Bits And Pieces

It’s okay to wonder how they are doing without wanting them back in your life.

It’s okay to take a long time to move on from them. 

It’s okay to feel hurt when they move on sooner than you expected.

It’s okay to miss parts of them that your new partner lacks. 

It’s okay to have baggage from your relationship with them.

It’s okay to miss them.

It’s okay.

Hello sweeties! A few days ago an anonie asked me how I got over my past relationship, especially while being in recovery. I must say, it is not easy and like my teachers say, it is like mourning. I’ve learned a lot of things on dealing with heartbreak so here they are ♥

Accept the feelings: Especially if you’ve had a long/meaningful relationship, breaking up will be an explosion of feelings and general crappyness. Depending on the causes, they can be sadness, anger, hatred, emptiness, loss of interest in life, you know the deal. It is okay and completely natural, and it will do us good to accept it.

You will not heal overnight:  Allow yourself to mourn this ‘death’. Know that you won’t have as much energy to do the usual things, or that maybe you’re going to want to go out everyday with your friends to try and forget them. Personally, I felt like time was never going to heal it, but it will, trust me.  

Accept your memories:  It’s impossible to erase memories unless you’re in those movies or black mirror episodes with high-tech stuff. You will listen to that song again on the radio, and maybe you will cry when you do. When you first break up, I suggest staying away from all the memories (erasing songs, etc.) to help you get over the relationship. 

It is not your fault: Things happen. Unless you deliberately hurt them or did something major, the break-up is not because there’s something wrong with you. Maybe it was the wrong person, or the wrong time. 

You have learned a lot: Focus on the good that came out of this relationship. You learn from the other, and vice versa. We start to know our weaknesses, our virtues, our likes and dislikes, etc. Relationships are a crucial part of human development and you’d be surprised of how much they make us grow. 

Give yourself love: Take time to pamper yourself, to go out to eat, to play games, to catch up with old friends, to watch a movie, or drink hot chocolate. Whatever you do, be gentle with yourself and spend your time with lovely people who understand!

*I wrote each one of these personally, so please don’t repost. I hope this helps you, I promise you’ll survive this! If you have any questions, don’t hesitate on messaging me ^_^ © freepic icon