How would the boys help a s/o whoās experienced trauma in the past, and has a fear of being touched, but feels bad and wants to get better? They want to do things like hold hands and hug, but just canāt, so they feel bad because physical affection is something they want to experience.
//also i have no idea if this okay or not :( iām sorry//
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- He would let you come to him. Heās hardly ever proactive in getting love from his lover. Heās patient and will wait for you to open up when youāre comfortable.
- Shu will try and urge you to get out of your comfort zone. Heāll take it slow and try to hold your hand, maybe sit close to you while just barley touching, and heāll be around you to let you get used to him.
- He doesnāt really care that thereās a lack of contact. He just wants to be in your presence a lot of the time.
- When it comes to blood sucking heāll try to keep contact to a minimal, but he will still drink from you when he needs.
- Reiji will try and understand why youāre not comfortable with contact. He might get really nosy with it since he cares for you he wants to know all about you. Itāll help him avoid making you uncomfortable. He doesnāt want to scare you away from him.
- Heāll make sure you know to not feel bad about not wanting to be touched. He will get annoyed at times, but heāll accept it overall.
- He expects you to be able to communicate what is a āsafe touchā and what isnāt. Heās fine with you being nervous, but he isnāt fine with you not communicating your struggles. Be honest with him.
- Heās good at reading your body language so heāll know when heās taking things too far. Reiji will try and make contact with you every now and again. Heāll try to hold your hand, maybe brush against your fingers if heās handing you something, and will limit other contact.
- Ayato isnāt too good at respecting your boundaries. He doesnāt quite understand why you wouldnāt want to be touched and held.
- Heāll slowly begin to accept your fears and anxieties. He wants to relieve you of some fears so you two can have a closer relationship.
- Heāll be clumsy, but heāll try and go easy on the touching. Heāll do stuff like holding your hand, wrapping you loosely in a blanket, and trying to find activities to do with you that donāt involve touching.
- Heāll push you a lot to get over your fear of touch. Heāll show you that being touched can make you feel good. It doesnāt have to be in a risquĆ© way, either. He wants touch in casual ways as well.
- Kanato will understand your fear of being touched. Though he has few boundaries. Heāll try and get you to work through it. He will be quite assertive and do as he pleases.
- Heāll try to tone down his touching, but heāll end up getting upset with you. Kanato will listen to you more than anything. Heāll start to change his behavior slowly, but surely. Itāll involve a lot of tantrums before he understands.
- When he finally understands he just needs to take things slow to help you get used to it, heāll be content. He wants to know heās able to at least touch you somehow.
- Heāll start off with small touches. Hand holding, playing with your hair, adjusting your outfits for you.
- It will take Laito quite a bit of scolding for him to respect your fears. Heās very much a touch driven person, so using words to communicate feelings is hard for him.
- After a few arguments about him not respecting you, heāll try and build trust with you. Heāll work on using sweet words in place of touches. He wants you to ease into things once he realizes how serious your fears are.
- Heāll start with small touches when you begin to trust him. Heāll kiss your hand, cheek, or forehead. Laito will start out with side hugs after soft kisses for a while. He wonāt expect you to touch him much, but he wouldnāt mind if you wanted to.
- Laito will make sure you feel confident in yourself. Heāll want you to know that he really cares for you, both physically and verbally. Heāll try to work through some of the insecurities you have surrounding being touched. He wonders if you may be insecure about yourself.
- Heād be insecure about your fears. He might get angry at times. Heās really insecure, and the way you seem to not want him to touch you hurts him. Heāll try his best to understand itās because of trauma, but heāll end up blaming himself for your fears. He knows he hasnāt always been the kindest.
- Heāll ask you before he does things and will ask if you feel ok. Subaru will try and make sure you feel comfortable with him. He wants you to be secure with him.
- Subaru will make sure you know he doesnāt have many expectations. Heāll hug you to hug you, not to expect anything from you later. He doesnāt want to over do any sort of physical touch.