Life is short. Enjoy as much as you can get.

Our journey to swinger (hotwife, stag/vixen) lifestyle started with an evening walk. We were 1 year into our marriage, Archi and I were talking about our first year as married couple how fast it went and how much we enjoyed. Archi said she wants to interview me on our marriage, I said, well, ok, let’s do it. We sat on a bench in the park, we both didn’t knew how this will go, this was a spontaneous act. I was kind of unprepared neither was she. She asked many questions on likes/dislikes, things that worked & didn’t and finally, she asked about sex life. Until the last part of the interview my big brain and big heart was working/responding to her interview questions, but from the sexual topic onwards the little brain down below took over, I expressed how great our sex life is , how well we synchronize and enjoy sex as if we knew each other for so many years, etc. which was true and I saw her face lit up in excitement and we both were kind of aroused. Then she asked me, out of the blue, “do you have any fantasies?” This caught me totally off guard. Didn’t know how to respond, whether to tell the truth or bullshit. I’m a normal guy with almost all fantasies typical men will have… but wasn’t sure how this would go if I express myself. Knowingly, I asked her, whether she wants the truth and will she not be upset or make a scene. She was as usual, very charming, happy go lucky girl, said go on, try me… I opened up and expressed that I like one of her best friend (she is in India) and I fantasize about her and I also like another her friend in US at that time. As I was expressing I was watching her reaction and notified all positive vibes and nods coming from her. That encouraged me to talk further about swinging, and my fantasy of having sex with one my colleague and her hubby in same room while her hubby has sex with Archi. Archi was ok until then, she got curious, but the concept was new to her, she asked some questions around how that could happen the ethics of it and all, discussion turned little serious, not in a negative way, but more in an educational and understanding way… I knew she liked the idea, she also liked my colleague’s hubby. We both were charged and horny, we walked (almost ran) back home and had great sex. 

After the sex, I opened and shown her few articles and sites about swinging, we both read articles and experiences shared by other couples together. We loved it. Most importantly, she loved it. We immediately, planned a trip to Vegas, and booked ourselves for few swinger parties, we attended those parties and were a passive participants watching others have sex and enjoy.  It was an erotic, open and a secure environment, we both got to talk to so many couples directly and we had great interactions. We came back to our hotel room and again had great sex while talking about our experience.  She okayed us to move forward and find someone with whom we could have fun. 

Here are some tips on becoming a better bottom that the tops you have sex with may not tell you either out of a desire to not offend or because they get a thrill from telling others that we bottoms cannot handle their cock ;-)

SPREAD YOUR KNEES WIDE. The wider the bottom spreads his knees, the easier it will be while in doggy style. YES! If this is the first position he puts you in, use this trick to get used to his cock. 

ARCH YOUR BACK. This will not only look sexier to him, but also make deep penetration easier and less painful.

PUSH YOUR ASS OUT. This shows the top you crave his cock in your ass. Once he is in, you can push back to the rhythm of his thrusts.

PLACE YOUR CHEST SQUARELY ON THE BED. There is a reason a top pushes your head in the pillow or the sheets. This helps arch your back and push your ass out. It’s visually stimulating, because the focus is now completely on the ass you have presented to the top. The symbolic submission is also a big turn-on to a dominant top.

RELAX YOUR ANAL SPHINCTER. Having adopted the position described in steps 1-4, you should now focus your mind on relaxing your anal sphincter. It may help to remember how you take a dump, because the muscular relaxation is identical. Steps 1-5 should, with practice, enable very deep penetration with little or no pain.

ALLOW DEEP PENETRATION. Once you’ve mastered the previous steps, you may let him spread his own legs wider than yours so he can get more directly above you to pump his cock down and deep, with his balls bouncing off your ass.

REACH FOR HIS BALLS. Many tops find this very arousing, because you are fondling the sacks that produce their sperm, affirming their manhood.

COMMUNICATE. Tell him how much you enjoy having his cock in you. Let him know if you like his scent. Ask him to go slow if you feel pain.

Additional tips may be appropriate to partners who thrive on domination and submission. In all cases, these should be within reason. Both partners must be comfortable with this. Experiment to see what works best.

LET HIM SPANK YOU. A lot of dominant men get turned on by slapping the asses they are fucking, and seeing those asses turn a rosy color.

LET HIM GRAB YOUR HAIR. Another turn-on for many dominant tops.

LET HIM HOLD YOUR NIPPLES OR MAN BOOBS. As he pumps his cock up your ass.

LET HIM CALL YOU NAMES THAT TURN HIM ON IN THE HEAT OF THE FUCK. “Bitch,” “cocksucker,” “fag,” etc. But only when used in a non-derogatory way. This is about breaking taboos (which are charged with emotional intensity) and letting both of you get aroused by embracing your (contrasting) inner natures.

LET HIM CALL YOUR HOLE A “PUSSY” OR “CUNT.” That is, after all, its functional equivalent.

Gigi Hadid

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