- right but men are statistically more likely to be murdered, so why canât he talk about feeling insecure about walking at night when heâs more likely to be murdered than you are? Why canât you talk about how youâre afraid to be raped and he talk about how heâs afraid of being murdered without you thinking heâs âtalking over you without taking your side into considerationâ? That kinda sounds like exactly what youâre doing to him. Why is your fear more important than his? And, also, because men are more likely to be attacked, that means his chances of getting murdered are greater than your chances of getting raped. Why is your fear of rape more important? And just because women are more likely to be raped, doesnât mean men arenât at risk of getting raped. Why canât you both be afraid? Why does your fear have to be the bigger issue? And just because youâre afraid of specifically being raped doesnât mean that rings true for all women and therefore feminism is necessary. Iâm a woman and not specifically afraid of rape and I donât understand why being specifically afraid of rape deserves a social movement. If we need social movements for these kinds of things, then shouldnât men also get one for their insecurities about being specifically murdered when walking at night? Besides, being cautious walking alone at night is a good habit because criminals exist. And even though women are statistically more likely to be raped the statistical chances of you getting raped while walking at night are very low.
- no the fact that you see a man follow you and automatically assume he is going to rape you is not why you need feminism. I would say feminism would only make that problem worse because it perpetuates that kind of thinking. You just seem to have paranoia of rape and that fact that you automatically assume a guy is going to rape you is not a social issue, itâs a personal one. Most guys arenât rapists so thereâs no reason to live in fear of being raped.Â
- is that what your school said? Your school used some form of the phrase âyou canât wear clothes that reveal your shoulders because itâs distracting boysâ? Or are you just assuming thatâs the reason?
- well, i canât speak to your family and why your mom does the things she does, but your family is not representative of the norm. I donât know where you live or what itâs like there, but, in general, most parents would have some level of concern about their children going out alone at night, whether they are boys or girls, and would have rules about it and make sure they have some form of protection with them. Itâs smart to carry pepper spray with you, whether youâre male or female. Besides, I would argue that itâs feminism that created this problem in the first place and would only make situations like this more frequent.Â
- no thatâs not normal behavior for boys, itâs normal for kids. Thatâs what feminism told you was normal behavior for boys and that they arenât taught that no is her final answer. Feminism does a huge disservice to men and boys in this area, thinking they arenât taught about consent and all that but itâs just not true. Itâs really unfair to just say this ânormal behaviorâ for boys. Your experiences arenât the rule. Iâve had experiences where Iâve told boys I donât want to dance and they were very respectful about it. Your experience is not whatâs normal. And itâs not because they are boys either. Some people will respect it, some wonât. This goes for girls too. It can be even worse with girls sometimes because feminism teaches them they will always be on the receiving end and wonât be the aggressor but itâs just not true.
- yeah i agree that what that dude was inappropriate and he was being a jerk and his family should have said something to him, but this is not a social issue. Youâre using this to advocate for feminism as if this is representative of society and itâs not. There could be a number of different reasons why his family said nothing, and youâre just assuming well it must be because of the idea that âboys will be boysâ. And yeah, in this instance it was a guy being a jerk. I mean do guys always barge into the room when youâre in the shower or was this a unique circumstance? Feminism is not the solution to this.Â
- how do you know they are raised to keep on going when someone says no? i mean do you literally think they are taught by the adults in their life that when someone says no, you can just keep going? Iâve known a lot of boys in my life and not a single one of them was taught that. I really donât like it when people say boys arenât taught about consent because, once again, itâs just true. Just because some people donât respect consent doesnât mean they werenât taught about it. Maybe it happening to you and your friends every time you go out has something to do with the places you go and the environments there because thatâs not representative of a societal norm. And you canât use personal experience to argue that it is because everyoneâs experience are different. You canât just attribute something like that to men in general just because itâs been your experience.Â
I really donât think any of this is sexism or inequality. And feminism is a movement that is full of double standards and really, in its practice, doesnât do much for equality so I donât know what it would accomplish in these instances. For the most part, I would say feminism is responsible for creating most of these problems in the first place.Â
