Repeat after me

FOREPLAY IS YOUR FRIEND!

Hold up … why are y'all afraid of a little lube????

Condoms are your friends.

Oh and your energy is everything.

Omg please stop expecting people who have no to little experience with sex to be doing magic tricks with you.

Regarding that last one. I’ve had one too many straight men listen to me say that most of my sexual experience is with women and still get disappointed that I find blowjobs difficult. Like, dude, this is not the kind of oral I’m used to, give me a minute before you start jabbing my gag reflex. Also that they just expect it and don’t even ask what I want.

Porn ain’t real life. I say this especially to the women that are becoming sexually active. You will not be able to do a split on the dick the first time. You will not be able to deep throat dick without practice.

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Re-reblogging to add from (painfully) personal experience: vaginismus is a thing. It’s not your fault, if you have some form of it. It doesn’t mean you’re hopelessly broken. It doesn’t mean you suck at fucking. It just means you’re going to struggle with some stuff more than other people with vaginas, and so many people with vaginas have this problem and don’t address it properly because they don’t know they can. Same shit above applies, except more. Go slow and demand patience. Learn your own muscles. Learn what works for you. Use TONS of lube. Advocate for yourself. Possibly talk to a doctor if it’s real bad. You deserve to have sex that doesn’t hurt.