be like to experience that first orgasm in months with Him. Maybe I’d get to cum with His cock up my ass or down my throat. Maybe He’d get me to jack off while He’s beating me, forcing me to cum through the pain. But however it happens, He’d be there with me. He’d see that fountain of jizz He made me hold in for so long erupt out of my dick. I know how much He’ll enjoy seeing that. And I know He’ll hold me through that wonderful afterglow.

So I thanked Him for generously giving me the option (Man of His word or no He could have just told me there was a new plan and I wouldn’t have argued) but that I would wait and stay locked until I see Him next. He told me He already knew what I would choose, and I’m sure He did. He’s already in my head.