Hi there! This was so nice to see, I’m glad I came on today to check this blog. Thank you for being so thoughtful, pal.

hi! sorry that it took so long to respond to this message.

i did technically ‘make’ the shirt, but i didn’t place an order for any; it was more of just a fun thing to design. so, that is to say that i’m not selling it & as far as i’m aware, no one else is either.

however, it’s pretty simple to make. i just used this site http://www.customink.com/services/t-shirt-maker & you’re welcome to do one for yourself if you want. 

Hey there. I didn’t realize this was still in my inbox, so sorry for the late response!It’s a few hours away - not too far, but not necessarily close either. The plan is to go back exclusively for therapy either once a week or every other week, and either spend a weekend at home once a month or every other month.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

anyway, i chose 2-day shipping (it was free for the holiday weekend) so the case was set to arrive on tuesday. i checked the fedEX tracking, and it showed that the package was delivered on my doorstep yesterday morning - it was not. 

after being mildly/moderately distressed for an embarrassing amount of time, i looked up the number for otterbox customer service; called their colorado office; spoke to a customer service rep, and explained the situation. she was refreshingly kind, and phenomenally helpful -- the company is going to send me a new shipment that requires a signature, and she’s going to call fedEX to make sure the confusion with the town listed on the shipping address is cleared up.