"im a misandrist but not in a terfy way"
theres no feminist way to be a misandrist that doesnt bleed into terf ideology.
if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be racist towards men of color.
if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be ableist towards disabled and/or neurodivergent men.
if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be intersexist towards intersex men or intersex people that look like men.
if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be transphobic towards trans women who don't want to pass or cant pass for whatever reason.
if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be transphobic towards trans men.
if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be exorsexist towards nonbinary men or nonbinary people who might look like men.
if youre a misandrist, i dont fucking trust you. you are not an ally to me or to marginalized people.
if your reaction to systematic oppression is to redirect everything you have suffered indiscriminately to the inverse group, you are doing nothing but perpetuating the very same cycles of abuse and caricaturization you were subjected to.
I'm not perfect. I've strayed from my dharma and indulged in spite and hatred in the past as a maladaptive way to process the pain and hurt of being betrayed by the potions of society that have held power over me and exploited that to my detriment .
But that's not the type of person I want to be, and not the type of person I care to associate with.
There is strength in gentleness. There is widsom in compassion. And there is justice without cruelty.
