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I'm not joining another Thоmas and Friеnds server on Discord again, unless I'm given explicit permission to do so.

I joined a server today because I found an invite in a public Tumblr post. All I did on the server was give minimal info about myself, verify and take a color role. A few hours later I found I wasn't there anymore.

If I got thrown out because I'm known for making NSFW content - I mean, I could understand that, but technically I didn't break any rules, particularly I didn't post any NSFW content on the server, I didn't have a NSFW avatar or nick either.

If I got thrown out for being a proshipper: 1) I looked through the rules, and as far as I remember it doesn't say that proshippers aren't allowed. I didn't even SAY I was one on the server or in my Discord profile, nor did I post anything proship adjacent on the server. 2) Being a proshipper means you do not harrass other people for fiction they make, even if it involves dark topics. People writing about or drawing something doesn't mean they'll do it IRL.

You weren't thrown out because you make nsfw content. You were, however, thrown out because you post shameless incest artwork.

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Enablers often act as intermediaries for abusers, engaging in bargaining, manipulation, and coercion to force victims into compliance and maintain the abusive status quo

. They frequently act as a "good cop" or a "mediator" who invalidates the victim's experience, often demanding the victim "be the bigger person" to avoid conflict. 

Common Bargaining & Manipulation Tactics by Enablers

Forced Compromise: Enablers may try to force the victim into couples therapy, "date nights," or other superficial fixes that ignore the core abusive dynamic.

Coercion and Threats: They may threaten to withdraw financial support, love, or housing to force compliance with the abuser's demands.

Minimization and Gaslighting: Enablers often tell victims they are "too sensitive," "dramatic," or that the abuser was "just joking".

The "Bigger Person" Ploy: Enablers use this phrase to shame victims for having normal reactions to abuse, pressurizing them to suppress their feelings and accept mistreatment.

Shifting Blame: Enablers may act as "Rescuers" in the drama triangle, trying to fix the situation in a way that ultimately serves the abuser's needs.

"Keep the Peace" Mentality: Enablers often urge the victim to endure abuse for the sake of family harmony, acting as a "meat shield" to prevent the abuser from targeting them. 

Why Enablers Bargain Enablers are not always innocent bystanders; they often share a "codependent" or "enmeshed" relationship with the abuser and may have internalized the abuser's traits. Their actions are driven by a need to: 

Protect Themselves: By keeping the victim compliant, they avoid being the target of the abuser's rage.

Deny Reality: They may genuinely not understand the severity of the abuse or may be in total denial, often acting out of fear or a desire to maintain a false image of the family. 

Enablers are sometimes considered "secondary abusers" because they actively facilitate the continuation of abuse, often making them as dangerous to the victim's safety and mental health as the primary abuser. 

You forgot the bit where you didn't want to have the civil conversation you wanted and blocked me because you don't like when you get any pushback, and would rather sneak into spaces you were banned from to make things worse on yourself.

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Enablers often act as intermediaries for abusers, engaging in bargaining, manipulation, and coercion to force victims into compliance and maintain the abusive status quo

. They frequently act as a "good cop" or a "mediator" who invalidates the victim's experience, often demanding the victim "be the bigger person" to avoid conflict. 

Common Bargaining & Manipulation Tactics by Enablers

Forced Compromise: Enablers may try to force the victim into couples therapy, "date nights," or other superficial fixes that ignore the core abusive dynamic.

Coercion and Threats: They may threaten to withdraw financial support, love, or housing to force compliance with the abuser's demands.

Minimization and Gaslighting: Enablers often tell victims they are "too sensitive," "dramatic," or that the abuser was "just joking".

The "Bigger Person" Ploy: Enablers use this phrase to shame victims for having normal reactions to abuse, pressurizing them to suppress their feelings and accept mistreatment.

Shifting Blame: Enablers may act as "Rescuers" in the drama triangle, trying to fix the situation in a way that ultimately serves the abuser's needs.

"Keep the Peace" Mentality: Enablers often urge the victim to endure abuse for the sake of family harmony, acting as a "meat shield" to prevent the abuser from targeting them. 

Why Enablers Bargain Enablers are not always innocent bystanders; they often share a "codependent" or "enmeshed" relationship with the abuser and may have internalized the abuser's traits. Their actions are driven by a need to: 

Protect Themselves: By keeping the victim compliant, they avoid being the target of the abuser's rage.

Deny Reality: They may genuinely not understand the severity of the abuse or may be in total denial, often acting out of fear or a desire to maintain a false image of the family. 

Enablers are sometimes considered "secondary abusers" because they actively facilitate the continuation of abuse, often making them as dangerous to the victim's safety and mental health as the primary abuser. 

You forgot the bit where you didn't want to have the civil conversation you wanted and blocked me because you don't like when you get any pushback, and would rather sneak into spaces you were banned from to make things worse on yourself.

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If you're going to argue with people, USE YOUR OWN WORDS. You're a grown adult.

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Enablers often act as intermediaries for abusers, engaging in bargaining, manipulation, and coercion to force victims into compliance and maintain the abusive status quo

. They frequently act as a "good cop" or a "mediator" who invalidates the victim's experience, often demanding the victim "be the bigger person" to avoid conflict. 

Common Bargaining & Manipulation Tactics by Enablers

Forced Compromise: Enablers may try to force the victim into couples therapy, "date nights," or other superficial fixes that ignore the core abusive dynamic.

Coercion and Threats: They may threaten to withdraw financial support, love, or housing to force compliance with the abuser's demands.

Minimization and Gaslighting: Enablers often tell victims they are "too sensitive," "dramatic," or that the abuser was "just joking".

The "Bigger Person" Ploy: Enablers use this phrase to shame victims for having normal reactions to abuse, pressurizing them to suppress their feelings and accept mistreatment.

Shifting Blame: Enablers may act as "Rescuers" in the drama triangle, trying to fix the situation in a way that ultimately serves the abuser's needs.

"Keep the Peace" Mentality: Enablers often urge the victim to endure abuse for the sake of family harmony, acting as a "meat shield" to prevent the abuser from targeting them. 

Why Enablers Bargain Enablers are not always innocent bystanders; they often share a "codependent" or "enmeshed" relationship with the abuser and may have internalized the abuser's traits. Their actions are driven by a need to: 

Protect Themselves: By keeping the victim compliant, they avoid being the target of the abuser's rage.

Deny Reality: They may genuinely not understand the severity of the abuse or may be in total denial, often acting out of fear or a desire to maintain a false image of the family. 

Enablers are sometimes considered "secondary abusers" because they actively facilitate the continuation of abuse, often making them as dangerous to the victim's safety and mental health as the primary abuser. 

You forgot the bit where you didn't want to have the civil conversation you wanted and blocked me because you don't like when you get any pushback, and would rather sneak into spaces you were banned from to make things worse on yourself.

🫡 Message received.

A narcissist often views anyone connected to the victim as an extension of the victim, particularly when those individuals act as a support system or challenge the narcissist's narrative

. This behavior stems from their inability to see others as separate, autonomous individuals, treating people instead as props in their own internal "theater production". 

When a narcissist feels their control or reputation is threatened, they often project their anger and blame onto the victim’s friends, family, or colleagues. Why did Ms. Gresley have to resort to wanting screenshots? She wants evidence of your behaviour. You blocked her and a few other people because you don't want her to share the truth.

A narcissist’s refusal to allow evidence of their behavior to come to light is a core defense mechanism designed to protect their fragile, false persona and maintain control over their environment

. When confronted with proof of their actions, they do not engage in rational debate, but rather utilize manipulation tactics—such as gaslighting, projection, and rage—to destroy or discredit the evidence. 

Here is a breakdown of why narcissists refuse to let evidence come out, and the tactics they use:

Why Narcissists Suppress Evidence

Protection of the "False Self": Narcissists live in a curated fantasy where they are superior, special, and perfect. Evidence of mistakes, cruelty, or betrayal breaks this illusion, forcing them to confront a reality they cannot handle.

Avoidance of Shame: Deep down, they suffer from extreme insecurity. Admitting fault would trigger intense, intolerable shame, which they avoid at all costs.

Control over the Narrative: The goal is to dominate, not to resolve conflicts. By denying facts, they keep the partner in a state of confusion, submission, and self-doubt.

Maintaining "Supply": They require external validation to feel good about themselves. Exposure risks losing that admiration from others. 

Tactics Used to Destroy/Suppress Evidence

Gaslighting: Directly denying reality, even when shown proof (e.g., "That never happened," "You're imagining things").

Projection: Accusing the victim of the exact behavior they are being accused of.

"Rewriting History": Aggressively insisting on their own version of events until the victim starts doubting their own memory.

Smear Campaigns: Attacking the character of anyone who presents evidence, painting themselves as the victim and the evidence-holder as "crazy," vengeful, or lying.

Narcissistic Rage: Responding to evidence with intense anger, threats, or silent treatment to intimidate the person into silence.

Ignoring Reality: Acting as if the evidence does not exist or that it is irrelevant.

And by doing this, as well as siding with the narcissist behind her back, with your dishnesty, you made civil conversation impossible! Who would want to trust you? You proved that you couldn't be trusted.

A narcissist saying one thing while doing another is a manipulative tactic used to maintain control, avoid accountability, and distort reality. This behavior, often called “mixed messages” or “double talk,” serves to keep others disoriented, creating a chaotic environment where the narcissist is not held to their own rules. It is frequently a way to maintain a false, superior image while acting in their own self-interest. 

Key Reasons for This Behavior:

Manipulation and Control: Narcissists use promises to gain trust and then break them to maintain power, often using gaslighting to make you doubt your own memories.

Self-Absorption: They are so focused on their own immediate needs that they may not be paying attention to what they previously said.

Projection: They may accuse you of things they are actually doing, allowing them to control the narrative.

Selective Memory: They only remember, or choose to remember, what supports their current narrative or desired outcome. 

Examples of This Behavior:

False Promises: Promising to change or do something in the future, but never acting on it.

Contradictory Actions: Expressing love or care in words while withholding affection or acting cruelly.

"Bait and Switch": Acting like one person initially, then showing a completely different, abusive side.

Gaslighting: Denying they ever said something, even when presented with proof. - This are the tactics you and some of your friends are engaging in.

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Ok. I get it. You are going through some pretty bad shit right now. And I'm sorry. I'm very sorry for whatever's happening behind the screen that none of us can see.

BUT

This does not in any way validate the way that you are handling the situation. You are acting VERY immature and are dragging people, including MINORS, who want absolutely NOTHING to do with the situation. You have NO IDEA what these people could be going through. Someone could have lost a family member or are just at their goddamn breaking point, and you choose and harass them without second-thought because they liked a post from someone you don't like or you had a disagreement with them once.

All of this could've been dealt with in DMs. All of it. Or you could've just ignored it.

Alright? Me and a few others (who I won't name for their safety) TRIED to help you from the previous drama, like ACTUALLY GENUINELY TRIED TO HELP YOU. And you promised that you wouldn't pull stuff like this again. But here we are.

You need to step away from the screen and look into the real world to see what damage you're causing to others. You only choose to see yourself and praise your outrageous actions.

Ask yourself this question: would you go up to a random minor who you do not know and start belittling and harassing them because they like something that you don't or they said something that doesn't sit right with you? I doubt it. So what makes you so confident about doing it here?