This is coming from a kid who’s teenage abuser didn’t get charged but instead underwent intensive psychiatric treatment and came out wholly apologetic and horrified by what he’d done to me. Our relationship is different now but he’s still in my life and guess what? It took therapy on my end too but i frankly love him. He’s still a part of my family circle. 

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if you’re the kind of person who would constantly swarm someone you don’t like with images of their trigger, then please get off my blog. block me. go jump off a cliff. idc. bc i don’t want to associate with bullies who’d do shit like that. if you don’t like someone then block them and move on. be a goddamn adult.

also, if you’re the kind of person who would then make a “positivity blog” where the mascot of said blog is the same animal that triggers the person that was having those images sent to them as an attack, then you need to get off my blog too. you know what you’re doing. you can hate a person and not then go ahead and post things meant to send them into full-on panic attacks.

Whilst I understand wanting to chase toxic, abusive and dangerous people from a safe community I think some of you need to take a small moment and remember that fictional content is a form of exploration and understanding.

Yes. There are gross people who fetashize, who use dark topics as a way to worm into things they shouldn’t. I understand that, entirely.

But whilst you’re all hopping on every blog who breathes something you don’t agree with, can we take a second to remember that it is incredibly common for survivors and mentally ill people to turn to dark, problematic or messed up fiction as a way to understand, work through, dissect and rationalise their abuse?

There are people writing Topics you don’t like as an outlet for their incredibly bad days and this instant demonisation of anyone who writes something you don’t personally agree with? It’s not creating a safe space, or a safe environment.

And the funny thing is, people do not owe you an abuse check list card for you to decide they’re abused enough to be allowed to write it. You have no right to demand someones trauma to validate your control over their content. How would you feel if someone asked you to prove your history in order to find an outlet for your abuse? If you truly understand then you’d understand why that isn’t alright. 

People will take advantage of dark fiction, I’m not going to argue with you. Except that people will take advantage of anything, childrens stories, safe spaces, the purest content you can imagine will be twisted at some point. Some people are absolute pricks about it. Some of its triggering, some of its uncomfortable.

Again, I get it. 

But you do not get to turn around and place your personal comfort levels onto everyone around you as a way of controlling your area.

Whilst some people cope through completely blocking out, turning from and needing no contact with their abuse (understandable) others need a fictional outlet to handle thoughts they can’t handle otherwise.

Writing fiction with dark, problematic content is a safe, taggable, block-able way for people to have an outlet. You’re taking a safe space from survivors on the off chance you’ll catch someone abusing the system. That’s not helping anyone, gatekeeping doesn’t fix anything.

Making your space safe for you is important but so is respecting other people’s. If someone on tumblr is a genuine danger, a proven danger, then contact law enforcement or report it to the appropriate authorities, they’ll decide from there. If however you are placing the lives of not real, not harm-able, not living fictional characters above the realities of real people? I think you need to sit down and ask yourself if you’re actually trying to help people or control your space.

Your trauma does not give you the right to dictate other people’s trauma.

Fiction is not real. Yes, it effects people in real time However just like it triggers you, it helps someone else. It’s your responsibility to be safe on this site, it’s parents responsibility to protect their children from finding or seeing that content (Adults deserve safe spaces also, remember that) and it’s the bloggers responsibility to tag and not take over.

I’m the last person to tell you to ignore dangers, what I’m saying is that if you’re actively searching triggering content as a way to force people to censor themselves for your contentment? You’re only harming yourself, that’s an incredibly dangerous habit.

That is a form of self harm.

So leave dark/problematic writers alone. There are people who abuse the system but you’re not the police, you’re not a militia who can actually prove anything, stop anything or change anything. Do you not think on what happens when people lump everyone together to find one needle? As someone in the mental health system I know what it’s like to loose help to people who are turning their nose up at maybes, ifs and potential takers.

Donate to survivors charities, go out and do marches, help REAL people instead of worrying about NOT REAL people.

Survivors who cope through fiction are as valid as survivors who escape through it, neither of us should be forced to stop coping. From one survivor to another: What makes your trauma more valid than mine?

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 You don’t need to have a “survivor card” to be “allowed” to write anything.

 This isn’t presumptuous, it’s respectful of the fact that forcing an entire bloody society to stick their collective heads in the sand about matters that affect the people within it, is not going to change anything for the better. It’s just going to cause those issues to fester unspoken about, because everyone’s too ashamed to talk about it. Because everyone’s obsessed with being that pure, good community where nothing like that ever happens, to the point where any skeletons are kept locked firmly out of sight.

 It’s worth noting that there’s a long and storied literary tradition of using fiction to address social ills, as a way to critique the problems within a society and to raise awareness of ways in which things can be improved. This is an important and eye-opening facet of fiction, as not only does it allow social issues to be brought into popular discourse, but it also gives an opportunity to do so without anyone having to come forth with painful personal accounts.

 And also… the more taboo something is, the more fascination it garners. Like the cookie jar that’s placed tantalisingly out of reach of a child, forbidden things become all the more intriguing because you want to know why, or - as is often for me with my strongly antiauthoritarian leanings - you think that the individual or organisation withholding the thing is being patronising, nannying, and doesn’t think that you’re capable of making informed decisions for yourself. After all, there’s a point where someone who thinks that they’re “protecting” others from the world ends up stifling those they care (too much) about.

 Which, ironically enough, can easily become a form of abuse. It’s controlling behaviour. And more often than not, the “arguments” put forth consist largely of appeals to emotion, AKA: guilt tripping. More often than not, this incites me to anger and disappointment than feelings of guilt or pity; and whilst this isn’t particularly diplomatic, I don’t consider calls for censorship to be something worth tolerating. It’s fine to ask for things to be tagged, to look for ways to filter content that you don’t want to see - for whatever reason - because that’s you exerting a healthy amount of control over your own boundaries, and not impinging on the right of others to express themselves.

 Yes, there are cases where subjects that should be handled delicately have been treated with all the care of a rampaging bull, but that warrants critique, not an outright ban on all material of its kind. To censor it all would be to silence sympathetic and nuanced voices.

 The vast majority of interpersonal conflict-based fiction needs “problematic” characters doing “problematic” things for there to be a plot at all. Not everything should be the same fluffy interactions again and again, for that would get boring quickly. And even Man vs Self and Man vs Nature plotlines are likely to have the characters wrestling with their own inner demons. (which again, aren’t going to be all hearts and sparkles.