This is gonna be a rant because I need a new tag for this shit
I hate how enforced relationship “rules” are
As someone who’s cluster B and on the spectrum I don’t get social cues, and my relationship is between my boyfriend and I, no one else. We’re 50/50 not 49/49 waiting for some dork to give their 2 cents.
I trust my boyfriend and I know he trusts me because we’ve been together going 3 years, there’s no secrets or anything hidden. we’re still growing as people and changing to keep what we have, we’re both freshly 18
So to have social rules implemented like “you can’t wear short skirts or tank tops” or “you can’t go out without me” is so stupid to me. I trust my boyfriend, he can wear and go where he wants because clothes don’t make you cheat, going outside doesn’t make you cheat and the social pushing of that is just people being insecure and pushing it onto and ruining relationships.
I’m autistic so I try to lean to social cues and rules but it’s really just ended up hurting my boyfriend and myself.
Cause guess what, love isn’t obsessing over my partners past or obsessing over who he hangs out with because if he didn’t want me he’d be gone. If I wanted to hate myself so badly I’d go on EDTWT not a corny ass TikTok .
Love is us showing up for eachother and staying at our best and worst and trusting eachother
TLDR ; pushing social media and its dumbass rules into your own relationship will ruin it, love isn’t as complicated as tiktok or whatever app makes it seem.