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Now imagine if instead of saying “I don’t understand why you make these stories, but you do you” and fucking off to look at stories they do like, that character instead says “your stories are ugly and unwanted, no decent person should tolerate you making them” and rallies the others to ban the creation of these kind of stories, shame the creator out of town, and declare anyone who would want such a story to be nasty and gross.
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I really shouldn't have put on my resume that I'm good with technology, because every day at work someone's like, "hey wait, you can fix the ipad right?" and I have to look at them, adjust my glasses, think of all of the cool shit I do running shell scripts and using utilities to shape my computer into a machine that can do anything I want, and say, "no. sorry. I have absolutely no idea how to do that."
I don't care if they're the highest grossing movies on planet freakin Earth, you say "Avatar" and everyone and their mom still thinks that bald little bitch and his magic cow. Soggy James can keep his millions, he'll never have the streets.
We Must Infantilize Superman for the Greater Conservative Good
[Kryptonite Spectrum #5, this pic is not entirely related to anything, i just wanted baby Superman]
James Gunn's 2019 film Brightburn is often described as an "evil Superman horror movie". And that's not really accurate. It's an evil Superboy film. It pulls influence from the "evil children" horror trope popularized by films like The Omen, but with a superhero twist of course. Children are innocent and harmless, so we project purity onto them. The horror comes from how messed up it is to see children corrupted to the point of being the source of evil. It's unnatural.
But we also expect Superman to be good to the point of projecting a kind of moral purity onto him. Following this logic, it would be horrific to see Superman be evil, right? So why didn't Gunn make a film about an evil adult Superman? Well, for the same reason The Omen wouldn't be as spooky if it was about an adult Anti-Christ. Powerful, evil men are things we expect, they're natural. Not only has Evil Superman been explored from the comics to the DCAU's Justice Lords, to the Injustice universe- but characters like Homelander would debut from The Boys series in the same year Brightburn came out. You could even argue that more morally complex characters like Dr Manhattan from Watchmen serve as speculative cynical deconstructions of Superman-like figures.
The point is, evil Supermen are a dime-a-dozen. Of course we expect grown men to misuse great power. An evil Superboy has an innocence that preys on a primal, if not conservative fear; what if we can't control who our children become? What if no matter how hard you Kansas Parents(tm) your son, he'll turn out to be something Other than a good liberal Christian American?
I've covered how weirdly controversial it is to ask "what is Superman's motivations?" before. You get all sorts of reactions from "Superman is a nice guy! Is it that hard to believe people can want to do good things?” to the vitriolic “It’s sociopathic to ask why people are nice without benefit! Lex Luthor mindset”. The distillation of Superman from a character with basic motivations and thematic interiority to a company mascot means the inevitable de-politicization of the more radical characterization of Superman as an undocumented immigrant. In my Why Superman Is Boring Sometimes writeup, I discuss how this unwillingness to define Superman's motivations inevitably leaves him up to conservative interpretation.
But I want to analyze this phenomenon from a different perspective. The popular empty response to "what is Superman's motivations? Why does he believe in what is right and wrong" is “Superman is a good man who upholds American values because he was raised by good Kansas parents”. This insufficient answer has always fascinated me. Why do people think "mom and dad told me what's right and wrong" is at all applicable to a grown adult superhero? Did Clark never rebel against his parents? Question their generation's authority? Did he ever come into his own politics as an individual?
I've discussed the inherit conservative root behind the belief that Liberal Christian American values are universal and inherit to human nature. And that itself comes from a fetishized idea of purity. In my personal opinion, children are innocent but they're not "pure". They don't come into existence with an internal set of perfect beliefs, they're impressionable. But to the conservative, children are pure until they find out what "transgender" is. Children were raised by their perfect parents and then become corrupted when they leave that bubble set by the correct adults. When children express agency and autonomy outside of their parents' desires, they have to be controlled.
Children are a marginalized group. They're weaponized as politicized pawns for "think of the children" fear mongering. To invest in them and their education is to invest in the future. But kids also have no agency over how they're largely treated. In the process of their innocence being turned into fetishized purity, children get dehumanized as property owned by their parents. Through this, children exist as mere extensions of their parents.
In the badly researched trans-fear-mongering book, Irreversible Damage, we never get the perspective of the trans children most of the case studies in the book are about. The author is content to keep the perspective of the book solely from that of the parents of these trans kids. This choice comes with an implicit message; that parents know their children better than children know themselves. So we don't need to hear how the kids feel. The parents are the ultimate authority. Through their objective perspective, it's like their children just snapped one day when they got corrupted- regardless of observable dysphoria.
[Brandon Breyer from Brightburn]
Brightburn portrays our Superboy-stand in's corruption much like that of the trans children in Irreversible Damage. It sticks closely to the perspective of the parents, but whenever we do get insight on the child in question, they're depicted in this warped way. Brandon may have been a bit nerdy, quiet and moody, but the second he's seduced by the foreign alien calls of his origin planet, it's like he snapped into becoming a different person. We know Brandon seeks to feel in control of his life through newfound power, but he's not given the empathetic lens of other sympathetic horror monsters. He's the trans kid who visited a GSA one time and seized to be the kid you raised.
But I've misled you a bit there, most of the subjects in Irreversible Damage aren't children anymore. As of the book's writing, they're adults who sought out transition after escaping their parents. So why is the book still uninterested in their perspective? Well, it's because we can weaponize how we infantilize marginalized groups. The full title for Irreversible Damage is "The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters". Trans men are confused women, and women are pure like children. These silly kids fell for a "craze" like it's some sort of trend. They have been seduced and corrupted. "Our Daughters" dictates ownership of them. It doesn't matter that certain marginalized people grew into adulthood. If needed, we can still project a retained childhood status onto them to rob adults of their agency.
So you might think of something like Superman 2025 as a rebuttal to all this. It's not just the Kents who traditionally help define Superman's morals after all, it's the hopeful message Jor and Lara (Clark's foreign Kryptonian parents) send to their son too. So wouldn't a film that has Clark reject his biological parents break out of this conservative mold for the character? Well no, because Jor and Lara are written like the living embodiment of Replacement Theory and Yellow Peril caricature. So this only ends up solidifying the film's xenophobia. What about the Kents?
We have this scene much later in the movie where Clark is sitting with Pa Kent during a dark night of the soul moment. Clark idealized his foreign parents, and just found out they weren't the good people he thought they were from the incomplete message they gave him. Pa Kent tells Clark this:
"Parents aren't for telling their children who they're supposed to be. We are here to give y'all tools, help you make fools of yourselves. All on your own. Your choices, Clark. That's what makes you who you are."
Sounds good enough on the surface, right? But like most things in the film, it's lip service. Clark doesn't actually form his own opinions in the movie, he just ends the story replacing the foreign parents he put on a pedestal with his American ones. Idealizing them instead. Superman's character is static in this film. Clark doesn't grow, he just needed to be affirmed that his inherit purity was already on the right track. After all, it's his Kansas-Parents-infused upbringing that made Clark assume such a charitable interpretation of an incomplete Call To Conquer message from his foreign parents.
We have no idea why Superman is pro-Jarhanpur, an opinion so deviant from the American conscious of the narrative- that even his fellow co-workers at the Daily Planet are confused as to why Superman is against Boravia as an American ally. So somehow we're to assume he got this radical opinion from his parents too. After all, we have no evidence that Clark has opinions of his own outside of some parental figures' vague mission statement. Once you start looking back at the film through this lens, you'll realize that Superman is a deeply infantilized character. Not infantilized as in he's a character you want to cuddle like he's a helpless child. No, I mean Superman has become a politically infantilized character.
There's a reason why Lois comes around to Superman's ways by looking around his teenage boy-coded bedroom back in Smallville. Even though this scene has nothing to do with the couple's heated political disagreement, the film invokes childhood purity and innocence as a vague solution to their fight.
"When I was writing the scene of her looking around in his room, it was initially more just about the childhood of it all. [...] It's her seeing his parents being so sweet to him. And for me, that's a moment in which I think we see Lois understand who he is..."
-James Gunn in a Rollingstone interview.
We have authorial admission from the director that he meant to invoke childhood vibes initially, but ultimately landed on the theme of parental care in this scene. Despite Superman being a full grown adult, he still needs his parents nursing him back to health like a child. Please forget our grown up political debate, I'm a little kid with sweet parents. Argument over.
Earlier in the movie, we see Clark Kent go to his job at the Daily Planet while taking a video call from his parents on his phone. The Kent parents are portrayed as old fashioned. They relatably struggle with tech and yell too loudly over the phone all while Clark doesn't really pay attention to them as he greets his young friends at work.
Clark is distracted by the hustle and bustle of city life. By the time he's tired out and has his dark night of the soul moment, Clark's reminded that he almost got corrupted by the world outside of Kansas. In a way, Smallville is representative of pure innocent childhood and Metropolis is adult life with its complications. That's why Kansas farm life is portrayed so romantically in the movie. In the big city, Clark's superhero peers are chill with murder and his co-workers at the Daily Planet are all centrists about Jarhanpur and Boravia. It's like being a kid dealing with peer pressure. Clark needed mommy and daddy to tell him that his own beliefs are cool too. Punk rock, even.
To bring this all back to Gunn, it fits so neatly into his "we've lost the American way" mindset.
"I mean, people did value kindness in the past. That was an American value, was kindness. And it doesn't necessarily seem to be that way to me anymore."
-Gunn in an Entertainment Weekly interview.
We're all children who are corrupted and confused. What we need now more than anything is to return to the unquestioned, universal, inherit, and most of all pure, good of our conservative parents. Don't worry, you're choosing to idealize your parents, so it's almost like having agency. If that's not convincing enough, we can lampshade it with some dialogue about being your own person. Geez, don't think about it too much!
I, and likeminded fans, like to interpret Martha and Jonathan Kent's adoption of a baby Kal-El as a defiant act against conservative America. The two of them agreed to adopt and protect an undocumented immigrant as if he was their own. But it would be disingenuous to say that every incarnation of Superman's adoption follows that lens. After all, the Kents adopt a baby from a culture they don't know about or have access to. They have no choice but to raise Kal El as Clark Kent, with Christian American culture and values. Kal may be foreign, but he's still a white passing baby. Adoption, while a loving act, is also historically a tool for settler colonialism and cultural assimilation of the foreign Other. It's not unheard of for Superman stories to play into this notion of an American couple civilizing a savage foreign baby.
"The message of the Superman movie is *not* "rah, rah, immigrants!" it's "look at the amazing values, ethics, and morals someone not from here, no matter their native land, can learn from people who are good and kind Americans." how is that not the most patriotic message imaginable?"
-Mark Waid, facebook post
"The whole point of the movie is that a child came to America with nothing and no knowledge of how to act, and he learned what is good and noble and right by growing up here. How is that possibly anti-American?”
-Mark Waid, from a Forbes aritcle
I don't mean to imply that a rebellious childhood is an inherently progressive thing to write. It's totally fine to write stories about characters with nice upbringings through kind and grounded parents. But children are not their parents. Children aren't paper cut out clones of their parents. Children aren't just extensions of their parents, they are their own person.
This rhetoric applies to adopted kids as well. Superman, even as a baby Kryptonian, is more foreign than any human adopted child. He's from another planet. If even kids butt heads with their bio parents, then how come a foreign child from outer space can't have any conflict with his adoptive parents? Does it get too close to home when a foreigner starts questioning and challenging his American parents? When his foreign existence can't be assimilated away by the tight grip of protective parents?
[panels from Superman Smashes the Klan]
Superman's coming of age is ripe for conflict and drama. Writers who aren't afraid to write Clark's relationship with Ma and Pa Kent as flawed and even antagonistic at times will ultimately find themselves with stronger characterization for Superman. Because this means Superman's beliefs aren't Copy Pasted from the Kents. Superman's ideals come from his unique circumstance and existence as an adopted undocumented immigrant.
There is a strange irony at the heart of Superman 2025. It's a film that desperately wants to prove to the viewer that Superman is human. It does this by having Superman assert his humanity through the rejection of his foreign alien heritage. By placing America at the center of universal human kindness, the film argues for xenophobia and the assimilation of foreigners.
[panels from Superman Smashes the Klan]
But there's another wrinkle to the irony of Superman 2025. Through the political infantilization of Superman in all the ways conservatives fetishize childhood purity and innocence, the film in turn, dehumanizes him. It turns Superman into the property of American Kansas Parents, an extension of them with no rebellious thoughts or feelings of his own. Only through Superman's supposed corruption, could he ever be free of how we marginalize children. The immigrant is now the eternal child who doesn't know any better and is not allowed to grow up.
if i was in an alien movie i'd be luring the xenomorph into a hot wok and adding chili, garlic, ginger, shaoxin wine, scallions, white pepper and sesame oil
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They’d be posting ”An exquisite day for a most elegant lady” and then a picture of the cutest tea party you have ever seen for a Gardevoir wearing a lovely little hat
[“Why is it so hard for men to feel like they can decide for themselves what their identity looks like? Why is it that we deny them vulnerability? The truth is that challenging masculinity norms and getting men to define themselves on their own terms is even more threatening to the system than women gaining their rights and challenging norms around femininity in society. The system relies on the inherent myth of male aggression and dominance to maintain its legitimacy.
Reichert spoke plainly on this. “We are more rigidly wedded to masculine norms, norms for male development. This is for a variety of reasons. There hasn’t been a movement comparable to the women’s movement advocating for freer expression of male emotions and challenging stereotypes. Also, I think it’s important to say that reproducing a prototypical male identity is more at the core of our social organization.”
Female identities, because they are not cast as the leading forces but rather as the following forces of our society, are treated as secondary. “The idea that a boy may be empowered to define himself as a man on his own terms is too threatening to the predictable reproductive process,” Reichert said, referring to reproduction in an academic sense—as the social organization that reproduces itself from generation to generation.
All of this has culminated in a notable absence of a gender revolution for men. While the idea that women are naturally communal and emotional and men are naturally self-interested and rational has stuck over time, women have been narrowing the gap when it comes to embracing more masculine-type behaviors including being competitive and individualistic. But there has been very little narrowing on the other end.
This can be partially explained by a lack of cultural or institutional change in the ways in which we devalue female-type characteristics, activities, and jobs. Where “women’s work” is seen as less prestigious, less skilled, more menial or petty, the incentive for men to leave their traditional spaces and take on such work is very weak. On the other end, many women seeking upward mobility are incentivized by the high value—culturally and institutionally—of men’s work.
To put it bluntly, our gender revolution may have succeeded in helping some groups of women access opportunities their mothers couldn’t, but it has failed abysmally in changing cultural norms around what is valued. This has not been just a gross oversight of the movement; it has so far been a fatal one.
In this case, telling women to hoard male-type opportunities, and not insisting on a full revaluing of gendered roles and work, still leaves large groups of women forced into performing essential and invisible emotional labor at a discount—or worse. And denying men basic human features like emotions and connected relationships is a short end of the straw for them too. Forcing men to be hypermasculine pushes them into destructive behaviors that threaten us all.
In the Promundo study, men in the United States and the United Kingdom who identified more strongly with the seven pillars of the man box were six to seven times more likely to report perpetrating physical in-person or online bullying compared to men who did not strongly identify with the pillars. They were six times more likely to report perpetrating sexual harassment and were more at risk of violence from others. They were also likely to engage in destructive behaviors like binge drinking and less likely to have close personal relationships.”]
rose hackman, from emotional labor: the invisible work shaping our lives and how to claim our power, 2023
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making the radical claim "11 year old children should be taught how to make extremely simple food" has resulted in people making arguments like "I wasnt allowed to plug in electronics until I was 16 and I think this is super normal actually" and "children dont know what ratios are so its unfair to expect them to be able to comprehend the idea of adding equal amounts rice and water to a rice cooker" and I gotta say originally I thought maybe I was being too judgy but now I feel very secure in my opinion because what the fuck
edit you are all so annoying and wrong everyone shut the fuck up !!!!!!! i literally do not care what year you learned to cook and the way you all view disabled people is fucking gross.
I'm gonna double down on "11 year old children should know cooking basics" and state firmly that 6 year old children should know cooking basics. By the age of six I could assemble basics foods like macaroni and cheese or instant noodles, could follow recipes and make (box) cake or cookies, knew how to measure ingredients and stir and pan and boil and bake. I was allowed to use sharp knives and use the stove and oven. I could bake bread.
Hell, I was 'helping mommy/daddy cook' by cracking eggs and stirring things and flattening dough balls etc at the age of Three.
If your parents didn't begin teaching you these skills as soon as you had the gross motor functions to perform them, they were being negligent.
At what age do you think a child with normative motor skills development should be able to -dress themselves- btw? At what age should a kid know how to use buttons, tie shoes, etc? These are similar skills to cooking in terms of gross motor function.
this is a cook book for children that i grew up with. I routinely recommend it, and books like it, to anyone who is learning to cook for the first time. the children portrayed in this book appear to be between 8-12 years old, which is also about the time my dad taught me to make spaghetti. I had this book well before then.
the book starts with various kitchen safety rules(most of which i now have ingrained into me), explanations and conversions for imperial measurements, and contains the basics you'd expect on a cook book like a glossary and divided sections for breads, pastas, desserts, etc.
this is not an isolated item, you can find these at all sorts of levels of reading and expected skill. it is normal for children to cook. it is normal for children to cook unsupervised and for themselves once they have learned basic kitchen safety. it is normal for children to have a certain level of independence.
I was more than capable and allowed to make grilled cheese, canned soup, and scrambled eggs on the gas stove at age 7-8. I knew how to wash and prepare raw fruits and veggies for snacks and how much I was allowed of things like cookies and chips and when I could have them as snacks. I could help my younger siblings make or make them these things too.
Adults have tons of stuff to do- why wouldn't you want a kid to be a little independent and able to make themselves a sandwich or get a snack to do their homework with? Why shouldn't a kid be able to look after themselves to an age appropriate degree?
when i was FOUR years old, i was taught how to make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, which, while not the healthiest thing in the world, does contain proteins, fats, sugars, carbs, and some amount of fruit -- nearly a complete meal.
At not quite five years old i was introduced to our family's 2-part dinner rule for children:
A: you have to take at least one bite of everything you haven't tried before, so you actually know if you like it or not.
B: if you do not like the dinner that has been made for you, you are welcome to make yourself a reasonable meal of your own.
In other words, at four years old, i was allowed to decide that i did not like what was for dinner and have something else, but the something else had to be a reasonable meal, and i had to make it myself.
tumblr is (rightfully!) horny for trains but i need you to understand buses can be just as sexy as train transport. if this sounds fake it's because the bus systems you've interacted with have been purposefully hobbled by bad funding/management. i promise well-run bus transit is SO fucking hot actually start panting
i just heard the phrase “if you wouldn’t trust their advice, don’t trust their criticism” for the first time and i don’t think i’ve ever needed to hear anything more
There’s a new class in Black Desert called Hashashin. His black features and haircuts are so good 😭😭😭 the afro doesn’t look like a cocoa puff. Luscious lips, a straight hairline, a fade. It’s glorious!!!
I hardly see black hairstyles look this good in games like this 😭😭😭 you can’t play as him yet but I can’t wait
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