cold soul

I. You do not need a boy to buy expensive, lacy underwear. Wear it for yourself. You look great. Never let anyone convince you otherwise. II. If you spend all your time waiting for things to happen, you’re letting other people control your fate. Time won’t wait for you. Get a move on. III. Living off the scraps of love from other people will leave you hungry. Grow to love yourself and you won’t die of starvation. IV. Learn when to care and when to laugh it off. If somebody hurts you, tell them. If they hurt you again, leave. V. Life is too short to spend it sad. You don’t need approval to turn up the music and dance like you’re America’s next model. You look funny. Learn to stop caring. VI. If it’s edible and you’re hungry, eat it. If it’s edible and you want to eat it, eat it. If it’s edible and you’re full , convince the girl in the corner who looks like she’s starving to have it. Tell her she’s goddamn beautiful and repeat it until she smiles. VII. If he doesn’t call you after your first argument, he won’t call you after your last. If his arms are slack when you make up, he hasn’t let it go. If he can’t look you in the eye when he says he loves you, he’s lying. And if he watches you walk away with tears in your eyes, he’s not the one. VIII. Your mother went through nine months of hell for you and prepared herself to go through another eighteen years of it. She does not deserve your impatience because some boy did not notice you at school. IX. Your emotions may not make sense and sometimes you will be irrational, but they will always be valid. You are allowed to cry if you are hurt. You are allowed to find bad jokes funny. And you are allowed to scream if you want to, but it is better to laugh. X. You are not perfect but that does not give other people the right to use it against you. Stop apologizing for everything. It will not make you more likable. Take responsibility for yourself and demand respect, not compliments. XI. No one can tell you the meaning of life. Happy people are the ones who have found their own meaning.

Important lessons I’ve learnt in 2016 • Everything is temporary, no exceptions. • Sometimes you won’t get what you want but months later that will turn out to be the biggest blessing • At the end of the day it’s just you, love and care for yourself everyone else comes second • Get out of bed even when you don’t want to. Staying in bed only adds to the pain • Don’t wait for the right time, there’s never a right time • You don’t need anyone’s approval • Relax, it will be ok there is always tomorrow