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Restricting the definition of who a label/concept can be applied to falls under the same philosophy that the systems that oppress the disabled fall under.

That is to say - restricting access so that imagined invaders and "appropriators" won't get in.

The endo "invaders" are not oppressors in any fashion. Hating them because our oppressors "won't take us seriously because of them" is joining the war on the side of the oppressors. It's only fighting ableism until the oppressors call out a target that's easy enough to punch down on.

We, as a community, can be better, more compassionate than that. Is this truly what being "radical" is? Stop punching down. For your own sake, too. Is this really the "good fight" you want to win? To remove all the "weirdos who don't belong?"

To my friends who still feel hurt, I understand. But the people you are fighting do not want to hurt you. They just want to understand their own individual human experience. If they are angry at us, they are not in the wrong. You know that rage, too, at being told that what you are is not real, or is impossible to take seriously.

You have been taught to value an idea of a "real" experience based in science. But that science is so limited. The DSM-5 is not a bible, it is written with the intent of treating us, making us more palatable, "worth our place in society". It is not something we should be thumping to ward off "impure" things. We do not need purity. We do not need sanctity. We need safety and community, so we need to build it.

If we view endos, willos, or any type of system as a pest, we will choke ourselves with pesticide to eradicate them. This is not kindness. This is not acceptance. It is cruelty.

Plurality, often also called multiplicity, is "having more than one self in the mind and body" (Eve & Parry, 2021).

Plurality "is not a diagnosis" (Eve, et al., 2023) and is "a broader concept than DID" (Christensen, 2022).

Plurality is "a broad term, which encompasses a range of experiences" because "people have individual conceptualizations of what it means to be ‘more than one’" (Eve, et al., 2023).

Plurality is "a term coined to be more inclusive than only that of traumagenic multiplicity" (Christensen, 2022).

Not all people who experience plurality will identify as a 'plural' or 'multiple.' Plurality is a useful umbrella term for the experience of more-than-oneness "but not necessarily a term reflective of one's identity or self-expression" (Christensen, 2022).

"[N]ot everyone who identifies as multiple will want or require mental health intervention for the condition they experience" (Eve, et al., 2023).

The concept of non-traumagenic plurality does not hurt DID research. "[T]he research confirming DID as a trauma-based disorder is doing just that: confirming traumagenic DID, the disorder, not Plurality, the identity . . . Distinguishing between the two does not need to invalidate either" (Christensen, 2022).

The idea that plurality is inherently disordered is a product of Western culture. "Within Western linear frameworks . . . there has been an emphasis on the ‘healthy self’ being integrated and whole" (Eve & Parry, 2021). "In indigenous cultures, esp. shamanic societies, a polypsychism (i.e. many selves) prevails" (Scharfetter, 2008).

Being alterhuman is conceivable but endogenic plurality is inconceivable? Hm.

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I asked the question: Why would anyone who wasnt dysphoric go through this unless for attention? I accused them of stealing resources from 'legitimately' trans people. I accused them of being transphobic. Of wearing my identity as a costume to feel special. I had stories of a single individual nonbinary person who hurt me that I used to paint all nonbinary people as predatory. I accused happy trans people of faking because how could they like how they look and find joy and whimsy in what was to me nothing but suffering and pain.

Many of my abusers were fat. I don't hate fat people or want fat people not to exist.

Many of my abusers were part of my nuclear family, including my stepmom. I don't hate traditional families or stepparents or think they shouldn't exist.

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Fyi liking and reposting shouldn't count as dni to begin with

Dni should be specifically for interactions such as messaging or attempting to befriend, unless it's like, a minor liking and reposting nsfw

I don't give a fuck if someone likes or reblogs my stuff, but don't fucking message me if I say not to

This especially applies to the really bullshit stuff on dnis that's like "don't interact if you like this thing!!!"

Me liking something should not determine whether or not I can like a post, like, that's so fucking stupid it's insane

Are you that much of a whiny baby that you can't handle someone having a different opinion than you?

Sometimes people like that stupid anime you don't like

Sometimes people like that romance book you think is weird and gross

Sometimes people watch stuff with jokes you think are unfunny or in poor taste

Sometimes people write shit and draw stuff you don't like

That doesn't mean they have to avoid you

If something bothers you, you have to take care of it

It's your responsibility to manage your triggers and squicks in the wide sea of the internet