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A little snippet for my diary. From yours truly. 😘

My thoughts and feelings on the BNWO. ♠️🖤

I was going through the comments section to delete all the old stuff and started re-reading all the questions and comments. Thank you again for all of your support and I’m happy that some of my ideas have a positive influence on your own Female-Led Relationships. As I don’t reply directly, I decided to address some of them in bulk. There are so many, so I’ll never be able to answer them all.

Why did you change your marriage into an FLR?

Read: ‘How We Got Started’ on the blog.

Does your husband/pet enjoy reading your blog?

He has no knowledge that it exists or that I write about our life together. I tend to create my content when he is locked away in his kennel, during his corner time, or cuddled up next to me wearing his deprivation hood. Sometimes I put him to bed early with his ankle chained to the bedframe and stay up later to write. I seem to be inspired by having him under my direct control. Occasionally, I will create content while he is at work, If I’m in a sexy state of mind and missing him.

Do you train subs online miss?

Never. He is the only sub I ever plan to train. I will never have any intimate interaction with another male, and if I ever meet the right lady, it will be in person on equal terms.

Do you call your husband your bitch? To his face?

Yes, this is his 'official’ title. It is used in the literal sense, as in meaning female dog. He is my feminised(=female) pet(=dog) so it fits well enough.

Why tumblr?

I like the layout and I don’t think you need a lot of porn clips and nudity to have a sexy and exiting blog. From reading my comments, others seem to agree.

Can I ask you a question?/Could ask some advice?

You can, but sorry, it won’t be directly answered. It may inspire me to write about the subject you brought up in a future post or bulk address like this one.

Is there more of Silent Service coming?

For those who don’t know, this is a story I wrote. You can find it by diving deeper into my blog. I haven’t felt enough inspiration to write part 4. Maybe in the future.

Do you slap him while in public?

I’ve done it in public occasionally. I check to see no one else is watching and give him a quick, gentle backhand and hold my hand out for him to kiss. The thing is, he isn’t expecting it so he doesn’t know if anybody saw it at that moment. It leaves him feeling deeply humiliated, and makes him blush so beautifully while he kisses my hand. I assure him no one saw it happen a few minutes later. I would never make him suffer real humiliation in front of others and he knows it, but forgets when it happens so quickly and randomly.

Multiple people said: You should cuckold him.

No, I shouldn’t, at least not with another male. I will with another woman if the opportunity arises, as it’s been dicussed and he wants me to enjoy a full range of different loving. He will never be neglected if it happens though.

Your blog makes my cage very tight.

Excellent. Glad I can inspire you and add to your sexy suffering.

May I reblog your posts?

Yes , but please use the reblog button. I’m happy when my creations inspire you to spread them around but don’t copy and paste pretending it to be your own though. I’ve had some rude people copy my writings word for word, add a bit here and there and post it as if they wrote it all themselves with no credit given, on this site and BDSMLR. Some people have no shame.

Do you still allow your husband regular releases?

Typically one to two weeks apart. If it’s properly ruined (just drips out without force), I let him roll a single dice and the number that gets rolled is subtracted from his regular schedule of once a week. If he fails to be ruined, a week gets added. If he successfully completes his full orgasm protocol, he can roll the dice and subtrct it from his 2 weeks. I’ve never been interested in long term chastity as I get what I want from short term releases. He has suggested long term, but I’m doing it my way. He gets no choice in the matter.

You never say please and thank you to him at all?

At the level of inequality we maintain in our marriage, we both feel it’s entirely inappropriate for me to say these words to him as it sends mixed messages. Saying please is asking. I’m not asking, I’m commanding. Saying thank you conveys gratitude for someone choosing to please you. He gets no choice, he simply obeys.

Hi, would you be willing to share the rules you have for your husband?

See my 'Rules for our Female-Led Marriage’ series. I change some of them up occasionally to keep it fresh and exciting, but never my zero tolerance rules, as they are important to me.

Multiple people asked:Can we chat?

No, sorry.

Multiple people asked: Are you willing you be my keyholder?

Never.

Your contract must have taken ages to get right. Can we see a copy?

I may in the future post it in it’s current version if there’s enough interest.

Multiple people said: He is a lucky guy.

Yes, and I’m a very proud owner. Proud of him, for what he has become for me, and proud of myself, for what I’ve accomplished with him, our marriage, my self esteem, and mental health.

Where did you purchase that head harness?

Had it for years and can’t remember. Somewhere out there on the world wide web.

Hi, did the chastity device make him smaller?

Not really. It is much more sensitive now though, after spending so much time protected from anything but smooth stainless touching it. It takes a lot longer to grow, too long to be useful at any given time. I’m not sure if he is capable of getting fully erect anymore, as I always lock it back on before it happens, while still quite pliable.

We don’t do PIV anymore, so really, there’s no need for him to become erect. Between the erectile dysfunction and being extremely sensitive, I’m quite content knowing that he’s lost his penetration abilities. As I lost my abilities to procreate, so should he.

Multiple people asked: Which rules are zero tolerance?

I plan to address this in an upcoming post.

Multiple people asked: What are your thoughts on piercing for chastity?

We wanted my control to be as real as possible so he is pierced, with no escape possible. It was important to me.

Can you share the voice recordings you use?

This is refering to my Audio Training post. No. They are a very private part of our sex life. I won’t share something so intimate with others.

I’m currently looking for a mentor for my wife. Any interest?

No, sorry. If female-led relationships appeal to her, she will seek out information on her own. You can direct her to my tumblr blog to see if it interests her.

If I may. What is the best strap-on to get my wife?

Every women’s anatomy is different. What works for me probably won’t for her. It’s best to do your own research on this.

What are tackbooties?

A homemade version of these, before these came out. (did they get the idea from me?)

https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/778130754/crawling-habit-training-restraining?

I’ve recently retired my homemade ones and bought these. Expensive though.

It is possible to be a sub without cuckolding and chastity belts?

Of course. There is no one correct way. If it works for you and your partner, that’s all that matters.

Hey what chastity device do you recommend?

The one that fits your anatomy the best for comfort, and security. If it isn’t comfortable, you can’t wear it long enough to be effective. I’m no expert on the subject, definitely not enough to suggest a specific model. My husband did the research on the one he wears and I don’t even know what brand or model it is. It took a few different devices and a fair bit of expense to find the right one for him.

With your level of financial control, can he buy you gifts?

Yes. He shops online and when he is ready for checkout, I click the mouse button myself to finalize the purchase from the back side of the computer screen so I can’t see what he is getting me. He’s forbidden to exceed the price limit I set.

So, how did you get your husband into the chastity cage?

I assume it was one of his fantasies. When I took charge of the relationship, he knew that I suffered from abandonment issues with an anxious attachment style, caused by my past. So he suggested that if I locked him in one, it would help alleviate any worries of abandonment.

He gave an inch and I took a mile. I decided to also keep his toenails painted, his body shaved, and make him wear feminine undergarments for me. It’s been a lot of fun and has helped immensely. With regular teasing and denial, seeing him constantly lust for me worked wonders as well.

I’m much more calm and happy now. To be content in my marriage, I need complete control, and he loves being controlled completely. We are perfect for each other.

Nice to see another couple who loves AB/DL.

Although I use a lot of AB/DL accesories and have him suckle my breasts regularly, we aren’t actually into ABDL roleplay itself, but I can see why you would think so. I love having my breasts suckled, as it’s pleasurable for me and I enjoy the intimacy. He loves my breasts but would be happy with only a couple of minutes of booby time. He remains latched on for as long as I want to serve my needs, not his own.

The diapers I make him wear are for humbling him and convenience, as I don’t have to release him from his cage or other bondage for bathroom breaks, especially overnight when I want to sleep in. The bonnets are great for humbling him while keeping his head from getting cold around the house, as I shave his head when shaving the rest of him. Everything else is just for humiliation purposes, ensuring his male ego remains completely deflated.

And finally, for the guys that are offering to send me money and gifts.