fatti avanti, amore.

this is just my own observations of course but 90% of the time when a kid tries to get people to treat them like an adult, what they really want is the respect and acknowledgement that they associate with adulthood - because that’s what they must give the adults. they have to give that to the adults in their lives, but the adults never give that same respect back, and so they see that difference and decide that they want to be treated “like an adult”

and sometimes i see parents who are like fine you want to be treated like an adult then you can work and pay rent but that’s the exact OPPOSITE of what the kid is actually asking for. you’re just belittling them, clearly intending to punish them for daring ask for your respect, clearly intending for them to break down and beg to be “treated like a child” again because you purposefully twisted their wants. they ask for respect, and you give them abuse.

never, ever, ever, treat a child like a full grown adult. it’s our responsibility as adults NOT to, because they ARENT adults no matter how much they think they want to be, and it’s our job as adults to take care of them.

that said, ALWAYS treat children like people. because they ARE that. they’re real people with real agency acting as best as they know to with what knowledge they have

Let me be clear: I DO NOT discuss things that are topically inappropriate for a child's age. Ever. Sex, despair, pain, death, and trauma are Off. The. Table.

So, what is it we talk about? Easy: Science.

A 10 year old girl asked me, "Why do we have blood?" And I told her, "Well, do you know what your blood does?" She said no, so I told her, "Your blood's job is to carry air to your brain when you breathe. If your blood can't get oxygen to your head fast enough, and you can get dizzy or faint. You need blood so that the air you breathe can go where it's needed".

The other adult in the room decided I shouldn't be talking to a child 'like that'. Said it would 'just go over her head'. "Look, she's not even listening!"

"No, I'm listening," she said, but the conversation was over.

Kids aren't dumb. They WANT to be talked to with respect for their autonomy and intelligence.

Am I going to start breaking out words like Mytosis or Rhinoplasty without explanation? Of course not. But if they want to know why their nose is called a "Rhino-", I'll tell them.

I REMEMBER adults telling me I was too young or not ready to learn something I was interested in. I REMEMBER being told to grab easier books, to be at peace with addition when I WANTED to try division.

I remember for getting detention because a TA told my class to sit down and be quiet and I told him, "You're standing up and yelling at us, why don't you have to follow the rules?"

I remember telling a teacher to stop being condescending, only to get a funny look and, 'what a big word! Do you know what that means?' As if I'd just throw it out there if I didn't think I knew how.

Adults tell you what to do and say that it's for a good reason, but the reason can't possibly be that good if even THEY don't follow it all the time.

Adults tell you that not eating your veggies is rude and unhealthy, but you've never seen greens on your father's plate in your life and nobody gets after HIM. Why are you the only one who has to do things you don't like? If you're rude, why isn't he?

And when you're *really* young, that's the WORST, because everyone wants to *quiz* you on shit. "Can you say 'school' sweetheart?" Yeah, I can, lady. I was doing something, though, so can it wait? I knowsyou're just gonna keep picking words. This can't possibly be fun for you.

Tumblr was deemed too full of inappropriate content to be allowed to be downloaded from the app store.

It has this “inappropriate” problem because of rampant porn ad bot accounts. The old solutions were bots to detect image sets with nsfw content, the automatically enabled safe mode, tag filtering for mobile, and wide takedowns of nsfw bots based on words used (that’s why their messages are full of numbers and symbols, to evade this)

Tumblr released their own bot supposedly capable of wiping the ad bots, but it’s taking down many popular blogs, possibly due to sheer amounts of posting or sheer amounts of ad bots in their notes. This bot was likely rushed to be put out.

You are more likely to be accidentally flagged if you post external links, as well. If your acct is taken down you CAN get it back, but it’s a pain. E-mail tumblr support for help with this. It takes down side blogs with the main ones.