perverse triangle

Yah, and they spread that trauma like poison on to their children. They are dillusionsl and blame their (ex) partners for things their abuser did. Then they tell their children their dillusion, and ruin their children’s life.

frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment

I wish more people got this because some ‘low-empathy’ people are the most compassionate and sympathetic in the universe, and I hate it when that’s taken to mean ‘unfeeling and probably hostile’ when nothing could be further from the truth

Posting this because I see these words used interchangeably in RP writing a lot, and they are - in fact - not the same. Know the differences and impress your writer friends! It really is noticeable when someone has a strong grasp of vocabulary, and thus is a stronger writer.

Also, empathy is not always compassionate or sympathetic!  It very often goes with those two, but empathy itself is not a requirement for feeling sympathy or compassion at all.  Empathy works like a sponge, and can happen whether you care about the people around you or not.  It works with negative emotions such as anger, and can make you question which of the emotions you currently feel are your own.

Wtf

Self care 101

god I hate you so much. you manipulated me into hating my dad, who cares about me and doesn’t abuse me, you used to threaten me (not as much now) and I wish you would act on threats, you scream and insult me, and you are dating this abusive horrible thing that I have to call my stepfather. that “stepfather” screams, yells, and Jesus fucking Christ does he lash out at me when he’s drunk. I immediately get a pit in my stomach when there’s football on tv. I hate you and I’m done.

👊🏻

Not my ex