Bisexual’s Thoughts

Yes, that’s possible! Called heteroromanric bisexual. Definitely a thing. If that’s what fits you best, that’s ok! That’s a thing!

Hi, I don’t see why other people’s comments on something should make you question your emotions or attraction toward other people. Sounds like you’re bi.

Do you mean bisexual culture? I’m going to assume that’s what you mean, but correct me if I’m wrong.

Whether or not you resonate with or feel the importance of bisexual culture has almost nothing to do with whether you are actually bisexual or not. Just want to clarify that from the outset - so it doesn’t invalidate you in any way.

If it feels kind of lonely for you, you can spend some time doing these two options:

1) look up bisexual history, learn some facts

2) interact with a bisexual community, like on tumblr, and get a feel for the culture.

It doesn’t need to be important to you, but if you want something to talk about when you’re interacting with other people, then you’ll have that. And if it’s really really not important to you, then just don’t. Just enjoy your attraction to multiple genders and get on with your day.

I would recommend finding some bisexual friends, though. That usually helps with the loneliness and helps you automatically have a sense of bisexual community and culture in a way that is more personal.

No, that’s ok. It’s possible you’re homoromantic bisexual. Or just that you’re bisexual and have a preference. Both are ok and don’t disqualify your bisexuality. So no, not weird.

First off, congratulations on figuring out you’re bi!

Oof yeah that’s a tough one. All of the straight female friends I’m out to are very supportive and it doesn’t bother them at all. And for most of my straight female friends that don’t know, if they do know and it bothers them, I’ll be honest, I don’t really care anymore.

But I hear the fear. For instance, I’m not out to my roommate who I’ve lived with for the past two years and will probably live with for a few more. We’re friends, but I don’t know if it would make her uncomfortable, and it’s just more convenient for me not to have to deal with it. So I hear you.

If they’re your good friends, they shouldn’t be uncomfortable with it and they should support you. (Of course that doesn’t mean that’s necessarily the case, I know.) My advice: pick one of them you trust the most and come out to her. See what her reaction is. And leave that for a few days. See if she makes you uncomfortable. And if she’s not, then great, you’ve got a support system and you’re one step closer to your goal.

Yeah, I hear that. First of all, I actually think there’s a difference between a bi person calling themselves gay and a non-bi person calling bi characters gay.

I used to be very adamant about the “I’m bi, not gay, and calling me gay is basically equivalent to calling me straight.” I’ve seriously loosened up about that, though. I will never tell someone that I am gay as an identity type thing - I’m clear about the fact that I’m bi. But I will describe certain things I do as gay or myself when I say or do or thing certain things as gay. But I know I’m bi and anyone I’m saying that to knows I’m bi and we know I’m not redefining my identity, but describing certain aspects of what I do and like.

Calling bi characters gay is just full out erasure, because people mean it. And it drives me crazy. For instance, when people started calling Casey from Atypical a lesbian? I went nuts. She is clearly bisexual and they’re just erasing her feelings for men for convenience. That’s not ok.

Ok:

1) I’m so sorry that happened to you and that you were in a relationship with someone who was not supportive of your bisexuality. I understand how that would be discouraging and make you feel badly about yourself. My guess is you also felt pretty terrible about yourself when they said that to you, especially because they were someone whose opinion mattered to you at the time, and now you’re afraid that if you come out to someone again, you’re going to feel the same way, and you want to avoid feeling like that. Which makes sense emotionally - the fear.

2) so I think you realize this but it is NOT OK for someone to tell you not to talk about your sexuality. Especially your significant other. Not ok.

3) if you like more than one gender, youre bi. That’s it. You also like girls? Great, you’re bi. Same, girl.

4) I hope that you’ll one day feel confident to come out to someone again and to talk about your bisexuality and the people you like, proudly. If someone isn’t supportive of you, that’s more of a reflection of them than of you, no matter how terrible it might feel for you. Avoid those relationships you can, and pursue ones with kind, genuine people, who also support you.

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Girl I Used To Be In Love With: awww we were so plantonically in love with each other.

Oh I am NOT the right person to ask this question to. I have no idea.

Things to ask yourself: Do you fine women romantically and/or sexually attractive in the first place?

Hi! You’re bisexual. That’s it. Don’t feel a need to question that.