What if life was easier than we make it out to be? What if all that stuff we think we have to take on isn't ours and we don't really need to worry about it? What if a lot of the pain we experience in our lives is actually just us in our own minds? Yes, sometimes the experience causes pain, but more often than not we make that pain worse through our thoughts. The experience itself starts it and the mind says "hold my beer" and finishes it. What if we could manage our thinking and understand our emotions in a way that allowed us to be okay more of the time? My life experience, specifically my healing journey over the last 9 years, has taught me self-mastery. It's taught me this process of managing thoughts and emotions, gaining mental clarity around those things, and then shifting my behavior to something that didn't offer more pain. I've learned how to be okay in my experience without really changing my experience. Sometimes I use the analogy making yourself comfortable in a chair. You squirm around a bit. You find a comfy pillow or two, maybe a blanket, and you curl up and get comfy. Well, that's how life works. You're given the chair which is your experience in your life, and you're asked to make it work. But unlike a regular old chair that you sit in, you never bother to find a way to make life more comfortable for yourself, instead you roll around in the misery and wonder why you're not happy. My life changed, not because I worked on changing external circumstances, but because I changed myself within those circumstances. I stopped reacting to the experience because I began to understand that my reactions and my interpretations of the experience were causing more pain. I learned to shift my behavior so that didn't happen anymore. I spent years just working on my thoughts before I ever did anything else. Getting control over the run away mind took some work. I'll be honest that for me, that was probably the hardest part. I sat in pools of fear because I was afraid of everything. I had to learn how not t be afraid to simply exist. Sitting in the fear while learning to manage my mind was some of the most challenging work that I did on myself. The stuff I do now is a breeze in comparison. Of course, I stared down the fear so I'm not afraid of very much anymore. I taught myself this. I was guided through it intuitively and now I live it. It's my life and my life's work. It's the thing I offer to other people to help them feel better without needing to make massive changes to their lives if they don't want to yet. That's what I write about, what I talk about, and how I live. It's given me peace. It's made my life simpler. It freed me from the pool of fear I was drowning in. It offered me hope that I had the power to create something better for myself. Thanks for reading. If you're interested in learning more about self-mastery, just follow me along. I've got lots to say if the length of this post is any indication of that! Much love to all. Della
