a slandered shallow stream

what I mean: "friendship" is as much a social construct as "romantic courtship," and you discover this very quickly as a queer person if you try to talk to able bodied straight cis people who literally think the only thing that counts as Actual Friendship is following each other on social media, like they call non mutual followers "oomfs" it's so dire. various people have a lot of vested interest in cleanly defining "friendship" vs "not friendship" for a whole slew of reasons (ex. distinction between public and private relationships, conferring the social clout of respectability and popularity, finding and closing loopholes about talking v.s. bonding, deciding what relationships "count" as serious friendships, ligating what is normal friendly behavior vs invasive violation vs trauma dumping, etc.), and it's really not something you can just fall back on as obvious common sense that people are dumb for questioning.

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We've been struggling to get our basic needs covered, we have no water, our daughter got her hair mutilated by her grandpa, we had to flee to a hotel 2 times during last month because he's been a danger for us, i lost my healthcare and im still in the paperwork to get it back and a couple days ago our trans daughter started peeing blood, is in pain and has shown signs of infection.

She already got checked by a Dr but he recommended an urologist very urgently. She already underwent surgery last year, there is a chance it was badly done or a new issue.

So, can we get help for her? Her birthday will be soon

We need $125 for the appointment with a trans friendly urologist, then we will have a diagnosis.

We were able to pay rent and fill our water tank, we hope the shortage ends and we don't have to get bottled water daily. We'll keep you posted.

I've been offering spanish conversation classes online, just taking time off until I can make sure my father-in-law won't sabotage those with his shouting.

A friend and mutual is offering commissions to help us if you're interested.

Also check our throne, we have some urgent lists of needs for our chronic pain/illnesses if someone can help us with that too.

$85/$800

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