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don't infantilise yourself. you are not a child who needs an adult to make your decisions for you. you are a splendid and magnificent autocrat and you are consulting your trusted advisors. you are exercising great wisdom by inviting an expert to give their opinion before making your ruling. often the path of wisdom is to say "good morning, I'm trying to [perform task] and I have a question about [aspect], can you tell me who I should speak to for advice?" before you do it. sometimes the path of wisdom is to hire a plumber. there are times when you cannot do things for yourself but that doesn't mean you are not an adult. you don't need a grown-up. you need a specialist.

As a full-blown adult with a mortgage and a child, I can assure you that not only is this true, but the key to successful adulthood is knowing who to ask for help. Most complicated situations have professionals whose job it is to know how to do the thing. Need to buy a house? Realtor. Trying to figure out insurance? Broker. And if you can’t figure out who to ask, look for a neighbor, coworker, relative, boss, etc who’s done it and ask them for a referral. Who does your hair? Where did you get those shoes? How do you figure out withholding on your W-2? In my experience, people who’ve been through a thing are delighted to share their experiences with you.

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