Doendraga Barabharsyn

Here’s another thing that didn’t make it when the plan I mentioned earlier fell through and I don’t want it to just sit around where nobody can see it when I’m still happy with how it came out.

When you don’t want to ruin your FC mates’ RP immersion, you get put in the cabinet. There there Suwan, there there… XD

Mark your Calenders! The first (as far as I know) Black Markets is on the way in Balmung!

HELP US BY REBLOGGING AND GETTING THE WORD OUT!

Hello friend!  I just want to say a few things.  

If you roleplay with me:

Your lore knowledge doesn’t have to be perfect and your concept can be a little different than the norm.  All I care about is if it seems possible and you’re playing it well.

You don’t have to have an elaborate backstory.  What your character is doing right now is more important to me.

You don’t have to be popular.  Popularity’s in the eye of the beholder anyway and being popular doesn’t necessarily mean you’re nice or fun to be around.

Your character doesn’t need to to have “shipping” potential with mine.  It’s okay for our characters to just be friends or business partners or even enemies.

You don’t need to worry that I don’t like you.  I do like you and want to RP with you!  Sometimes I don’t have enough hours in the day, or week, or sometimes real life gets in the way.

You don’t need to apologize if you feel anxious or something is bothering you and you need to talk OOC.  I feel those things too, more than you might know.  

You don’t need a reason to walk away from our RP if you want to.  If you’re not having fun, for any reason, I understand.  Life is too short to spend your fun time doing something that isn’t fun.

Even if we’re not RP partners, I care that you’re in this community.  I like seeing the things you post, all of your creativity.   I appreciate the likes and reblogs.  The silly OOC things you do in-game are hilarious!  

I hope you have a good day and that you’re looking forward to more RP times in Stormblood as much as I am.

If you have an issue with something your partner is doing.

Talk to them.

If you’re unsure about something.

Talk to them.

If you aren’t feeling a ship but they’re still excited about it.

Talk to them.

I cannot tell you how many times a relationship with a writing partner has gone downhill all because they would not talk to me about something. Blocking with no explanation, blocking because you don’t like what the other person said (not harassment, you just don’t like what they said), blocking because you’re angry is not the correct way to handle these situations. Some people will take that blocking very negatively, especially if you don’t talk it through, offer any explanation or give any indication as to what drove you to that to start with.

You could trigger a panic attack, cause someone to suffer a relapse or even drop back into self harm because they don’t know what they did wrong. 

This is not how you handle these things, this is not how you treat other people. There needs to be ample and even communication on both sides. If you are angry, upset or anything like that then step away for a bit. Go do something to calm down and THEN come back and talk to them.

A majority of drama on this site is caused directly from lack of communication or misunderstanding.

If you want to respect your partners then you need to take the time to LISTEN to them. You need to have the ability to be patient and try to see what they’re saying. If it turns to harassment then, yes, block them by all means. If not, then you need to try and listen.

And that’s funny because I came to this particular side of this ridiculous site for that very reason - To make friends.

Bottom line, don’t block your partners without talking it out first. I don’t give a fuck if you have anxiety and you don’t like confrontation - Anxiety or a fear of communication does NOT give you a free pass to block your partners when you think they’re not looking, it only makes you a selfish fuck and it WILL hurt someone down the road.

OP, I have no idea who you are. But I love you for making this post, and I want everyone to see it.