InterestInHotwifing

Every REAL stag will tell you the same thing: this lifestyle is not for everyone.

It is NOT for you if:

Your wife does not want to do it. (Is not interested.)

You see it as an opportunity FOR YOU to have sex with other people. (See swinging or open relationships instead)

You attach your worth and your wife's worth to sexual acts (i.e. "this random guy came on her face, so she's a trash whore").

You think your wife's willingness to try new things with others but not you means she does not love you enough.

You think sharing your wife makes you superior to other husbands (that don't share their wives), as in "I am more secure," "I trust my wife more," blah blah blah - it's not that, hotwifing is just a sexual preference just like monogamy is a sexual preference.

If your wife is interested in playing a little, that does not mean you get to tell her the "type" of hotwife she needs to be (you can share your fantasies and she will share hers, but it does not mean she has committed to make any a reality). Many of us spent years in the fantasizing stage with our wives, before it even happened; in fact, a healthy waiting period is one of the ways I know fellow stags are also real stags and not just horny deluded husbands pressuring their wives to give them a show.

If you feel angst, regret, or anger, after your wife starts connecting with someone else (or after she has sex with someone else). I have shared posts about "a sick feeling in the stomach" and all that, because some of them are sexy or erotic, but I have honestly never felt that way.

You judge the man or men your wife is interested in sleeping with (i.e. "that guy, really?" "he's not bigger than me" "he doesn't last as long"). I'm happiest when my wife finds her lovers herself, and even happier when she develops a long-term crush; it does not matter to me "why" she wants them, I'm just excited that she does.

YOU KEEP ASKING FOR ADVICE ON HOW TO "CONVINCE" YOUR WIFE ASSUMING THAT SHE SHOULD BE JUMPING AT THE OPPORTUNITY IF SHE WAS A "NORMAL" SEXUALLY ACTIVE WOMAN; SHE'S NOT ABNORMAL, YOU'RE JUST AN IDIOT.