Tbh I don’t see what that voicemail guy said that was so bad! He basically said ‘I would like to test our physical connection before investing more time in this relationship, otherwise if that’s a deal breaker then we should cut it off, because this is as far as I’m willing to go without knowing if we are physically compatible or not’…which is fine??
I think its ok for someone to have dating expectations and as long as they are honest upfront (and don’t spring such ultimatums on people while they are in their physical presence or alone together, because that can be coercive) I don’t know why its a problem.
‘He was being rude’ I don’t really see where he was rude, ‘I don’t see the point of coming over’ wasn’t ment to say that she was boring and he didn’t find value in spending time with her beyond physical intimacy or w.e ya’ll have contrived it to mean, it just ment that he was not willing to move forward with the relationship without that physical connection tested and that is OK?
I feel like people want to both be mad at their ladylike sensibilities being offended by a man having the audacity to ask for sex so brazenly (like it or not, this is the puritanical values most of us have been raised to internalize, and also in the throws of its resurgence, rearing its ugly head), and also pretend that they want full honesty when it comes to maters of sex. If we are being honest, there was no way that guy could have stated his desire, without it being an issue, even if he was as nice as a prince, because I think most of the vitriol is coming from the ‘What do you take me for’ notion and that can’t be helped with softer language lol.












