Sometimes the work is to really grieve the wounds your mother sat in (or stayed in) while you were baking in her womb for 9 months. These same wounds may have passed on to you through the amniotic waters and influenced different areas of your life like confidence or self-esteem. Maybe she was in an abusive relationship. Maybe she was overfunctioning. Maybe she was partying - too much drinking and smoking out. Maybe she was eating lots of chemicals and processed foods. Some inheritances received while in one's mother's womb may have contributed to painful periods, fibroids, near-death experiences, abusive relationship cycles, being overweight or underweight, low-grade or high-grade mental issues, depression issues, attraction to emotionally-unavailable people, abandonment issues, sexual challenges, chronic dis-ease, etc. Think about it.
But do be clear. This is not an invitation to blame or shame your mother. Nothing beautiful comes from doing so. It is inviting you to contemplate your lineage, gestational environment, and early nervous system development with compassion, especially toward yourself and your mother while considering her stress hormones, fears around safety, care practices, and type of nourishment. I invite you to look at how these areas of life could be contributing to your present-day experiences. Then begin to do the work to reorient your energy in a new grounded, self-nurturing way and invite in new narratives from there.
After studying a little bit about epigenetics and prenatal stress, I could clearly see how a mother’s environment and emotional state influence how certain genes are expressed in a fetus, baby, child, and even when that child become an adult. But at the same time, it’s important to avoid turning this into blame, fear, or a fixed story about your body or the reason why you are in the situation you are in. My aim, prayerfully, is for you to own that human beings are divine, adaptive, and capable of healing and recalibrating new narratives across many lifetimes no matter what. This is who you are.
-India Ame'ye, Author
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