die mad about it

Being supportive of binary people is relatively simple, they have decided to sort themselves into one of the boxes that we have lots of experience interacting with. Being supportive of nonbinary people can be comparatively tricky, because you have to resist the urge to create box C and drop them all there. That's how we end up with various prejudices like "woman lite". Humans really, really like to categorize things. It helps us think. Unfortunately, sometimes it helps us think wrong.

(as always, love the art. I love how soft you make them look :( ur comics of them are my Roman empire)

I write all the dialogues pretty much for my comics and have written him in my fan fiction.

Here are some pointers for mine and how I build him up:

I really tired to dissect his character and build on those qualities I observed. He is strong but not inherently violent. He has a lot of skeletons in his closet, due to him being a child soldier. He never asked to be put up to this circumstance in a fucked up world. He was good at his job, even if it was bad. There’s accountability for that but also the need for survival. Like what would you do if your only chance of survival in a cult was to follow orders from age 12 in an isolated messed up situation. It gets very complicated pretty fast on the grand scheme of things. My biggest thing is he’s not this angry enraged man. The anger stems from anxiety and fear, and it takes quite a bit of building up for him to even get there. HES ALSO SMART. Ohmygod he’s so smart and it makes me so sad when ppl dont betray him as such.

He’s also gentle in ways. His connection to his brothers, his stim of rubbing his mother’s knife sheath, patting and apologizing machinery he hit in frustration, warning the coi and whoever comes next of the creature, the constant apologizing when he’s done something he regrets. He’s much more complex than some ppl see him on the surface.

He also doesn’t believe what Eden stands for or the COI. He’s a free thinker at the end of the day again trying to survive. His situation sucks and he doesn’t have much of a choice in the matter.

I took that basically and threw those concepts into my fic:

First meeting Grace: trust issues, mood swings, and dissociation. In my head would be stand offish and distant at first, but not violent. He gets frustrated at the situation or not being listened to, again building up into a bit of an anger outburst. I tired showing that in my fic. Think of a dog whose bark is worse than his bite:

I also make him gentle in small ways. Always saying thank you. Using soft pats for armando/stimming with his moms sheath. He also has spouts of emotions overwhelming him (the mood swings from trauma)

(Ive only written 7 chapters thus far and its a slow burn, so its gradual with relationship building)

Thinking past that initial meeting, and continuous meetings, he’d come out of his shell. I like to think of his as awkward at first, but it’s endearing he’s trying

Now I haven’t written out more of that comfortability in my fic yet, but it shows in my comics (tho it may not be super accurate as i do exaggerate a lot to make the content funny. Take it with a grain of salt)

I think he’d be gentle, patient to a point, and caring of Graces wellbeing as he grows more fond of him.

Parts of himself he had to bury deep while being apart of Eden can finally take a front seat. A quippy side specifically is shown in the movie, and i know that same quippness could be used for cracking jokes. We just couldn’t see it due to the film obviously being horror, but I like to think that.

Also on eden he was constantly told what to be and who to be. On erid he can make his own choices and after some getting use to he takes full advantage of it (aka giving affection to Graces without feeling shame/guilt/repression)

for the freaks out there💪