He Loves Me Not

First off, I just want to apologize for the delayed response!!Now, as for your question, i think that you can ask a person for the story as many times as you want, and you can point out that you constantly catch them in lies and that it hurts you deeply when you find out about their dishonesty, however unless someone wants to change, you can't change them.

It took my boyfriend a really long time to learn this lesson. My best advice to you is to to go with your gut and trust yourself, because right now, you can't trust him.

If you believe that he is right for you and that with enough patience you could finally get him to decide that it is time to grow up and stop lying to you, then stay with him, and fight through the tough times,

If you don't think that he can stop lying to you, then it is time to move on, because someone who can't be honest with you, does not respect you.

I'm going to be very honest with you, and tell you that if you choose the first option, it will not be easy. You have gotten to the point where you expect that he is lying to you, because that is what he has shown you time and time again. So, if things work out and he makes a change for you, it will take a very long time for you to stop assuming that he is lying and start to trust him again, and that is okay and totally understandable.

I wish I could make the decision for you and help you work through this with ease, but everyone is different, and every situation is different as a result of that.

The best I can advise for you is to trust that you can make the right decision for yourself. You are much stronger than you may think in this moment, and you are going to make it through this awful situation in one piece no matter which direction you choose to go in.

Please message me again if you need any more advice dear <3

If you are experiencing/have experienced something similar to what I blog about, please feel free to message me if you need advice or simply a place to rant about whatever is bothering you. Whenever I receive a message, I answer back as soon as I can and also with as much respect as possible for the person who has chosen to open up to me. I know that if my blog is relatable to you, than you are in a very vulnerable place right now, which is why the only messages I will answer publicly are those that have been submitted anonymously. Any other message I receive will be answered privately, out of respect for the person posting it, unless I am asked to do otherwise.

My situation has been getting much better with time, and as that continues to happen, I want to slowly transform this blog from a place where I expressed my sadness to a place where I can offer my empathy and advice to those who have been put in similar situations.

I am willing to help wherever I can because I know how difficult these situations are and how helpless and lonely you feel sometimes because of it.

So please, if you need advice/a listening ear, don’t hesitate to ask for it. I promise that I will offer as much help as I can.

This is the most difficult aspect about being betrayed by someone you trust. I experienced the same feelings. It is easiest to place the blame on ourselves, instead of taking the time to realize that it was the actions of the other person that were wrong, and that there is not anything about ourselves that is flawed or needs to be changed.

The only thing that is "wrong" with you, dear, is that you apparently have a knack for picking out boys (not men, because no cheater is a true man) who have not yet learned to appreciate and respect you for all that you are. And trust me, you are not alone in this habit, and its not your fault in any way.

We are unfortunate enough to live in a time where immediate satisfaction seems to be of utmost importance, meaning that anything that takes time is scary for a lot of people. When it comes to relationships, it feels as though lasting a year together is a miracle, when really its not much time at all in the grand scheme of things. We live in a time where cheating seems so normal that we tend to almost shrug it off when it happens, and that is something that has got to change.

So I suggest that you take the time that you need to mend yourself. Surround yourself with things that make you happy and with people who support you and will be understanding towards you during this fragile time. However, do not for one second, think that you are worth any less because of this experience.

Just because this boy decided to try and break you, does not mean in any way that you are broken, or meant to be broken.

You are strong, you are lovely, you are beautiful, and you WILL make it through this and find the right man who will know what it truly means to treat you the way that you deserve to be treated.

The best part about this, is that one day you will look back on this guy, and all the other guys who wronged you before, and only be able to smile because you've got it so much better than whatever any of them could have provided for you, I promise.

Sometimes in life, things just need to fall apart, in order to make room for greater things to fall into place.

Making this blog helps me to cope with the bad memories. He has made wonderful changes for me, and we are still fighting to make this work because we want to be with each other. I am not dragging him along and he is not forcing me to stay, we genuinely want things to work out. I cannot help the fact that I am still deeply hurt by some of the things that he has done and that there are still days where those memories consume me. This blog is a healthy outlet for me because it is a way to let my feelings out without having to constantly make comments to everyone else in my life about what has happened. For them, these things have passed, and I feel guilty bombarding them with old pains of mine. This blog is not only a way for me to express my feelings, as it also serves as a connection for others dealing with similar issues. If you have noticed, I eagerly answer any questions that people have and offer any advice that I can. Dealing with this is not easy, and it feels wonderful to be able to reach out to others who are struggling with this as well.I apologize if my blog comes off as annoying or unnecessary to you, but for me it is personally very helpful and also very fulfilling when I am able to make a connection with another person in need.