a new york bender, a bender in new york

You are not going to be great in sex if you can’t calm your mind, get out of your head, and relax your body. Or you will strugggle greatly with sex if you live with depleted energy due to your daily habits. Modern culture and its dopamine addictions have downgraded the quality of sex. Acts like yoga, breathwork, meditation, tai chi, martial arts, humming, eating quality food, nature walks or focus drills like doing one thing at a time, like washing dishes, without stopping and doing anything else until the task is completed will help your body to get out of flight or flight and be the kind of body that has the capacity—groundedness, passion, relaxation, and focus— to be able to make love well. —India Ame’ye