☆Clarke Griffin deserves happiness with Lexa kom Trikru☆

Like literally the sketchiest thing we’ve seen her do is stare at a chess set for a minute. And like? That could have meant anything???? Otherwise she’s saved the city several times now, giggled at her own jokes, and been a soft adorable nerd who cries when her bestie thinks she might be guilty.

These are all people who had kids because it was ‘the next logical step’. Like they have this mentality of ‘Marriage? Check. House? Check. Well, guess we better have kids!’ And then bring small dependant humans into the world…and get upset when their lives are inconvenienced or changed as a result.

It really saddens me because there’s this damaging culture of children being part of the standard. So people who shouldn’t be parents (and I mean that in the simplest of terms - not in a judgemental way, but a ‘it’s just not for you’ way) feel pressured to have children and regret it. And then the poor child grows up feeling like a burden.

It’s not fair on anyone. The parents, the children.

As a post on this site once said - children and the decision to parent should be ‘hell yes or hell no’. If you think for any reason at all that you might not be big on raising kids, do not actively go out of your way to have kids. Having them won’t magically make you want them.

All the people I know who wanted - really wanted - their kids and to raise kids have said ‘it’s difficult but I LOVE it. I love being a parent.’

Can we please eliminate the idea that parenting should suck? And that having children is a necessary part of adulthood?

And can we please eliminate the idea that people who don’t want children are somehow lacking? And that those who do want children are doomed to misery?

“As the father of no daughters because I’m literally in 8th grade, I think sexual harassment is bad.”

But the reason my mom stayed married to him for so long was because everyone was always saying how divorce is awful for the kids and it ruins their childhoods and such. It was only when she realized that by staying married to him, she was actually allowing him to continue harming us did she finally decide to get us all out.