Do you think it would be ok for a necrophile (including being sexually and romantically attracted to corpses) to become a mortician if they have no intent to engage sexually with the body? Or would you consider that contact?
I do not consider contact to simply being around your attraction, for example plushophiles can just own plushies just like any other individual, paraphiles can have jobs that may or may not relate to their attraction, i believe they should have the same rights and freedom as nonparaphiles, because i believe paraphiles are not ticking time bombs and can have the ability to be smart and think for themselves to know what is okay and not okay to do, if they have struggles with compulsive sexual behavior, know their limits and learn to distance themselves on their own if needed and keep themselves and others safe.
What i do consider contact however, is doing behavior or actions to directly sexually arouse or satisfy you, this can go far from simply physically acting on it. for example (warning for some gross implications here) voyeurism. not just intimate or private situations, but innocent situations that in the paraphiles head are sexually or romantically gratifying for them, and choosing to stay and indulge in that. I know paraphiles have a very hard time controlling their thoughts, i do not and will not shame them for that, that is common in paraphilic disorders, however those should be educated and given recourses on how to minimize that from happening, as prolonged exposure to sexual desires can or increases the actual contact being done.
i am directly an example and a victim of this around 15 to 16, it did not lead to real contact, but it lead me to unhealthily craving more content or it was all that was in my head, i could not focus in school at all. At the time i was being groomed and exposed to others showing me real images, videos of gore or necrophilia, and even at one point was blackmailed and threatened to watch said videos when i said i didn't want to by my "boyfriend" around those times. Ever since i have broken contact with those people, or other necrophiles that encouraged me to do things, i have not seen a single real life image or video or even wanted too. Both of my current partners are not paraphiles and do not share anything like that with me.
Realistically, the problem with paraphiles is not the paraphiles themselves, but outsiders thinking crimes like bestiality, corpse desecration, child SA, and rape are caused by paraphiles only by paraphiles. This is simply not true! Those who committed those actions and crimes most of the time are not even specifically attracted to what they do or even paraphiles, this is such a believed myth because those on the internet constantly say predators = pedophiles or pedophiles = predator and cannot differentiate the two because actually tackling the subject and educating themselves make them uncomfortable. Can both be true? Absolutely, i've seen it happen before, but criminals that just so happen to be aware they are paraphiles are such a small percentage. The internet is being intentionally oblivious to learning about the behaviors of criminals, sexual disorders, paraphilias ect, because they have cemented in internet culture that paraphiles are just evil criminals nothing less and nothing more, and the only time of day they get is probably some threats or going on a DNI list.
To answer your question anon, yes. It would be okay for a paraphile to have a job that could in theory relate to their paraphilia, but as you specified, have no intent to engage in sexual or romantic contact, so i see no problem.
The answer to reducing contact or crimes being committed is to simply stop shaming or demonizing the existence or context of paraphilias and sexual disorders, encouraging more education and learning aspects which in turn can make many paraphiles aware of their disorder or attraction and what they can do themselves (or with help) to reduce harm being done. I personally believe why so much criminal behavior is done is because no one takes mental health or mental disorders seriously and does not do anything to prevent it.
The internet has made paraphilias a scary and dangerous thing, there in turn pushing unaware paraphiles away from that subject as far as possible, refusing to acknowledge that part of themselves due to falling for the stigmatization and end up doing unhealthy, illegal or harmful behaviors. It should not be hard for paraphiles to come out but unfortunately our culture made it that way. They unintentionally are just making more unaware pro-contact paraphiles or offenders.
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