Coining a new label: fantasmist.
A fantasmist is someone with transition goals that can be generally described as non-earthly (although not necessarily in an alterhuman sense), unrealistic, and contradictory. They are typically met with lack of understanding, hostility, and conversion attempts from those who are typically pro transition.
A fantasmist may be of any gender identity, body, and presentation. Being a fantasmist represents the idea that allowing yourself to unapologetically want things that seem beyond reach or almost beyond reach may be a more fulfilling way to be that trying to mold your feelings to be happy with something that seems simpler to get.
If you ever had any of the following said to you while having your transition goals criticized:
- "testosterone is a male hormone/estrogen is a female hormone and you should not use them if you don't want to look like an average man/woman"
- "transition will make you look like your mom/dad, not a fictional character/creature"
- "you have to pick transition goals that are real humans of your ethnicity, your age or older"
- "the procedure you want to get is not real transition"
- "the procedure you want to get is too dangerous"
and you still find yourself wanting to be the way you always have, and the thought of transitioning towards more conventional ideals feels barely more satisfying than not transitioning at all, this might be the label for you.
I also want this label to represent not just an experience, but a culture of behavior towards each other. To my mind, when it comes to interacting with others, a fantasmist will either abstain from being involved with their transitions or help them make informed choices and find methods that work for them. A fantasmist will never shun someone for desiring to transition, including if this person is severely dysphoric about the idea of having something the fantasmist wishes to have. Likewise, a fantasmist will never speak negatively about what others look like, only themself.
With this all, I would like to see more development of atypical transition strategies, and us being able to get what seems impossible for now. I know a lot of things are out there, just suppressed and hidden under social stigma.