Hi first things first. I hope your blog blows up because you are doing some incredible work for this community.
Two. It would mean THE WORLD to me if you would help me with something. The thing is, I’ve been at shifting for 6 years and have never shifted (embarrassing, I know). For the past year and 1/2 though I’ve gotten *serious* about this and tried persistently. My DR is practically identical to my CR. The only difference is that my retainers are in. Last year I had a little breakthrough where I was half asleep with my eyes closed and felt my retainers in (meaning…I was in my dr)! Then I would proceed to strain, or reach, try, whatever, to fully wake up in my dr, with NO success whatsoever.
I’ve recently come to the conclusion that I’ve probably just been lucid dreaming, and I’m wanting to pick myself up and move forward with a new way of doing this and succeeding! I’ve been having this near-shift/lucid dream experience for a year/over 50 times now and it has been hard. There have been many tears. I just want to be pointed in the right direction. Can I receive some guidance from you? Your thoughts on a routine I can do, anything? Honestly I just need help. If you don’t read this long ass, sad ask I understand, but if you have read it…thank you for hearing me and your (possible) thoughts! 🫶🏾
First of all, thank you so much for reaching out, and for your words(yipee), they genuinely mean a lot. Also, don’t worry about the length of your ask, I have time ahead of me, I’m not about to shift off to another just yet(or maybe?), so let’s break this down together.
Reading through what you shared, I see a lot of dedication and effort, and honestly, that’s super duper cool already. You’ve built up solid skills (lucid awareness, partial body sensations, affirmations, even some hypnagogic cues), that’s huge progress, don’t minimize it. It shows your subconscious is capable of vivid states, which is half the battle won.
I really recommend you check out my blog on "how to shift from a lucid dream" if you haven't seen it.
That said, here’s what I’m seeing as potential "blocks":
1️⃣ Emotional exhaustion & over-efforting
When you push too hard and need it to happen, you trigger hypervigilance, your critical faculty stays active. Think of it like a stubborn bouncer at the door of your subconscious. The more you knock, the more it says, “nope.” That’s why you hover in lucid dream states without a full shift: your nervous system is still in “try” mode instead of “allow” mode at the key moment.
2️⃣ Anchoring to the current body
Feeling your retainers or body details means your proprioception is still locked into your CR. That’s a super common partial shift symptom. Basically, your brain is keeping an anchor on this timeline because a part of you fears total identity disconnection (which is normal and protective).
3️⃣ Repetition frustration loops
Six years of attempts, and the stress of “it still hasn’t worked,” unfortunately train your subconscious to associate shifting with struggle, not ease. The subconscious is a pattern-matching machine, so that association can sabotage you, even if consciously you want success.
But what can you do then?
Take a real break. Stop trying for two to three weeks. I know that sounds scary, but it resets your nervous system. See it like a recalibration. During that pause, focus only on relaxing your body and mind.Do daily meditation without trying to shift just to observe your thoughts, learn to let go and take care of yourself.
Practice self-hypnosis, guided or by yourself. Instead of commanding “shift now,” do suggestions like:
"My subconscious is ready to explore new possibilities.”
“I trust my mind to guide me.”
Say these gently, while deeply relaxed, in a trance state.
You can also listen to this list of affirmations that I find very suitable for your case without trying to shift, just listen and integrate.
Talk to your subconscious directly.
Yes, literally. In a light meditative state, imagine sitting with your subconscious as if it were a person and ask:
“What are you protecting me from?”
“Is there something you need me to know before I shift?”
Then just listen to what pops up,even if it feels silly. Sometimes this reveals hidden fears.
(Remember you and your subconscious are one you are not separate)
You can also listen to that video.
Use more dissociative priming.
Instead of standard affirmations, experiment with:
→ These help unhook you from the CR identity without brute force.
->You can also go see my last post on holotropic breathwork.
Replace “I need to shift” with “I’m exploring the path to shifting.”
Replace “I hope I shift” with “I am curious about how it happens.”
This tiny language change softens the critical faculty.
You are close.You just need to guide it past the final resistance. And remember, your subconscious is on your side, it just needs to feel safe enough to release control.
I believe in you, truly. 🫶 And hey, if no one told you today: you’re doing an amazing job even trying, because showing up for yourself like this, again and again, is no small thing, sometime you don't need to do more you need to do less to catch that inner release.
If you want, you can message me again anytime with updates,you know I’ve got time.