Whenever I go somewhere, whether it be to a doctorās appointment, to the local coffeeshop, or simply walking my dog around the block, Iāll inevitably bump into someone who smiles at me (I know, I live in a friendly place.) and says,Ā āHow are you doing today?āĀ
This is a loaded question.Ā
If Iām feeling particularly self-conscious of the fact that Iām a writer, Iāll respond,Ā āIām doing well,ā but if Iām too tired or just feel like being more relaxed Iāll say,Ā āIām good.āĀ
If I go with the former, I feel like Iām being too formal, snobby, and a tad stuck-up. But if I go with the latter, then Iām opening myself up to self-hate and ridicule. Because, after I answer, Iāll always reciprocate the ask. And if the person responses with, āIām well,ā then I feel like a dummy who didnāt use English correctly, and I should walk through the streets naked with people throwing fruit at me and yelling, āShame!āĀ
Why does it matter which way I answer? Why make a big deal of it?Ā
Letās start with the basics. When to use these words:Ā
Good: (adjective)Ā describes a job, aka a noun.
Well: (adverb) describes an action, aka a verb, and answers the question of how.Ā
Now letās use them in a sentence:Ā
Good describes day, which is a noun, so good is an adjective.Ā
Well describes how the day went, so well is an adverb.Ā
This is where things get fuzzy. You might think, but I is a noun! Then shouldnāt that mean when someone asksĀ āHow are you?ā that I should answer with, ā I am goodā?Ā
In fact, when someone asks how you are, they are referring to your physical self. Think of the question as,Ā āHow is your body doing?ā Since your answer reflects how you are doing, your response must describe the verb to do, so the correct response would be,Ā āI am doing well.āĀ
Hereās the coveted loophole: If someone asks how you are doing, but is referring to your mental health, then they are, in fact, referring to you, the noun. Then it is correct to says,Ā āI am good.āĀ
Now that youāre sufficiently armed with the basics of well vs. good, the next time someone casually asks,Ā āHow are you?ā feel free to answer with a confident,Ā āI am good,ā and assume they are obviously referring to your mental health. No guilt necessary.Ā