died again, huh?

The active sharing and reposting of real peoples' pregnancy pictures or labor/birth photos is actually gross.

I saw a post talk about "fetish mining", the grooming practice of fetish accounts messaging people who are pregnant to ask them to share pictures of their pregnant bodies so that they can reupload and share those images to fetish groups. With the person not being disclosed to the fact that these are specifically fetish accounts. And when I saw this person rant about how "I don't want to share pictures of my labor/birth because I don't want people to repost them" then turn around and actively reblog pictures of other people giving birth.

On Tumblr it is so fucking common place to see big post dumps of photos of various people who are pregnant, who are in labor, and who are straight up giving birth and crowning. Bare naked.

Just because "they posted it so it's already out there on the internet" actually, does not give you the right to copy and paste that to a fetish and kink account–are you that morally deprived? There is absolutely no fucking reason to share and post that shit to a grander public, their intention was never for you to sexualize it, you're just a goddamn sick pervert.

I also see it as morally corrupt to reblog it. You're not helping in the fact that this is being disseminated in a non-consensual way. Even if you are someone who is asexual and not indulging in the images because it is sexually pleasing, it is obvious that who you reblogged it from did post it with a sexual angle. OR how people who derive sexual pleasure will get a hold of it and reblog it. Even for me, who rarely divulges in drawing any actually "sexual" pregnancy, I still would find it in poor taste to share those images on my accounts. MAYBE if I was suddenly running my own mommy/daddy blog or whatever, but that would require me to be pregnant and wanting to connect with other pregnant people in the community for support.

"But what if the people who post their pregnancy stuff FOR fetish and consent?" Okay, you got the one loop hole. Do you know why? Because they are consenting, because they want that kind of attention or they are choosing to share what it is they are comfortable with sharing and having people comment in that way about it. Like if you need a fix that bad, go support sex workers through their OnlyFans or Patreons or whatever. They DO consent to you seeing their images, but don't breech their fucking TOS and steal and post it online for free. Like have respect for them and have some self respect in that you paid to see those images/videos, you don't gotta share it to people who aren't paying.

And look, I am not out here kink shaming you for your pregnancy, labor, and/or birth kinks. Glass houses and stones, whatever. And there is something to be said "so long as you're hurting no one, then it's fine." The problem here is: sharing and posting peoples' personal videos and photos of them pregnant or giving birth is hurtful. It's kinda similar to revenge porn, where you actively are sharing a person's private images or videos in compromised situations that can eventually be reached by people they know or people who they work for who might–wrongfully–fire them. I've seen a trans man on Tiktok say that he doesn't show his bare belly because there were people who shared those images to fetishists, and even got a stalker as a result. Or a woman whose photos/videos were shared by her husband without her consent and found out when it was too late and already people made google drives that contained her within them.

I'm simply asking you take a moment to sincerely consider what it is you reblog and what it is you do with your public kink/fetish accounts. What it is these people are doing posting their photos or videos is, quite frankly, not for us to decide. If they explicitly state that they are sharing this for kink/fetish related reasons then free game, sure. But if that consent is not given, then do not engage.

You can do whatever you want in private, I do NOT need to know, no one else even needs to know. But there has to be something said about the crossing of boundaries and lack of verbal consent given in the pregnancy fetish/kink community. I'm not asking you to rewire your brains, it's fine for pregnancy to be a turn on for you, the same with birth. How you interact and engage with it matters though. I'm literally just saying: Do not repost other peoples' images or videos and do not reblog other peoples' images or videos without knowing where it comes from. If it is directly from the source of the person who is in the photo and says "yes this is fine", then OK. If it from a person's personal account where they do not ever engage in fetish or kink. Do not interact.

It's also in poor taste and super weird taking photos of real people and doing the pregnancy morph shit to them. It feels like putting a celebrity's face on a photo of a porn star. They don't consent to it, and it's always put me off badly from things like Marvel fandoms (or other IRL shows) that depict the Real Human Actors having photoshop'd bellies.

Worse is when the people in the photos are underage. That screams ulterior motives and quite frankly, I wouldn't trust hoarding ANY photos of pregnancy morphs involving people that look slightly younger. (original tags)

People RPing being pregnant (with full, explicit disclosure that they're RPing and not just trying to scam people for Amazon gift cards) are totally fine and valid! Would honestly love to appreciate those folks more, they play up the fantasies so that it's enjoyable for others too. Though it is always first and foremost for them so still treat them with respect. (original tags)

Honestly the overall treatment of sharing photos of pregnant people (namely of women as that is the majority here) so flagrantly and so callously just goes to show how so many of y'all are ready to objectify women/people who are pregnant. It's inhuman and beyond disrespectful to reduce someone to a sexual object. Sincerely, try to think before you go reblogging that stuff. (original tags)

I sincerely would like for us to push more for ostracizing this behavior. I don't expect nor want people to harass or spitefully confront these folks. They won't care and they will sleep fine at night knowing that they and cum pigs like them aren't REALLY gonna be held accountable for their actions. Where I want the sharing to stop is with people who do care and can be willing to think a little more critically about the media they consume.

Signal boosting this because as a member of the pregnancy kink community, as well as someone who can/will get pregnant eventually, y’all need to fucking listen.

What this person is describing is called fetish mining. I’ve shared a post about this in the past. If you are interacting with someone and asking them for photos/videos/to describe their experiences without explicitly explaining to them that it is going to be used or shared for kink purposes, then you are fetish mining. And it is not okay. I have seen people literally groom young pregnant people into this and it’s disgusting. Our kink is not inherently bad, but this behavior is.

The #1 rule we need to follow in this community is to NEVER INTERACT with people who are not sharing their content directly and knowingly with the community.