hii  !  mrrp!  hello!

no dni. resources open to all. but i'm an adult and anti-endo. complex~neg darkship. anti-rq + complex~neg transIDs. anti-censorship. pro-consent + para, anti-c paraphilic disorders. int with this in mind. ty.

꩜ . dink doink

— my posts. text.

꩜ . ding dong

— asks

꩜ . knock-knock

— ask games.

rest is self-explanatory.

main is secret. active on there. sideblog @dear-dink for ask games by others. maybe more in future. jirais/jiraiblr also open to int. i take requests.

planned ask game themes:

﹕ sheep

﹕ pure vanilla cookie

﹕ sunday

﹕ dog

﹕ (extreme) sadism

﹕ (extreme) masochism

ask game series planned:

﹕ pokemon types

╰ ◌ 𝖜hite lotus﹕ compared to when you were a child, would you still consider yourself innocent, in a sense? not yet defiled by the world and the awful people in it?

؛༊ 𝖍ousewife﹕ what sort of domestic tasks do you imagine yourself doing, if any, with/for your obsession/darling? do you have a personal favorite, or one that's apart of your love language?

╰ ◌ 𝖈rybaby﹕ was there any a time you've purposefully acted more pathetic for sympathy, or to get someone on your side? do you view it as demeaning but useful, or is it pleasing how well it works?

؛༊ 𝖇lood parasites﹕ what's the most invasive thing you would do to your obsession/darling, whether to stake a claim or to keep tabs on them? would you regret it in any way?

╰ ◌ 𝖇east﹕ if not white and open about it, have you faced any intersectionality when it comes to being a yandere and your race? do you feel as though you face more discrimination or become less attractive to others due to not being a 'desirable' race, or perhaps because of it?

؛༊ 𝖇lackening﹕ are there any exes or friends that have permanently changed you for the worse with their actions? is it something you've internalized and come to accept, or something you're still trying to heal from?

╰ ◌ 𝖌reater good﹕ has someone close to your heart ever hurt you, or let you suffer for the greater good? so you can learn a lesson on your own? is it true, or do you feel as though you went through needless suffering?

؛༊ 𝖆byss﹕ during the worst period(s) of your life, was there someone there to support you, or did you go through it on your own? do you feel stronger having made it through it, or simply more 'blackened' in your soul?

╰ ◌ 𝖋ive years﹕ what is the longest you've had to wait for your obsession/darling, whether it's being separated from them, or for them to become yours in the first place?

؛༊ 𝖏ūn shàng﹕ even having experienced an influx of attention from anons, a plethora of asks, a mountain of interactions in your inbox, would you trade it for the gaze of your obsession/darling?

╰ ◌ 𝖘tallion protagonist﹕ does the gaze of others that aren't your darling ever become irritating on your blog, even if you're knowingly posting on a public platform? how has this shifted with your blog's size, if at all?

؛༊ 𝖗ival﹕ do you tolerate the existence of rivals, secure in your position and wanting to see your obsession/darling choose you over them, or is their very existence an insult?

╰ ◌ 𝖜ives﹕ compared to past relationships, does your current obsession/darling (platonic or not) stir feelings in you that you've never felt before?

؛༊ 𝖉umbfuck author, dumbfuck novel﹕ did your darling have to grow on you, or perhaps even started as someone you disliked or felt indifferent to? what caused the change?

「 “ 𝖝īn mó ” 」 your emotions are cataclysmic in their intensity— and in turn, your control of them is beyond impressive.

「 “ 𝖉isciple ” 」 i enjoy learning from your blog and posts, they help me feel more in tune with my feelings.

「 “ 𝖈ongee ” 」 each posts of yours is warm and filling... i check your blog often, and take in each morsel you give me hungrily.

「 “ 𝖙ea ” 」 i hope that all those who plot against or refuse to accept you meet a horrible fate.

「 “ 𝖗ed veil ” 」 i wish nothing but the best for you and your obsession/darling (romantic or otherwise), it's a delight to see, and even more lovely for you to post about.

˚಄ 𝖆ngel ﹕ relative to the idea of being an angel, do you align more with being a guardian over something mortal, or an extension of a divine being? both, neither? in any of these scenarios, do you subjugate yourself to your charge/deity, or undermine them with your own will?

୭. 𝖘avior complex ﹕ when it comes to saving others, do they truly require it, or is it out of selfishness? do you use flaws or imperfections as a 'gotcha!' when in reality, they aren't truly debilitating or harmful?

˚಄ 𝖔rder ﹕ when coming to certain decisions, are you willing to sacrifice someone's autonomy for their prolonged safety? can you save from the bottom of your heart and from a place of honesty that it doesn't come from a place of selfishness, and rather a convoluted idea of acting as someone else's guardian?

୭. 𝖍armony ﹕ a crucial facet of human beings are their individuality— do you wish for your 'bird' to sing along with your melody, or is their individual song something you wish to cherish, that intertwines in your own to create a new harmony?

˚಄ disorderly noise ﹕ how would you react to your obsession/darling acting out in a way that they know would upset you as a way to grab your attention? would a misguided attempt for your gaze make up for itself with the intent, or is it something solely to be corrected?

୭. 𝖆 thing with feathers ﹕ is your obsession/darling a reflection of your own 'hopes', or is it something you wish to shepard them towards?

˚಄ 𝖈aged bird ﹕ would you rather build a cage for your 'injured bird', or build a nest and leave it outside? if something happened to it while in your grasp due to your actions, could you live with yourself? if something happened to it once freed, could you live with yourself?

୭. 𝖈onviction ﹕ what is a core value of yours, both as a yandere and outside of that? how does it affect your perception of others?

˚಄ 𝖆 soul boy ﹕ are your mindsets and convictions entirely your own, or something influenced by childhood experiences? is it something you've internalized and took ownership of as you've grown older, or is it something you wish to molt?

୭. 𝖈hildhood dream ﹕ have you cast away your own childhood dreams, or do your cradle them close to your heart?

˚಄ 𝖕aradise ﹕ is your personal paradise something within reach/here, or something still far away? is having a darling something you feel that is necessary to said paradise coming to fruition?

୭. 𝖋amily, unto ages ﹕ is your 'family', whether it be friends or chosen family, apart of who you are as a person? could you imagine your obsession/darling ever wanting to genuinely drive a wedge between you and them?

「 “ 𝖈age ” 」 i want to you be safe within my arms, sheltered from the world.

「 “ 𝖋reedom ” 」 seeing you flutter among others hurts, but your happiness fills me with joy in turn.

「 “ 𝖉omesticated ” 」 reading your posts is chipping away at my own resolve— your promised dream is something that tempts me like no other.

「 “ 𝖜ild ” 」 the idea of your dream is tempting, but one i'd love to fight you every step of the way.

「 “ 𝖜onweek ” 」 every facet of you is fascinating and adored. i wish to learn even more, if you'd let me.

۫ ⟡˖ 𝖘ome call it— how important is stalking as a part of your love language, or fixation on your obsession/darling? do you do it unknowingly, or wait for permission?

͙͡ ⟡٠࣪ 𝖇lade ﹕ when it comes to your emotions, are you good at bottling them up, or do you lash out at others? are they a tool, a motivator when it comes to your obsession/darling, or something to be hidden away?

۫ ⟡˖ 𝖜edding day ﹕ is marriage something important to you, whether it comes to 'soldifying' your relationship or as a life goal you wish to have for yourselves? does it matter if it's legal/official, if so?

͙͡ ⟡٠࣪ 𝖇irth ﹕ do you want to have kids with your obsession/darling one day? if so, do you care whether they're adopted or not?

۫ ⟡˖ 𝖛irgin ﹕ is being your obsession/darling's first for anything important? taking it? are you saving any of your own for The One?

͙͡ ⟡٠࣪ 𝖋amily ﹕ would you ever introduce or show your obsession/darling to your family, if only to rub your happiness in their face?

۫ ⟡˖ 𝖈ompetition ﹕ if there's competition for your obsession/darling's love (platonic or otherwise), do you bottle it up, or 'deal' with it? if it's the latter, how direct are you about it?

͙͡ ⟡٠࣪ 𝖗eplacement ﹕ is your obsession/darling their own person in your mind, or are they (if not past obsession/darlings) there to fill in a hole left by something/someone else?

۫ ⟡˖ 𝖑imerence ﹕ are you able to tell the difference between obsession vs. fixation vs. limerence vs. love? do you sometimes ignore the former three, if only to pretend you're happy and in love?

͙͡ ⟡٠࣪ 𝖏ealousy ﹕ how prone are you to jealousy? is it something you're so familiar with that you've grown desensitized to it in a sense, rather than actually feeling it to a lesser degree?

「 “ 𝖒ine ” 」  i wish to tie myself irrevocably to you, where we shall become apart of one another.

「 “ 𝖞ours ” 」 i'd dedicate myself to you if i could, if you'd only let me. i can show you that i'm the one, i promise.

「 “ 𝖜atching ” 」 i enjoy lurking on your blog. all your blogs. everyone you associate with. perhaps even more. every morsel of information is something i devour greedily.

「 “ 𝖑oner ” 」 your blog makes me feel less alone. it's nice to know there's someone like me.

「 “ —𝖎 say walking ” 」 i hope something more extreme wouldn't frighten you off. i promise that i don't bite.

𖹭◞ 𝖕urity﹕ if you've dated someone before, do you feel as though having less of your 'firsts' affects your value? has someone even stated such to your face?

◟𖹭 𝖘hepherd﹕ have you ever been devoured by the shepherd, instead of the wolf? how close were you to your personal 'shephard'?

𖹭◞ 𝖍erd dog﹕ is there a herd dog in your life, helping to keep you on the straight and narrow? are they a wolf that muzzles their desires and carries out the role?

◟𖹭 𝖉omestication﹕ how much would you let your darling/obsession change you? are you the one doing the domesticating?

𖹭◞ 𝖑ivestock﹕ without going into explicit detail into what each of these 'actually mean' and leaving it up to interpretation, what role do you have from the following: sheep bred for mutton, sheep bred for wool, pet lamb, shepherd, executioner, herd dog. are you open to explaining why you picked the role you did?

◟𖹭 𝖋lock﹕ amongst everyone else in yanblr, do you feel as though you are lost in a sea of similar people? especially with submissive yanderes, does it ever seem like there are so many similar to you that it seems hopeless to ever find someone who truly wants you, and not the gratification of your attention?

𖹭◞ 𝖘afety in numbers﹕ do you seek out others similar to yourself for acceptance and safety, or is it something you shy away from?

◟𖹭 𝖇lack sheep﹕ what do you think makes you stand out amongst others in yanblr, whether good or bad?

𖹭◞ 𝖘laughter﹕ has there ever been another 'lamb' in your life that you had to be the personal executioner for? were they actually a wolf?

◟𖹭 𝖘acrificial lamb﹕  have you ever sacrificed your own well-being for someone else? do you regret it?

𖹭◞ 𝖏udas' goat﹕ was there ever a time you specifically got close to someone only for your own desires, such as getting closer to your darling/obsession? has anyone ever done the same to you?

◟𖹭 𝖒isanthropy﹕ if being a lamb is something a bit more literal or personal, how does it affect your perception of greater humanity?

𑜷 ؛ 𝖇oundaries﹕ in your relationships, do you manage your symptoms by setting boundaries, or do you view them as stifling?

ྀི؛ 𝖈luster-b﹕ do you think having a cluster-b disorder (especially BPD) effects how much people perceive you as a "true" yandere? have you ever had someone pursue you and be shocked by the intensity, despite knowing?

𑜷 ؛ 𝖈odependancy﹕ is codependancy something you wish to mutually have with your darling and/or FP, or is it something to be managed?

ྀི؛ 𝖈omorbidity﹕ if you have other cluster-b disorders, does their comorbidity effects your day-to-day more than people expect/imagine, even from the yanblr community?

𑜷 ؛ 𝖎dealization﹕ are you able to recognize your idealization, vs. the 'average' idolization that comes with your obsession? do you associate it as one and the same?

ྀི؛ 𝖉evaluation﹕ what is the worst someone has been devalued in your eyes? have you ever hit devaluation so cataclysmic that it permanently effected your perception of a person, even after your episode finished.

𑜷 ؛ 𝖊nabling﹕ do you want those around you or your darling to encourage your symptoms, or do you instead seek validation of your feelings and help managing? do you ever find yourself wanting both at times, or shifting between them?

ྀི؛ limerence﹕ how often, if ever, have you ever mistook limerence for 'true' obsession?

𑜷 ؛ 𝖋avorite person﹕have others ever reacted in a 'strange' way to finding out that they're your favorite person? as if that makes them special, for someone with your mental disorder to be picked above everyone else, or as if it's only a positive.

(note: assumingly, this is different to a yan taking pleasure at being the most valued/prioritized in your eyes, although there can definitely be overlap.)

𑜷 ؛ 𝖗outine﹕ is enforcing a consistent routine/expectation in your relationships something that helps bring stability/control, or do you view it as too outright controlling/overbearing to burden someone with?

(note: those that have comorbidity with asd/adhd are expected to have different responses to this. this is specifically talking about routines when it comes to managing bpd.)

ྀི؛ 𝖆bandonment﹕ do you ever find yourself distancing from people— including your obsession/darling/FP, if not especially them —so that the 'inevitable' abandonment will hurt less? has this ever led to the exact thing you've feared?

𑜷 ؛ 𝖎ntimacy﹕ is it difficult for you to make connections with 'regular' people, whether it be those without the disorders you have, or those that aren't a yan?

ྀི؛ 𝖍ostility﹕ have you ever clashed badly with someone who also has the disorders you have, or is a yan due to differences in ability to manage symptoms? even differences in acceptance of the severity you experience and present?

𑜷 ؛ 𝖎solation﹕ do you prefer to isolate yourself from your obsession/darling/FP when splitting, lash out at them, or talk through your feelings? have you tried to do the third post-episode, only to be lashed out at in turn for being honest about what you were experiencing and thinking at the time, even if you don't feel the same now that it's over?

ྀི؛ 𝖘electivity﹕ have you ever had someone react positively to idealization, but negatively to devaluation, even if both extremes are bad? has someone been uneducated or abusive to the point of encouraging idealization, because it seemed to make them feel good?

𑜷 ؛ 𝖊xtremes﹕ is there anyone in your life who has accepted/sought out both extremes? did it come from a place of understanding, or a yan who wished to experience the full spectrum of your vitriol, whether it be good or bad?

𑜷 ؛ 𝖘elf-egulation﹕ does the yandere community and the expression of your feelings help regulate your symptoms, or enable them? do you care if it does the latter?

ྀི؛ 𝖗ecovery﹕ are you seeking recovery when it comes to your BPD, or do you seek to be more self-destructive? is there a middleground, where you currently manage while knowing that it's unhealthy? do you care?

𑜷 ؛ 𝖋etishization﹕ in a community that's already fetishized, do you feel as though your personality disorder makes you even more of a commodity to gawk at? to make someone feel good? to preen at having the attention of? how has this shaped how you interact with the community?

𑜷 ؛ 𝖇egging﹕ how do you feel about about those on yanblr who openly beg for someone to be obsessed with them in their asks? despite not all yanderes being borderline, do you feel as though it makes a mockery of and romanticizes your personality disorder in a way that is ableist, or is such a notion blowing things out of proportion? do you think that even other yans who have BPD are capable of (possibly) being ableist in this way?

(note: (->) EXCLUDING JIRAIBLR AND THE DIFFERENCES IN WANTING ATTENTION THERE, BUT INCLUDING THOSE WHO BEG FOR OBSESSION SPECIFICALLY (<-).

this also isn't talking about wanting obsession in general, or obsessed4obsessed.)

ྀི؛ 𝖞anblr﹕ what is the most ridiculous treatment of BPD that you've seen/experienced on yanblr? whether this be a post, or how someone has interacted with you.

ㆍಇ. 𝖈ookie﹕ what does being a cook- yandere mean to you?

𓏲ּ𝄢ㆍ 𝖑ight of truth﹕  how important is the truth to you? is its important different when it comes to being a yan and your relationship with your obsession/darling vs. IRL, or it it similar across the board?

ㆍಇ. 𝖍ealer﹕ was there a significant event that led up to you being a yandere, or a prolonged journey to coming to where you are/acceptance?

𓏲ּ𝄢ㆍ 𝖗ecluse﹕ is being a yandere something you hide, even on yanblr? how much of your true feelings/personal truth do you hide to better fit norms, both on tumblr and IRL?

ㆍಇ. 𝖉aydream﹕ do you close your eyes to the issues present between you and your obsession slash f/o? is it something you're aware of, but ignore in the wake of your obsession/love?

𓏲ּ𝄢ㆍ 𝖈ompassionate﹕ what is an important truth or revelation that solidified your existence as a yandere, something that you can share with others who are newer or still struggling with the idea?

ㆍಇ. 𝖑ove & peace﹕ do you ever feel guilty for having selfish desires of any kind, and in turn repress them for the benefit of your obsession/darling?

𓏲ּ𝄢ㆍ 𝖘avior complex﹕ are the people you obsess over someone that you feel the need to fix, rescue, or save with your love? that you will be able to 'fix' them as a person, or any perceived flaws that make them not quite 'perfect' of an attraction?

ㆍಇ. 𝖎deation﹕ is obsession used as a stopper to ignore passive suicidal ideation? does a fixation on others provide a temporary 'fix' to your issues, and help you feel complete?

𓏲ּ𝄢ㆍ 𝖔rchid﹕ similar to vanilla orchids giving pure vanilla cookie his main flavor, if you were a cookie, would being yandere/yandere-adjacent be one of your main 'ingredients' if you were a cookie?

ㆍಇ. 𝖚nderstanding﹕ do you feel as though you truly understand the people around you (including your fellow yanderes), or do you tend to unintentionally project your personal understanding or worldview unto others?

𓏲ּ𝄢ㆍ 𝖘hared hardship﹕ at your lowest, during your worst episodes, do you shoulder the burden on your own, or find solace in those around you?

ㆍಇ. 𝖔ne-sided﹕ do you have lingering feelings for someone you know will never reciprocate? does it affect your ability to form relationships with other people?

𓏲ּ𝄢ㆍ 𝖈reme﹕ is your legacy on yanblr something that you think haunts you, even if you never asked for it or did anything explicitly wrong? has the tale changed as it was passed?

ㆍಇ. 𝖒essiah﹕ have those around you put you on a pedestal you never asked for, whether it be friends, partners, or followers, past or present?

𓏲ּ𝄢ㆍ 𝖆cademia﹕ do you place more value in studying a concept to gain knowledge, or knowledge via experience? which has benefited you more, as a yandere/on yanblr?