decadent subservience

One of my main goals when I took charge of the relationship was to find ways to increase the intimacy between my husband and I, and surprisingly, one of the largest contributors has been male chastity. When men think of intimacy, they naturally think of sex. For most guys, it's the same thing.

We've all been there, right ladies? When you're not in the mood for sex but you know he wants it. A cuddle, a few kisses and some loving touches would be nice, but you don't go there because it will encourage him to pester you for sex and at that moment you just want to be held.

So you keep him at arms length, and you both lose out on intimacy just so you can avoid having unwanted sex. You end up feeling a bit guilty for holding him off and he feels rejected. It just sucks for both of you.

Enter male chastity. Why lock up his cock? Well, while he's wearing it, it removes the pressure on you to have sex when you not in the mood for it yourself. By keeping him on a fairly rigid release schedule, he knows it isn't going to happen for him that day.

One of the amazing things about male chastity is it teaches him that while sex and intimacy can be intricately linked, they aren't necessarily the same thing. He learns that, most of the time, he doesn't need to put his penis into you to feel loved and wanted.

While he can't have penetrative sex, he will still crave other types of intimacy, and he learns that most of the time, cuddling, kissing, and touching can be enough for him to feel desired and validated, even though he remains horny.

For me persomally, once the pressure to have sex is removed, I find myself being intimate with him more often than ever before, as the reason to hold him off is eliminated. Funny thing is, random loving kisses and caresses will often put me in playful mood, while knowing things won't escalate any further than I want them to at the time.

Feeling his lust for me, tends to fuel my own desire, and I find myself teasing him to distraction while he is so helplessly locked up. Even though he is still locked in chastity and will remain so, he can't help but want to touch and caress me back, and I begin to welcome his advances.. In his lust fueled state, sexual attention in any form is better than none at all, and he concentrates on my pleasure, giving me a wonderful orgasm that I didn't think I even wanted initially.

Never lock your sub permanently into chastity. Always leave the possibility for you to unlock him so that you can edge him over and over until he begs, and aches to cum. But keep edging him, over and over, never allowing him to cum. At the end of the day when he is physically exhausted, lock him for two weeks, then start all over again… His diet should consist of gruel, like bran flakes soaked in whole milk until soggy, and he should be forced to eat it out of the bowl with his hands bound behind his back. Lunch and dinner should be a lean protein like white chicken and turkey. And again, hands bound behind the back.

There are few limitations to the ideal diet for a slave and given time every Dom/me will find the best solution. If you’re still looking for some inspiration, here’s some ideas about what and how a slave should eat.

1.) A realistic gruel should be something that keeps the slave nourished but is simple enough that preparing it or washing out its bowl won’t distract the slave from its duties for too long. Consider fuelling your car. You want it to run and run well - you don’t ask it how it likes its fuel the best. Any slave-food should also be void of any taste - the reason a slave should eat is hunger, not because its feeling like a gourmet all of a sudden. Keeping it as tasteless as possible might even make the occasional addition of a little cum very welcome. I’m thinking unseasoned scrambled egg and pieces of white bread in a bowl full of water would fit these criteria nicely. 

Another option: Soggy cereals mixed with bits of cooked liver. Or cooked rice put through the blender and then mixed with water. There’s always Soylent, if you’re feeling particularly generous. Maybe you can remember something particularly bland you’ve eaten in your life time and think of ways to rob it even that last bit of taste.

2.) Preferably a slave should eat from a single bowl on the floor, ideally metal because its easy to clean and can’t be confused with a human’s piece of kitchenware. Maybe even write its petname onto it with permanent-marker, just to be sure. Keeping the bowl clean and out of the way of its Master’s feet is obviously part of the slave’s duties.

Its bowl is both for eating and for drinking - seperating solids and fluids is a luxury that has no room in a slave’s life. Both goes into the same stomach. If a slave can’t be bothred to finish its water before dinner-time, its gruel goes into the water. If it doesn’t finish its dinner (and you allow that) the next time it gets water it will be swimming with pieces of gruel. A great way to assure it will get its proteins nevertheless.

The bowl obviously has no business in the cupboard where real people keep their kitchenware or in the dishwasher. A brush, a litte soap (cheap and rationed!) and the hose in the garden should be enough to keep it clean. If the Master’s place doesn’t have a garden (or a hose) or the slave cannot be trusted outside, a cold shower can do it. This way, it cleans two things at once. One benefit of allowing it only one single bowl for which the slave is personally responsible is that it will quickly grow attached to that bowl. It will react strongly if you threaten to take it away as punishment for any light misbehaviour. 

If you’re bored, you might even hide it and when your slave’s mealtime approach it, observe its increasing panic as it looks for its bowl (while trying to hide what it’s doing from you to avoid punishment for its carelessness). It knows that if it doesn’t find its stupid bowl before mealtime is over, it won’t get anything to eat.

For additional fun, put the bowl back before the next mealtime arrives. When the slave wants to continue its search, it will find the bowl exactly where it put it. But it already looked there, right? How can that be? It might even dare asking you for help with its search and you can reveal the bowl exactly where it belongs and chide your slave for its stupidity and show it why it needs a Master. It just can’t get by on its own. A great fun for everyone, right?

Tipp: When eating, I particuarly recommend a small bowl and cuffing the hands of the slave behind its back. That way, the slave has a harder time eating. This will not only make the slave feel more sated in the end, but burying its face deep in the gruel is a nice, disgusting way to reinforce its status. You might even take a picture of its gruel-smeared face and have it make it its phone wallpaper. So adorable! 

Of course, when or whether you allow it to wash off the food from its face is up to you.

3) Food can and should reinforce the slave’s status and the current satisfaction of its Master with its services. There are plenty of good ways to punish a slave via its food - mostly, ruining it with the help of some spices or body fluids of the Master’s choice.

Especially if the slave complains about the lack of taste to its food, a few nice spoons of hot sauce in its food should cheer it up. It better be grateful!

If you feel like your slave didn’t keep up with its cleaning, you might take away its bowl for a while and have it lick its food directly from the floor. You’ll be surprised how motivated your slave suddenly is to keep the floor clean. (Works best for kitchens and bathrooms, not so much for any room with carpet.)

If you feel your slave spends too much time lazing about or you feel it uses its meal-times to postpone its duties, you can apply a time-limit. Estimate or secretly measure the time your slave usually takes to feed - and then cut it in half. 

Watch it eat like a pig, trying to slurp down as much gruel as possible before you take the bowl away. The hurry will even help the slave overcome any hesitations about the food being ‘disgusted’ and help it learn that the taste doesn’t matter as long as it gives the slave the energy to fulfil its duties. To be helpful, you can remind it how many seconds it still has left every once in a while.

You want a task done quickly? Tell your slave to do it after preparing its food. The gruel will taste even worse cold so it’ll hurry with your task to be allowed to eat something warm. Of course, the results of it work still need to pass muster, so it better doesn’t work half-heartedly!

As I said, an easy way to punish your slave is to take away the bowl - and there better be no argument about it! You can do that whenever you want - just get up and remove it or wait until mealtime has arrived and the gruel is in the bowl. Then order your slave to flush it down the toilet.

To make eating additionally difficult for a naughty slave you can do various things:

put your slave in a corset. Eating on your knees with your hands behind your back in a corset? Not easy.

Frozen peas where it will place its knees. Not only is it painful, but your slave won’t miss the irony that the food you use to punish your slave is better than the food it gets to eat.

A blindfold. Better do that outside though. You can even spice that up with an additonal flick from your riding crop when it doesn’t expect it.

I’m a nice person, so I will mention that one advantage of a particularly bland gruel is that the slave will appreciate anything that has a taste even more. You can reward it by adding a flew slices of orange or an apple to its gruel or even allow it a bite from your food for real people. But be sure that it earned such luxury or you spoil it. Tipp: If you have a long-haired slave, the question whether its allowed to tie back its hair or not before eating from its bowl (again, no hands allowed!) is a simple but entertaining form of punishment. Or just entertaining. 4.) Outside food is obviously a problem. Slaves are like animals - the moment you turn your eyes off them, they’ll eat anything put in front of them. And since they go around pretending to be people in their every-day life, they’ll get a lot of it. Cookies at the christmas party at work? Check. They go to the movies with their ‘friends’ and order popcorn. Try your neighbour’s cake when she drops by.

They’re practically stealing food meant for real people - not to mention confusing their own minds with these notions of humanity. The best thing you can do is make sure that your slave thinks twice about taking up any offer

Enforce honesty. The moment it’s at your place it must report anything it has eaten since it last saw you. If that was a long while or your slave has ‘poor memory’ a journal might help. OR: Have it create an Instagram account where it posts pictures of everything it eats. To any other person it will only look like a complete tool but its a great way for you and the world to keep track.

Make a catalogue of punishments for any wrong or unneccessary foods: Making its gruel more water-y for a few days, additional time added to its chastity, a nasty quick flogging before its next meal, washing out its mouth with soap or any of the punishments described above. Be creative. And then: Save the catalogue on your slaves phone so that it will always have it with it. No: “I didn’t know…” or “I wasn’t sure it was on the catalogue!” No excuses. Best make it google docs, so that you can add any new ideas you come up with - your slave better check its catalogue once in a while!

Have your slave write up a list of its favourite foods. Then when it’s finished, you order your slave to pick 3 ingredients from the list that it will from now on claim to be allergic against. It will be forced to recline any offer of foods containing it - it can’t even give in one time, otherwise it’ll look like a liar in front of people it knows. Now you control when and whether it will eat its favourite foods. You might even order it to become vegetarian or vegan to the public.

Order your slave to carry a small bag of salt or hot sauce or any other taste not to its liking around with it. If it can get away with it, it is to ruin its own food- This way it’ll be conditioned to dislike people-food, especially any not served at your place.

Alcohol is a no-go (and you can easily test your slave for it). If anything, it should happily endure the mockery for ordering water at the pub if it means it gets actual clean water that’s not from a little bowl on the floor mixed with gruel and tasting of metal. More than it deserves!

If it can’t control itself, have it wear a corset under its clothes in public - maybe even lock it on. It really helps against hunger!