perpetually distressed milennial

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❀ last updated: thursday, march 28th, 2024

❀ current concerns: why does summer camp cost so much??

❀ currently reading: nothing!

❀ currently watching: unfortunately, not the back of my eyelids

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❀ up next:

TBD: under me, over you [part two] (atsumu)

TBD: care collab (inui and/or maki)

TBD: confused bitch collab (denji)

TBD: commissions (sanzu | oikawa | taiju | frank castle)

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my teens don’t have cell phones. they aren’t supposed to have social media. but my oldest stays on ig and tiktok and my middle kid watches youtube like she needs it to breathe. kids will always find their way around rules; they’ll always cross boundaries. unfortunately, it’s how they learn.

the issue is that adult nsfw spaces should not be open to children, and minor nsfw spaces should not be swimming with adults. sixteen year olds are gonna be curious about sex, they’re going to experience arousal, etc. you don’t just wake up one day at 18 suddenly interested in sex like you’ve attained a new software upgrade. your curiosity starts (typically) in puberty and evolves as years pass.

sexual curiosity and exploration are inevitable pieces of the human experience.

it’s normal for teens to explore sexuality amongst their peers, especially in fiction! what’s not normal is the amount of them that think an adult space is the place to do it. parents can’t prevent their children from doing this, however, they can encourage and emphasize respecting boundaries and staying out of “mdni” spaces.

in that same vein, it’s also normal for adults to be uncomfortable by the thought of teens engaging in sexual/sex-adjacent spaces. i cringe every time a kid asks me about it! the abnormal part here is that some of you push a weird agenda of “no one should be curious or aroused before the age of eighteen”. it doesn’t work like that; never has and never will.

spend less of your time trying to make sure no minor sees a smut fic ever and more time focusing on curating a space that isn’t like to be infiltrated by one. at the end of the day, you are responsible for the content you engage with. all you can do is set clear boundaries and use your prefrontal cortex the way it was designed to be used.

girl not me being late as HELL; i am sooo sorry. i didn't even get a notification for this, like... how fucking ruuuude.

hello!!!! yes, hi!!! it is meeeeee. cas or clo is fine LOL i answer to both.