Dom Jamie

📌 Home cooked meals are a necessity. If you are a homemaker you should not be ordering food in or picking up take-out.

📌 Your husband’s career goals are now your goals as well. You may have to put your own career aspirations on the back burner until your children are in school full time or no longer living in the house.

📌 Your husband has the final say in household/familial issues and your obedience is key.

📌 Always respond “yes” or “okay” when your husband asks something of you. This displays respect.

📌 Your tone will either foster communication or set it back; in essence your tone sets the tempo of the relationship. Be cognizant of the manner in which you speak to your husband. Aggressive and nagging speech can negatively affect your marriage.

📌 Your husband should always be sexually satiated…if he is not it is up to you to reevaluate how you can better please him. Your pleasure should be derived from pleasing him.

‘Did I say you could stop?’

‘I wasn’t asking.’

‘Now.’

*mock begging*

‘See how pretty you look on your knees?’

*commanding* ‘Cum for me.’

'Wanna say that again, little one?’

'See? That’s a good little slut.’

'I wanna hear you beg for it.’

'You’ll take it all and you’ll like it, babygirl.’

'Good girl.’

'Didn’t learn? I guess I’ll have to punish you harder.’

'Stay still.’

*fingers down throat* 'Now you’ll be quiet for sure.’

'You feel so good, my little whore.’

You gotta feel sexy!

To be sexy, you have to feel sexy. We can’t always wear the sexy clothes we want. We can’t always dress in the skimpy outfits that make us look super desirable. We can’t always put our full slut on.

But we can always wear whatever we want beneath our clothes. No matter how boring our clothes may look on the outside, we can always dress in scandalous lingerie underneath. No one knows how slutty our underwear looks, how skimpy our bras and how see-through our panties are. But we know. We know we are looking good and that gives us the necessary confidence to appear sexy.

Because to be sexy, we first have to feel sexy. So throw away all those granny panties and from now on either racy lingerie or no underwear at all. And if we get a Man to fuck us, he will be very impressed. So it’s a win-win situation. Lingerie All The Way, All The Time!

i want to be with/marry a man who strictly enforces gender roles in his home. i want him to make me quit my job because a woman’s place is in the home, not the workplace. he’ll keep me naked or wearing skimpy lingerie while i cook and clean and make his home a peaceful haven, maybe even going as far as putting a lock on my wardrobe to make sure i don’t sneak into clothes once he leaves the house. i’ll only be permitted to wear ladylike skirts and dresses when he gives me permission to leave the house. 

i want him to make me completely financially dependent on him. he’ll make me close up all my bank accounts and transfer all my money to him. he’ll take all my credit cards (because what woman is smart enough to know how to use one of those?) and make it so i have to ask permission to buy anything or ask him if i ever need money. 

he won’t let me vote, read the newspapers or watch the news because a woman shouldn’t have a say in anything regarding politics or government, and we’re too simple minded to understand anything that goes on in the man’s world! besides, i’d have better things to do like baking him a fresh batch of cookies or making sure all his shirts are cleaned and ironed! 

my man would come home at the end of a long day and be greeted by me on my knees at the front door, either naked or in specially requested lingerie. he’d obviously gag me as soon as he came in because, after a long day at work, the last thing he needs is a woman harping on at him! i would serve him dinner and then make sure a cold beer is waiting for him in the living room after he’s finished. then he’d chain me up to the kitchen while i washed the dishes to make sure i didn’t get distracted, and he’d finish off his day by using me however he wanted! 

You don’t have to reach her perfection, most girls never will. But this is not the point. It is not about being THE best, it is about you doing YOUR best.

There’s a great phrase (perhaps a smart man can tell me who said it, please) that says something to the tune of  ‘another woman’s beauty isn’t the absence of your own.’

And it’s true. We can admire gorgeous bimbos like Nicolette with joy. Because girls like her don’t prevent the rest of us from aiming to be our own best selves.

And the great thing is, men truly appreciate our making an effort.

 They admire gorgeous models, singers, actresses, porn stars. Of course they do.

 But that doesn’t mean that they don’t want the rest of us. Far from it. They want us very much. 

Disclaimer for the assholes out there: I am not a doctor, an expert on implants or physical stuff, blah blah blah. If I get any hate about this, I will block you. I speak from personal experience. I also have to thank @sexxymoefoe for her graciousness and patience with me and my billion questions. Add to that @babyllx who is recovering from her own augmentation, I’ve also asked her a lot of questions. She had a different type of procedure than I or SMF had, which adds even more goodness and ‘been there, done that’. Together, we make a pretty good team of implant experience!! We should get capes and stuff and go fight small boob crime or something!! Shit. Got off track there. I LOVE mine, mostly. Within a month, they seemed too small to me, even though it’s all I could take, first round. I’m 5'10", broad shoulders. I got 800 cc. Not everyone can take that much, some can take more. Had I gone with my first thoughts of, just a couple of cup sizes, I want modest and natural, I’d be seriously depressed these days. I’m bummed they look as natural as they do. Yes, really. I know I’m lucky. On my thinking by myself, enter Daddy who has known a lot of girls with implants, has probably caused some to do it (like me). He said to go big. Like mandated it needed to be that way for me and said to not talk to the doctor about under 700ccs. Yeah really - he knew what would fit before I even got to the consult. I mean, you can’t do that without meeting someone in person, but still. Talk to your surgeon first, see what you can possibly fit in there safely for your body and build. Try on the ones they often have in the room, put on a shirt over. Check yourself out and take pics. Consider hard going for it. If you don’t believe me, read about the term boobie greed. Omg, it’s soooo real. HeheI don’t have back pain from the breast implants, unless I don’t wear a bra for too long or wear one that doesn’t fit properly. Really. I think it’s because I wear the right size bra. My implants are only a bit over 2 lbs each. Natural breast tissue, fatty or fibrous, may be heavier which could make more women have shoulder or back pain. I don’t know that because I never had big tits! The recovery was easy enough. I think I was off narcotics by the third day, only off work a week because I wanted a couple extra days, and other than the normal experience of after surgery recovery, it was OK. I’m not gonna lie, sometimes it hurt enough that you think you might lose your shit, but then you look down and think oh yeah, those are gonna be Sooooo good when they heal. Plus I also gave up on the drugs, remember? My own fault if I was in more pain than I needed to be. Some of your recovery depends on over, partial, or under muscle, style of implant, type of surgery, etc. If you have a lift to go along with the implants, that’s gonna probably be a bit different.Omg, this got so long! If you want them, GO FOR IT!! I can’t wait to go bigger, myself! Feel free to ask more stuff about it. I can answer privately if you prefer, but I’m thankful you gave me the opportunity to share a bit with everyone through your ask! 😘

Thanks for the ask and good luck! Oh, and when you do it, I wanna see!!!!! 🐇

I agree with @bimbo-in-training that boob greed is real but I didn’t want to go bigger for several years after my my first surgery.  It was a later development, but now I am suffering from full on boob greed even with 1500cc in me.  LOL

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1. Inconsistency - If a dominant is inconsistent in applying and checking up on his or her rules, it makes the submissive not know whether to bother following them or not, and if he or she is inconsistent in their expectations of the sub, the way they treat him or her, and how they apply their dominance, it is very unsettling for the sub, and he or she cannot possibly grow or flourish in such a relationship.

2. Apathy - if a dominant does not care much about his or her sub or their relationship, they are not going to invest the large amounts of time and energy that power-exchange dynamics need to thrive.

3. Carelessness - This may seem similar to ‘apathy’, but in this case, I am referring to a dominant who does not think through his or her actions or take the required amount of care during scenes.

4. Dishonesty - Openness, good and effective communication are even more vital in a power-exchange relationship than in a vanilla one, because at times the sub will literally be putting his or her safety into the hands of their dominant, and he or she needs to know that they can trust him or her 100%, and that they have been honest with them about their intentions and feelings, and that he or she will respect their limits, if he or she is allowed them, and that they will answer her questions and concerns truthfully.

5. Violence - I am talking about the more abusive type of action where a dominant lashes out whenever he or she becomes angry, and takes his or her rage out on a sub in a physical manner, acting in an uncontrolled way during scenes, causes harm and lasting damage to the sub as a result, and uses their power to intimidate and beat down rather than to control in a consensual manner. It is a difficult line to describe, but i know it is there and i hope that others understand the point I am trying to make.

6. Uncertainty - If a sub gives over control to a dominant, he or she expects him or her to lead, guide, train, and give orders and rules and directions; if the dominant does not know what he or she wants from him or her, does not set any rules or guidelines, is continually changing their mind, leaving him or her to make their own decisions, or worse, still asks him or her what they want and/or think for every situation, it becomes pointless.

7. Arrogance - I think there is a big difference between confidence and arrogance, and too much arrogance can be dangerous in a power-exchange relationship, as it can make the dominant believe he or she is invincible, and that they can do anything they like, and that he or she is the only person that matters; that it should be all about him or her. Ultimately, it can make him or her blame the sub for their own mistakes, neglect their needs entirely, attempt things he or she really is not capable of or competent at, putting the sub at real risk, and turn into the type of person that nobody respects or likes or wants to be around, let alone have a relationship. I think a good dominant needs to keep a tight rein on his or her arrogance, and not let it become too much.

I’ve been thinking about this for some time – since the deletion of my old blog, actually – and I’ve decided it’s time to move on from Tumblr.

This has nothing to do with depression (from which I’ve emerged), but rather two very simple - yet inescapable - truths:

As you all know, my career is one of the most important things in my life and I really can’t afford to be distracted by this blog.  But more importantly, and perhaps more relevantly, I really have nothing new to say on this blog; everything I think and feel about Traditional Gender Role relationships has already been written either by me or by one of the other great bloggers out there.

I won’t be deleting this blog.  I figure the archive is important for people to have as a reference tool, particularly the articles on safety.

Let me say a few last things.

Don’t let my writings influence what you should want in a relationship – you want what you want, and you need what you need.  My writings should never influence you toward a particular form or shape you should want for your relationship.

The most important factors in your relationship - whatever form that may take – are Consistency, Communication, and Consent.  If you’re looking for gaslighting in your relationship, make sure you give/have consent. Same with hitting, same with the dynamic, same with every single factor of what you share with another.  Consent is key, and when you factor in Communication and Consistency, you’ll find that you’ll be happier in life when you’re in a Traditional Gender Role relationship that applies the Three C’s.

Ladies, do as you’re told by a good man and everything will be fine.  Gentlemen, be a man - not some testosterone driven douchebag, but a man with control over himself and over his best girl’s universe.  Be ambitious.  Be politically incorrect.  Be an individual.

And yes, be a rebel.  Being a traditionalist in modern times is the very definition of rebellion.  Be that rebel with a cause.

Don’t be racist - racism is not traditional.

Don’t be hateful - hate contributes nothing.

Unlearn the crap society has been teaching you.  The majority is usually wrong.  Only independent thinkers hold truth in their hands.

Most importantly, I want you all to be happy.  That was the whole point of this blog - to take you from the misery of hopelessness into the knowledge that - assuming you’re an adult - you’re not too young or old to pursue a Traditional Gender Role relationship, you’re not too young or old to have old-fashioned values, you’re not too young or old to look toward your future and see something bright on the horizon.

And that’s the reason I’m walking away from Tumblr.  It makes me happy to know where my life is going.  My career is reaching its peak, I’m closer than ever to my friends and family, and - despite the occasional bout of depression caused by stress - I’m happier than I’ve ever been.

So, in closing this blog, I want to thank you for reading and supporting me.  My sincere hope for you all is that you have a happy life and that you find the Traditional Gender Role relationship of your dreams.

Best wishes,

Please. Serve. Obey. PSO.

I can’t think of a more important concept to teach girls than this, it is a fundamental part of what attracts a good Man to a girl. To all my girl followers, please take note: unless you want to end up sad and alone, PSO is something that should be ingrained in your behavior and personality. Further, pleasing good Men with your body should be your number one priority, if not with your holes then with your appearance and personality.

Part of that is dressing to please. I can’t tell you how many times I have been requested to wear stockings, garter belt and heels by the Men I have been with! At this point in my life, I really don’t feel comfortable going out without them on! For the most part, that is what a good Man wants to see and so we should all do our best to give it to them! They deserve our adoration and respect so please dress in such a way that reflects that 😘

I am somewhat back from my hiatus so feel free to shoot me a message girls if you have any questions or need advice!

Why bother with pants?

No, seriously, why should we bother with pants? They are horrible to put on and peeing in them is a huge chore. They don’t even look that good. Sure some tight ones can look good, but an average dress is often much sexier and a sexy dress just wipes the floor with any pants. And yes, hotpants are sexy and can be quite enticing, but mini skirts are equally as sexy if not sexier.