For years, I theorized to myself that many of Sansa’s stans justified and vehemently defended her behavior because they saw themselves in her, specifically white girls and women. Sansa is beautiful, delicate, polite, and well meaning. Every once in a while she has a well placed zinger, but she is unoffensive and doesn’t challenge the system–she embraces it. 

Either the second or third episode of the 8th season, after many posters, including myself, criticized Sansa’s behavior towards Dany, a woman (presumably white) wrote a heartfelt comment that got many love reactions. She literally talked about how she related to Sansa (she wasn’t referring to the abuse), especially because there was nothing special or magical about her. I can’t remember everything she said minus thinking that comment had nothing to do with anything and that, of course, all of Sansa’s bullshit is justified because someone related to her.

There isn’t anything wrong with relating to Sansa, the issue lies in the inability to criticize her actions and narrative function. It’s how everything she does is excused and she’s framed as the only person who ever had anything bad happen to her. It’s the constantly demonizing/shitting on other female characters and claiming misogyny is the ONLY reason she’s hated.

It’s the fucking audacity of fans to say shit like, “Sansa doesn’t want another white woman ruling over her” as if Sansa isn’t a fucking privileged white woman. It’s accusing Dany of white feminism when Sansa and her stans are peak white feminism. It’s calling Dany a colonist and imperialist as if Sansa wasn’t and isn’t reaping the benefits of those things by the end of the show. It’s trying to frame Dany as a racist when Sansa expresses contempt for foreigners (brown people) and wants to maintain a land of whiteness.

Constantly, I read about how much Sansa has suffered as if no one else in the fucking series has suffered. I don’t want to fucking debate who’s suffered more because that shit doesn’t matter, but apparently, the more you suffered, the more your shit is excused and the more you “deserve.”

But, let’s get one thing clear: as tragic as Sansa’s abuse and trauma is, she’s far more privileged than Dany. Which is why focusing solely on Sansa’s abuse and trauma is bullshit IN THAT CONTEXT.

Sansa grew up in a loving two parent home surrounding by siblings and never wanted for anything. Sansa’s parents were protective over her. Sansa never worried about food or being harmed. Sansa had servants. Her life was stable.

Dany grew up on the streets begging for food and always moving from home to home because there was a target on her head. Dany’s parents were dead. Dany was abused by her own brother. Her life was unstable.

So, please, keep explaining how Dany is a privileged white woman. Her major privilege was her last name, but this was a double edged sword because people either wanted to kill her or claim she was mad.

Regardless, Sansa had everything that Dany did not. Sansa dreamed of being a queen, Dany did not. Sansa grew up in a loving home; Dany was ripped from her home, brought to a foreign land, and was homeless. Sansa legitimately has a place to call home and what does Dany have–or had? 

Sansa has a family–people who are literally willing to kill for her. And Dany had herself. Everything she fucking had she got on her own. Not because of her brother fighting a battle she guilted him into or a creepy “uncle” who is in with her or a king brother granting her independence. 

No, Dany had three dragon eggs that were dormant for over 200 years that she walked through the fire to hatch herself. She inspired people from various lands and kingdoms to follow her. Although she was a Targaryen, most didn’t follow her because of her name, but because of who she was as a person. She challenged the status quo. She cared for others who came from different backgrounds and didn’t look like herself. She learned their languages and customs–they had a place in the new kingdom she was trying to build.

And Sansa…”fuck you if you ain’t us.” Sansa didn’t just want Dany out of the North, she wanted the Dothraki and the Unsullied out of there too. The brown people. Just like Dany, they didn’t do anything for her, except protect their North and lose their lives in the process. Sansa only cared for the North and, if you’re a decent person, that’s not how you do things. Hell, that’s not how her parents did things.

But, like I said, Sansa is the benevolent white woman fantasy. She’s supposedly more caring and understanding, so her actions, no matter how dubious, automatically means it’s for the greater good of others, right??

It’s okay that she didn’t tell Jon that the Vale may be coming, despite his clear and obvious feelings of anxiety and desperation. I mean, what if he messed it all up even though Sansa never gave him the opportunity to make an informed decision.

It’s okay to lob insults about Jon being sexist, despite her being in the battle war planning and having an opportunity to speak, but chose not to. And then, when she did, she gave vague warnings.

It’s okay that she baited Jon into fighting her battle for Winterfell by mentioning Rickon only to tell Jon not to fight for him because “he’s dead anyways”, which is another example of her withholding information.

It’s okay that she almost killed her sister, despite knowing the man who has helped her is a master manipulator and is on a quest for power. The man she saw kill her aunt, and then lie about why. The same man who kissed her and told her that he was in love with her mom. 

It’s okay that she made a promise to Jon in front of the weirwood, and then broke it because she didn’t want Dany to have power. 

These same people pretend they are pro woman, but don’t hesitate to shit on other women when given a chance. In addition to dragging Dany–even before the BBQ’d KL–they also hated Arya for a long time and some still do to an extent. Some of them only came around because Arya and Sansa made up and Arya has killed for and defended Sansa. Oh, but before that, they were calling her a psychopath and heartless–yet, Arya has some of the most meaningful relationships between the two of them. Okay…

Dany is rejected because she’s trying to dismantle the system. 

Arya is rejected because she doesn’t and refuses to fit inside of the system.

But, Sansa…oh, Sansa, the only change that she wants to make is to rule a kingdom of her own. She’s beautiful, gentle, and her anger is pretty–it isn’t ugly like Dany and Arya’s. She’s incredibility feminine and wants to protect her home and people even if that means putting others in harms way or being hostile to people who helped her–it was for the North’s wellbeing, you have to excuse her!

Sansa is a projection and to admit that she’s flawed, backstabbing and underhanded, and for herself means to admit that they, her fans, are as well and that their feminism is performative. It means that they are mediocre and won’t ascend to the heights they want to.

Granted, there a WOC who are stans of Sansa and vehemently defend her, but there is a cognitive dissonance there as well. I’m not saying that WOC cannot or should not like Sansa, I’m saying there is no way you can lob criticism at Dany that doesn’t apply to Sansa and, at times, tenfold. It’s okay to like Sansa and it’s okay to defend her at times, but there is an inherent hypocrisy to hating Dany for the same reasons they love Sansa. Or how they’re critical of Arya for breathing, but are “pro woman.”

Because, no matter how much white women fuck over other people–including their fellow white women, they see themselves as good and kind and that’s why it’s a fantasy. Since they see themselves in Sansa, she cannot be bad or flawed. They can list all of the shit that happened to Sansa, like themselves, and what she’s doing for others, yet, conveniently, they either don’t know what the others did or downplay their acts of kindness and goodness.

I just need her stans to quit the fucking crap.

Haha yep! Serves them right! Idk how they thought any of that bs would be well received but they are pretty racist, misogynistic and ableist so I guess they thought it made for a good story, smh. I don't even understand why they wanted to even adapt a story they clearly didn't actually care about lol. Or why they would want to be storytellers in the first place. I'm not even sure why anyone would let them work with their extremely unprofessional behavior and their “themes are for 8th grade book reports” nonsense but straight white guys can never fail, it seems. Hopefully, this will haunt them forever! It would be great if this ruined their careers but that seems unlikely, unfortunately for all of us.

When I was a child, from the time I was about four and could understand things, my mom told me and my brother that we should have a secret word. That way, if we were ever in trouble or felt unsafe and we didn’t want the people around us to know we needed her to come get us, we could let her know. So she let us pick the word and my brother and I chose the phrase “peanut butter cups.” (I’m happy to share the phrase now since both my brother and I are adults now). 

I used the phrase twice in my life. Once, I was at a friends house when I eight years old. Her dad got really drunk and was throwing things against the wall. I was really scared and I didn’t want to draw attention to myself on the phone when I called my mom to come get me because I didn’t know if he would get more violent if I asked her to come get me. So I called her and was calm and after a couple minutes I asked “Hey mommy, did you get me those peanut butter cups from the store?” And she said “I’ll be right there.” And she came and got me within minutes. 

Second, I was a teenager spending the night at a friends house. Her brother and dad were drinking and they started talking about things that made me uncomfortable - ie: what they liked to do to women. My friend didn’t seem perturbed and said that was normal for them and that I shouldn’t worry. But I was worried because they were really drunk and I was 15 and the only ‘woman’ around that wasn’t related to them. I went in my friends room, told her I needed to call my mom and say goodnight. Before I hung up with her I asked “Next time we go to the store, can we get some peanut butters cups? I’ve been craving them.” And she came and got me, just like that. 

I’m such a completly whore for armored women and Daenerys, so why not mix them?

No, but on a serious note, I hope I did her justice, after that horrible final, I sank into depression, I already made a post explaining it, so I’m not gonna get into, what I want to talk about is how I recovered from it.

And that’s remembering the best of Daenerys, what she represented and how she made me feel. I remembered only the good things, and decided to completly ignore the last season. That isn’t my Daenerys, not now, not ever. I know who se really is, and I won’t let d&d ruin it for me.

I wanted to honour her in some way, and taking the help of @bikiniarmorbattledamage​ tips on basic female armor designs and many cosplayers/artists I made an armor for my Queen.

So I give you an AU inspired for many fix-it fanfictios: S7 Daenerys ignores her male advisers’ idiotic advises and does the smart thing. She takes King’s Landing as soon as she arrives Westeros and  destroys only part of the Red Keep. Y’know, as she wanted, she listens to herself, because she knows what she’s doing and she’s a dragon, she’ll be a dragon.

In this scene the rightful Queen of Westeros is getting ready for The Great War, with the Six Kindoms’ armies united under her control (she’ll deal with the North after the war altho the north might as well perish for all i care)

It’s really a symbolic armor in some way, to protect her and us from all the misogynistic writing and judgement, from all sexist tropes and to prevent her from falling victim of manpain™

I designed the shoulders and chest scales to resamble a dragon, but not in the demonizing ways d&d tried to do, instead to show her strenght and fierciness. The helmet has dragon aspects as well, but it’s also inspired by the Unsullied’s helmets, to show she’s part of her army, she’s going to fight along side with them, not hide behind some walls like most Lords and Ladies. And altho I wanted to cut her hair to get a new look, I decided to leave it long and braided, since it helds a great symbolism between the Dothraki, who are also her people, and it’d be wrong to erase that. The sword is inspired by that glorious but sadly fake Spanish Leak, that affirmed Daenerys was getting a sword of her own on the last episodes. and what she’s wearing under is a lighter version of what she wore to go beyond the wall to save Jon Snow, when she earned his respect and showed him she was the right one to be Queen.

So, although I’m not really an expert on armors, I really like how this ended (this also took very long and I really love Dany so please don’t be mean), but I’d like to hear some constructive criticism if you may, because I want to make a full body redisign and some more tips would be really useful.

I was gonna add Missandei besides her, but I think she deserves a draw of her own, and that’s exactly what I’m gonna give her, since her death was what initially pushed me into depression (also made a post about it, so won’t push much the topic)

Wow, I never actually thought of the two scenes in comparison to each other! But yes, maybe that’ll be my next gifset! People bowed down to Dany in the final scene of 1x01 because she had 1) already earned their respect by: learning their language; adopting their culture; respecting their traditions and 2) she had just done something extraordinary: birth dragons. 

People only bow down to Sansa in the final scenes of 8x06 because she of her name and who her father was. NOTHING more. As Missandei said, Dany wasn’t Queen because she was the daughter of some King the Essosi never knew, she’s the Queen they chose. SANSA was the Queen who was thrust upon these people because she was the only Stark available - which is essentially what she tells Jon when she says “they lost their King” acknowledging that she’s not even the Northerners first choice for monarch anyway.

Joffrey, Tommen, Renly, Robert, Cersei and Sansa have all worn crowns. Each of them were called false kings, usurpers and were removed from power. Jon and Dany didn’t need to actually wear anything like a crown to show legitimacy or power. It wasn’t the trappings they wanted, it was the desire to safeguard their people.