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What makes Caging your man so special is the resulting energy dynamic between you.  The interaction is key for both partners, it is what enriches the experience and the relationship.  For the Keyholder to maximize the pleasure (both ways) and control (one way), it is important for her/him to understand what her sub is experiencing.

I think many assume that Day 1 is like Day 3 is like Day 7 is like….except more horny.  My experience has been much richer than that.  Like anything in life that takes days or weeks, a Caging session is a journey. Day 1 is different from Day 3 is different from Day 7 is different from Day 21….

My perspective includes a decade of Caging and Denial sessions of three weeks or more. Throughout these sessions I have noticed a recurring cycle of emotions and physical challenges that each one brought to me. I assume each caged sub experiences something similar and, as his Keyholder, your working to understand his unique cycle will significantly amplify the experience.  And every Keyholder wants her sub to crave being caged. 

In this blog, I want to highlight the mental and physical journey that each locked session brings to me.  I will summarize them by ‘Day locked’ number.  For me, it is a very similar sequence each time, with some minor shifting of transition dates.  It is my hope that I can inspire Keyholders to understand her/his sub a bit better and take full advantage of him.  

I will talk about where my energy focus is at each stage, as it shifts in my body.  There may be some correlation to the Chakras of Indian philosophy, which I know nothing about. 

Full disclosure, I am moderately submissive, nothing approaching Sissy.  But I find caging pushes me to a deliciously submissive state; it is why I love it.  If left alone, I have a ‘once every third day’ sex/masturbate schedule.  If your guy needs sex more frequently, i.e. daily, I assume that will alter his cycle significantly.  But I assume the sequence of the cycle, i.e the energy shifts,  will be similar.

Day 1.  A day of possibility and unknown.  Always exciting, always special.  That first lock click always brings a smile.

Day 3.  Day three is my ‘want sex’ day and the cage seriously multiplies that urge.  Horny.  And very centered in my crotch.  This energy and feeling increases through the first week.  I am revved up horny, my groin is screaming, I feel aggressive.  I am a walking, talking cock.  Go easy on him this cycle, be sexy, touch him a little, but give him time to cool down.

Day 7.  Day 7 +/- 1 day is my first transition point.  Suddenly the energy has moved into my head.  I am horny, but my crotch is calm.  My brain is excited, full of fantasies and lust.  This is a lovely time for cat and mouse play.  Play with his mind, not his cock.  Tease his brain with scenarios, stories, porn he likes, how you will take him, etc.  This is when you sink the hook.  This period lasts about a week or more for me.  It is very excited pleasure.

Day 14.  Somewhere around the second or third week, Days 14-21, the energy shifts again, this time to my heart.  This is the ‘I love her madly’ zone.  This is what you, as Keyholder, are aiming for.  In this phase, I will do anything to please her.  Anything.  With no expectation.  I am horny but calmly so.  This is when the horny becomes submission.  I have surrendered totally to her now.  Slow, physical teasing in this phase is incredible.  Every touch is amazing.  A few nipple twists later I am a puddle.  This is my sweet spot and I could live here forever. And for the Keyholder, this is when you get full and exqusite control.  Daily oral orgasms on are the menu.

Day 21 and onward.  Eventually the energy settles in my abdomen.  I am calm, happy, subservient, devoted, cooperative.  But now is when the physical limitations of denial creep in.  My balls get sore, my nights are interrupted with massive cage crushed erections.  It becomes a physical challenge.  Big time Blue Balls.  

To go further, you have to tough it out, hope for a wet dream or take charge of it.  Prostate massage is a lovely way to reduce the pressure without orgasm.  Getting carefully pegged can accomplish the same.  I still remember the first time I dripped, dribbled and, ultimately poured myself out on the floor while Mistress slowly pegged me from behind.  If you can solve the physical needs, you can ride the wave as long as you like.  

1. You must take total control of his orgasms.

You must get him to wear a chastity device of some kind.

You should put it on him yourself and only you should hold the key.

Let him out at your discretion only and only for teasing or release.

Teach him that he must EARN his orgasms.

2. You must control your own feelings of guilt.

He should never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm without your permission.

If you feel he deserves an orgasm… Ruin it!

Remember, you can ruin several orgasms a day, but he can only have one full one.

Full orgasms should only happen on very special occasions.

3. You must get into his head.

Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.

Tease him with your words whenever possible.

Find out what embarrasses and humiliates him.

Use his humiliation fears against him.

4. You must keep him sexually aroused as much as possible.

Talk sexy to him.

Tell him you are going to make him do something humiliating.

Fondle him, or let him fondle you.

Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.

Make him give you orgasms frequently.

5. You must make him do something humiliating.

Make him wear a butt-plug in public.

Order him to be naked when you are not.

Make him masturbate for you.

Always, ALWAYS make him eat his own cum no matter where it is deposited.

6. You must punish him whenever he displeases you.

Don’t let him get away with anything!

Spank, paddle, or whip him.

Humiliate him in some way.

Put Bengay or Icy-Hot on his cock, balls, or anus.

Make him do what he hates.

7. You must find ways to constantly tease him, and keep him on edge.

Fondle him through his pants in public (or in private).

Whisper sexy or humiliating things in his ear.

What makes Caging your man so special is the resulting energy dynamic between you.  The interaction is key for both partners, it is what enriches the experience and the relationship.  For the Keyholder to maximize the pleasure (both ways) and control (one way), it is important for her/him to understand what her sub is experiencing.

I think many assume that Day 1 is like Day 3 is like Day 7 is like….except more horny.  My experience has been much richer than that.  Like anything in life that takes days or weeks, a Caging session is a journey. Day 1 is different from Day 3 is different from Day 7 is different from Day 21….

My perspective includes a decade of Caging and Denial sessions of three weeks or more. Throughout these sessions I have noticed a recurring cycle of emotions and physical challenges that each one brought to me. I assume each caged sub experiences something similar and, as his Keyholder, your working to understand his unique cycle will significantly amplify the experience.  And every Keyholder wants her sub to crave being caged. 

In this blog, I want to highlight the mental and physical journey that each locked session brings to me.  I will summarize them by ‘Day locked’ number.  For me, it is a very similar sequence each time, with some minor shifting of transition dates.  It is my hope that I can inspire Keyholders to understand her/his sub a bit better and take full advantage of him.  

I will talk about where my energy focus is at each stage, as it shifts in my body.  There may be some correlation to the Chakras of Indian philosophy, which I know nothing about. 

Full disclosure, I am moderately submissive, nothing approaching Sissy.  But I find caging pushes me to a deliciously submissive state; it is why I love it.  If left alone, I have a ‘once every third day’ sex/masturbate schedule.  If your guy needs sex more frequently, i.e. daily, I assume that will alter his cycle significantly.  But I assume the sequence of the cycle, i.e the energy shifts,  will be similar.

Day 1.  A day of possibility and unknown.  Always exciting, always special.  That first lock click always brings a smile.

Day 3.  Day three is my ‘want sex’ day and the cage seriously multiplies that urge.  Horny.  And very centered in my crotch.  This energy and feeling increases through the first week.  I am revved up horny, my groin is screaming, I feel aggressive.  I am a walking, talking cock.  Go easy on him this cycle, be sexy, touch him a little, but give him time to cool down.

Day 7.  Day 7 +/- 1 day is my first transition point.  Suddenly the energy has moved into my head.  I am horny, but my crotch is calm.  My brain is excited, full of fantasies and lust.  This is a lovely time for cat and mouse play.  Play with his mind, not his cock.  Tease his brain with scenarios, stories, porn he likes, how you will take him, etc.  This is when you sink the hook.  This period lasts about a week or more for me.  It is very excited pleasure.

Day 14.  Somewhere around the second or third week, Days 14-21, the energy shifts again, this time to my heart.  This is the ‘I love her madly’ zone.  This is what you, as Keyholder, are aiming for.  In this phase, I will do anything to please her.  Anything.  With no expectation.  I am horny but calmly so.  This is when the horny becomes submission.  I have surrendered totally to her now.  Slow, physical teasing in this phase is incredible.  Every touch is amazing.  A few nipple twists later I am a puddle.  This is my sweet spot and I could live here forever. And for the Keyholder, this is when you get full and exqusite control.  Daily oral orgasms on are the menu.

Day 21 and onward.  Eventually the energy settles in my abdomen.  I am calm, happy, subservient, devoted, cooperative.  But now is when the physical limitations of denial creep in.  My balls get sore, my nights are interrupted with massive cage crushed erections.  It becomes a physical challenge.  Big time Blue Balls.  

To go further, you have to tough it out, hope for a wet dream or take charge of it.  Prostate massage is a lovely way to reduce the pressure without orgasm.  Getting carefully pegged can accomplish the same.  I still remember the first time I dripped, dribbled and, ultimately poured myself out on the floor while Mistress slowly pegged me from behind.  If you can solve the physical needs, you can ride the wave as long as you like.