My neighbor (mentioned in the last post) is going to have her baby soon. She has an almost-3-year-old and her husband is only taking 2 weeks off of work. She’s taking more time off.

She says she has family nearby but idk how much help she’ll have pp.

I’m also not super reliable as I also have two small littles but I want to do something bc I know how incredibly not possible it would’ve have if I had to care for two littles if my husband went back to work after 2 weeks.

I have some ideas:

1. drop by a no-mess activity for her toddler.

2. pick up a coffee/drink for her and drop it at her door.

They are 1 day apart.

And it took us nearly 3 years to get together properly.

I found out that she is basically the same economic status as us, which is just nice bc most of my other friends with kids have houses and their husbands make 6 figures.

We also share a lot of the same thoughts on sending our kids to preschool and all that.

She seems super normal. And Very chill.

All in all a good time.

I’ll definitely reach out to make plans again soon.

This boy (maybe 5 yo) was terrorizing his younger, baby brother this whole time we were there. Well finally they settled down to do a puzzle and S tried to give them a piece of the puzzle they were working on that fell on the floor. The boy took it and threw it on the ground and told her angrily that they didn’t need it. He also called her stupid.

S got visibly upset so I pulled her aside and she requested we retreat to a smaller room for toddlers.

As she was saying goodbye, the boy started mocking her with baby noises!! Because I guess when she was getting upset about the boy throwing the piece S couldn’t articulate what she wanted to say so it ended up sounding like gibberish.

The worst part is the boys mom or maybe nanny? who was literally an arms length away from all of this and WAS WATCHING didn’t fucking say or do anything.

My knee is also starting to feel better♪

We’re t-minus 8 days until parental leave is over and I’ll have to take over the apartment and both girls Thursday to Tuesday Afternoon. We’re as ready as we’ll be at this point.

Finally getting my point across that I need food in the freezer that I can pull out, microwave and have ready to eat in minutes. It has been a tug-of-war with a husband who puts fresh food as the utmost. I’m over here like, how about our my sanity?

We got back home yesterday after a full day out and he goes:

“This is a long day… It’s a lot.”

“It’s gonna be a typical day for me here soon.” I reply.

He pauses and adds: “Yeah, the last thing I want to do is get out a pan and cook anything. I don’t want to do the dishes. Phew.”

It would have made today 500000x easier.

Another few days of tv.

I woke up this morning with soreness all over, and the side of my right knee is super painful. I think I spent too much time picking up toys at the library with K strapped in my wrap. I just can’t help it! Organizing helps me relax and the library playroom is a never ending project 😂 but I think I can’t do that for a while. My hubs gave me the look when I told him which part of my knee was sore. He was like “you need to just not walk and rest it.” Easier said than done with two children, but he’s right.

I wasn’t even aware of financial assistance/forgiveness when I gave birth to S and I didn’t realize I could wait to see the bill. So when the billing lady at the hospital came around to collect payment, I paid a good portion then and eventually I ended up paying about $7,000 for everything, and that originally cost the hospital nearly $70,000🫠

I’m just wondering how that number, for the same exact procedure, can be nearly $50,000 different???

The two main actors have such cute chemistry and the writers deal with his divorce story and his ex-wife in such a real way, it was refreshing to watch. Especially the emotional acting is just🤌🏻

102回目のプラポーズ is … meh. got barely 15 mins in when S told me to turn on 時すでにお寿司 instead 😂 It’s just a bit too… like “girls don’t know what they are doing in love, it’s up to us men to solve the problem for them.” 🙄 So I might stop watching idk..

The play date organizer handled like a gd queen👸 She was basically like, “Well, that sounds like it’s on the same day/time as this group so I won’t make it but hope y’all have fun!” So much class. So much respect🥺

I try to be discreet.

But I refuse to act more bothered by it than our society, which literally puts moms and children LAST in planning any sort of building.

Like, y’all want me to believe you’re bothered by my nursing in public when you don’t even have the decency to make a space that’s safe, accessible to MULTIPLE moms at one time, not just one mom at a time (I’m looking at you, “nursing room” at the mall and library). Yeah, because only one baby needs to be fed at a time.

You expect me to nurse in a family bathroom which is basically just a huge room with a toilet and a sink and zero counter space or place to set down bags (LAX, shame on you!). And, most importantly, no chair.

You expect me to cover my baby’s face while their eating? How about we stop sexualizing every part of a woman’s body?

The worst is a plane. Why can’t there be a section of plane dedicated to people with small kids? It would be better for literally everyone. But what do i know.

I turned on the lights, and took off the bed covers at 8:00am this morning and turned on some Bluey music, eventually to Bluey Lofi.

It’s almost 9am, neither are up yet and I have no interest in doing more to wake either of them, oops🙊

One of the ladies in the Japanese Language play date group put out an invitation on the group chat to her church bible study. Japanese Women Only. Oh! And it happens to be the EXACT same day and time as the current group play date. So.

I left the church a looooong time ago and I have no interest in going back. To each their own. church itself is already pretty exclusive, but for this mom to add on the “Japanese Women Only.” bit., 😔 Maybe she didn’t mean it like that, but it stung nonetheless.

So I went from taking care of K, primarily, and S about 20% to taking care of both girls AND my grown husband.

I haven’t felt this strong and exhausted in a very long time.

But somehow the apartment wasn’t too much of a disaster after and none of us hurt each others’ feelings too too much.

I don’t want him to be hurt but this does give me a push to get out with both kids on my own from now on.

Good news is S is finally starting to listen to me again. I’ve been having so much trouble communicating with her because the moment I say her name, she starts ignoring me!! And I’m like?😅

But today she actually stopped and listened to what I said and it she was so cooperative because she understood what was going on (obviously!).

On other news, I scheduled an in-person PT appointment for next week!

I started listening to Rising Strong by Brené Brown and my gosh does that woman get it💛