even outside of being schizoid i think it’s unsettling how some people feel entitled to your body, your time, your space, and your attention, and then get offended when you don’t want to be touched or simply want privacy. i can politely say i don’t want a hug and people react like i’ve said something cruel or offensive. i’ve had exes go through my phone without permission and then act shocked when i’m upset about my privacy being violated. in relationships, people expect you to give up parts of your autonomy just to keep them comfortable.
#i don't like how you stop being you and become theirs. you can't even have a private space or thoughts without them accusing you of hiding#you're no longer someone but a friend partner or ex which means you can't be yourself anymore only someone in relation to someone else#it's no longer “name” did this only “my ex/partner/friend” did this. that wording causes people to favor the speaker too
