Dear Mystery T

My mother was manic and I’ve never lived in a home for more than a few months. We constantly were moving and I only kept one friend consistently through my entire life.

Sometimes trauma has its ups and other times there are downs.

You are working harder than those who don’t have these same disorders or syndromes which make you stronger than everyone else.

My partner and I have been having issues intimately. I can’t seem to get out of my head during the whole thing. What should I do?

-Anonymous

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Dear Anonymous,

I’ve been there before. What I’ve done in the past is- in the middle of it all take a deep breath and remember all the good things in your relationship. I found it more of a turn on to be able to think of all of the romantic gestures. Be in that moment with them to allow them to show you the love they have for you. When you get in your head; just remember they made a commitment to you and love every part of your body. They are choosing you and only you. They are choosing you everyday. Now exhale and enjoy.

Love,

The answer is forever. Every month is a new death of a loved one, and yet another difficult hurdle to overcome.

You don’t forget the pain that this brings you. You become numb. After being numb for a while you spiral. When the spiraling is all set you take in the emotions again and then it becomes a vicious cycle.