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So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.

So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.

So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.

This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 

So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.

Disclaimer: I think Maddie did a fantastic job

Alright y’all, PREPARE YOURSELVES: The first half of this movie is absolutely trash because there is literally no plot. I was so bored. The only exciting moments were the 2 minutes that Maddie popped on the screen with her beautifully tragic and pained eyes. But then she was gone, and I was left with Naomi Watts playing her xbox and neglecting her children.

I’m 198% convinced that Xbox payed Colin to have their console in the movie. The damn Xbox got almost the same amount of screen time that Maddie did.

The movie’s attempt at showing the unhealthy co-dependent relationship Henry and his mother shared was painstakingly horrendous. I guess Colin was going for the whole 

But it really ended up being more like

^ ACTUAL GIF OF NAOMI WATTS PLAYING HER XBOX So alright then Henry begins his journey to death, and this is where the movie gets super sad and really good. t was so emotional. Jaeden slayed this role. He deserves all of the awards :(

So we then find out that Henry has this plan for his mom to kill the child abusing police commissioner who is doing something to Christina (we don’t know what) because Henry  is 6 ft under. Alright cool. Plot has begun, action scenes commence. BUT THEN, we get to the part where Henry’s mom decides that Henry was right and she does have to kill the police commissioner. So YADA YADA , she sets up, and right as she is about to kill him… she steps on something and trips.

……………..

YOU LITERALLY WERE SETTING UP A GUN AND THE SCOPE AND THE SILENCER BUT NOTHING TOLD YOU THAT MAYBE YOU SHOULD MOVE ALL THE SHIT OFF YOUR FLOOR THAT YOU COULD TRIP ON WHILE YOUR 45 MINUTE MURDER PLAN WAS UNFOLDING. SO AS ALL OF THIS IS HAPPENING, the talent show is taking place which leads me to the dance scene.  I couldn’t tell you that it was the most amazing scene because the person filming it was having a certified seizure. The camera angles were so horrendous, I thought they had hired a 4th grader with a drone to save money. Maddie was giving us great facials and emotion but I couldn’t see any of it clearly. It was like the director told the camera guy to go to the back of the auditorium and when he tried to zoom Colin said NO! THIS IS WHAT WE NEED. EVEN THOUGH WE PAID THE CHOREOGRAPHER LETS NOT SHOW ANY OF THE BEAUTIFUL TURNS OR MOVEMENTS

So  anyway fast forward, the police commissioner finally gets whats coming to him and Christina is saved. AND CHRISTINA GETS NO LINES. LIKE LITERALLY ZERO. I think she says one small thing, like thank you or something. SO, This whole entire movie is about saving this girl and she literally has a total of 8 sentences in the movie. BRUH.

AND THEN, when the movie concludes WE STILL DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT KIND OF ABUSE SHE WAS A VICTIM OF????!!!! Lets think back to the trailer… THE TAG LINE OF THIS MOVIE IS “Never leave things undone“

In the end, Christina moves in with Peter and his mom, Henry is still dead, and i guess everyone is over it because the mom has two kids again. #blessed